- Politics and Social Issues»
- Social Issues
We all get OPM - other peoples money. But I suggest OPC - other peoples children.
Perhaps some of the slowest learners are portrayed here.
How about potty training. Bazarre!
Why would a punk 3 year old care where he craps? Just let loose the stream of piss and it feels great and dad will deal with it. Children will do what they will. Here are some understandings for a non-parent.
What kind of moron wants to give that up? There is no rational basis for a child to stop just crapping and pissing as they want. So we teach them irrational behavior. And that is where we parents begin to fry our rational brain. Just think what we say. You "should" pee in the toilet.
An adult is actually saying this to a child. Why should the child pee in the toilet? Because Daddy does? Because he swears the lid will not fall on him again? So that he can be a big boy? -- that one is horrible,, should he be ashamed of being a little boy?
There are only two reasons for a child to get potty trained. The cost of diapers and so he can go to preschool with children of his group. If he does not care about either he has no reason.
Just what does love have to do with it
Just get over it, it is not love that drives parents it is survival.
It is not obedience that drives children.
The three year old is smart. Daddy takes him to store for a "hot wheels". Daddy gives the boy the money to pay for it. At check out Daddy plops down the diapers. Lights go off in Junior's head. No not on, off --- it is getting dark. Daddy does not need to speak. All three people know that the boy's money will not cover the diapers and the toy. Looks are exchanged. A simple truth is spoken, "until we stop buying diapers, we will not have money for toys". From now on if you use the toilet instead of diapers -- well then, you understand.
So it takes three trips to really get it across. The parent learns patience and persistence and the child is not ordered, he is taught. He is taught, trade offs, value of money, sacrifice. But let me tell you non parent folks, the best lesson he learns are your patience, intelligence and thinking before spending.
In this lesson from our child we can reflect how we should treat others and how we want to be treated. A really cool part of parenting in this style is that it takes what can be a very emotionally charged issue and makes it common sense. We should do the same with others. It takes the drama out of it.
Personally I like to call this skill -- Toys for turds.
Limited offer, operators standing by.
You can get these lesson for a low one time price of 19999999 you can learn the secrets of parenting with out the experience and brain damage. Parents give up their lives to learn them but you can learn them in the comfort of your own toilet.
"that is a funny yellow"
Peeing inside is not natural for a boy. Peeing outside on the street is not good for a boy. Little boy's units do not drop down yet, when they sit. Little boys do not yet have the dexterity to anticipate where their urine goes. Nor do they care, and arguably they should not.
So when the first squirts burn your eyes and paint your walls, you have basically two options. Freak or Carry on as normal. Freaking will freak out your boy. Boys do not need to be freaked out while handling their own penis. That just is not healthy.
So we learn that sometimes in life we will get pissed on. How we handle that is our decision. Loud voices and startling actions are not helpful. Dealing with it in a calm method is very helpful, both to teach others not to piss on us and to teach ourselves control.
"Anticipation of disaster, helps prevent poor reaction" ed 2013