Stop buying things you do not need. Stop eatting out and trying to keep up with the other people who are trying to keep up with you. take inventory of what you already have and decide what your needs are instead of your wants.
Start saving and putting money aside for the things you need. Get rid of all your credit cards and get a debit card, it works the same way. this way if you buy it you can afford it ; if the money is not there in the account then you can't afford it and need to save more.
Live on a shoe-string budget for a while and see the cash flow in. This Holiday cut out buying for everyone and shorten your list. if you don't have be honest and upfront instead of charging it and paying for it later with a gig hole in your pocket believe me it won't be worth it in the in