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6 Reasons Why You Cannot Afford to Hate Others and Why Hatred Will Only Hurt You Back Every Time

Updated on March 21, 2014

Sometimes, we have feelings of hatred toward other people. During most of these situations, however, the matters that actually produce those feelings are so trivial that those matters do not even deserve our attention or time at all. But somehow, we tend to forget that and spend countless hours thinking about getting back at someone who may have hurt us in some way or the other. That is not always a great thing to do. Here are 6 solid reasons why you shouldn’t let yourself hate anyone, no matter what:

1. The people you dislike do not deserve to be in your thoughts

Hating someone will only ruin your mood and temper, and you’ll be in a bad mood for no reason at all. If you actually dislike someone, they don’t even deserve to ruin your mood that way. So it is best to just get rid of all those feelings that ruin your own mood.

2. Your ill feelings only affect you, nobody else

Did you realize that when you have feelings of hatred toward someone, the person in question doesn’t even know what you’re feeling? Only you know what you are feeling at any given moment, nobody else does. So having ill feelings is totally useless, because you are the only person who knows you are even having those feelings in the first place. The world around you is oblivious.

3. It is best to get rid of bitter situations and feelings as soon as possible

Holding grudges against someone in your heart is not the smartest thing to do. You see, if you forgive someone for his/her actions, the effect is immediate – you feel a strong sense of calmness and the person is no longer a priority, and there is no further action needed to be taken. The moment you forgive someone, it becomes a matter of the past – a chapter you don’t even have to open again. However, if you hate someone, and do something to hurt him/her, either physically or emotionally, it only extends the matter further, causing even more future troubles for both of you – especially you.


4. Your time is too important to be wasted on trivial matters

One thing you need to realize is that with all honestly, life is so much more important than just wasting time having ill thoughts about someone. Your time is more valuable than that, in fact, thousand times more valuable. Do things with your time which give value in return, not things which waste your time utterly and shamelessly.

5. Your reputation is sensitive, and you cannot afford to be careless

More often than not, when you have a rivalry or feelings of hatred toward someone, you tend to do things which hurt you reputation. For instance, you may talk about how much you hate that person when you’re hanging out with friends, ruining everyone’s mood, or you may do some stupid things which will only hurt your image in the long run in front of everybody. These are big risks to take, and not worth the consequences at all.

6. With smart people, you may win with logic or persistence, but with egoistic idiots, never

Even though someone may have hurt you or harmed you in the past, and you strongly believe that it was actually his/her fault, chances are, the person doesn’t even know that you hate him/her so much. And besides, even if he/she does know, it is very unlikely that he/she feels sorry for his/her actions at all. In his/her mind, the things that were done were okay to do. You cannot force others to change, they’re how they are, so don’t try.

I’m not saying that you let others push you around, or treat you like dirt or something of that sort. What I’m saying is that many a times, we waste too much time having ill thoughts about someone who doesn’t even deserve our attention. What I’m saying is that you need to decide if the person deserves your attention at all. If the incident that is leading you to feel all those negative emotions was a very tiny one, and it won’t even bother you after a month or so, then let it go. Forgive the person thinking that he or she is an idiot, and actually if you think about it, that is precisely the case. Do it because you’re smarter than him or her. On the other hand, if it’s really that important that it may hurt you even after a year or two if you don’t take any action now, then that’s a totally different matter, but such situations are extremely rare. So try to eliminate all the feelings of hatred or anger you have from your system in every single chance you get, because honestly, you are ruining your own happiness if you’re holding on to those feelings, and you’re an idiot for doing so.

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    • Masudul Hasan profile imageAUTHOR

      Masudul Hasan 

      3 years ago from India

      Thank you for stopping by! :)

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      3 years ago

      That really careupts the spirit of it. Thanks for posting.

    • Masudul Hasan profile imageAUTHOR

      Masudul Hasan 

      4 years ago from India

      Thank you so much! :)

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      Michelle Liew 

      4 years ago from Singapore

      You forgive, very much for yourself. I agree with this beautiful write. We cannot let hatred grip us.


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