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Abortion: A Man's Choice!

Updated on February 3, 2012
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Are you for or against abortion?

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Abortion the definition!

Abortion is a really hot issue nowadays. It is all over television, especially since the Susan B. Komen and Planned Parenthood issue arose. People on the right have their opinion, people on the left have their opinion, and even independents have theirs. Everyone has a right to their opinion. With that being said.

Abortion is defined as, "The termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the death of an embryo or fetus" (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/abortion). This is what an abortion is, there are more definitions for miscarriages and contagious abortions. I am truly sorry to any woman which has had to make any unwanted choice in the matter.

A Woman's Choice A Woman's Right

Women sometimes considered the gentler sex, the bearer of children, the one's who have a womb. This is your argument! No male should have the right to tell you what is right or wrong for your body. I'm not saying that I'm pro-life nor pro-choice. I'm saying that as a man, I have no opinion. Granted, if you were having my child I might not want you to have an abortion, but it is not my body that is being considered.

I'm not saying that you should not consider your significant other while making your choice, but the choice is yours and yours alone. The law making body should have only the women discuss this issue, not the body as a whole. That way it is a decision made by those that either have the most to gain or lose. Depending on your view of the matter. This is also a decision made by those which understand, better than any man, what is at stake for other women.

Abortion, A Man's Choice

It's not, and this is for a very good reason. Women know more about what their wants and needs are to not have a man tell them what they can or cannot do with their own body. Does this mean that you don't have an input? No, you can talk with your partner and discuss the matter. This does not give you the right to tell her what she can or cannot do with her own body. Not unless that is your personal situation, then by all means... do what you do!

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To sum things up very quickly, as far as laws and government officials. It should be women who make this decision. The Supreme Court getting involved, only the women should have an input on this issue. The reason for this is to make it fair. So that only the one's who have the responsibility make the decision, and it is the one's who have the responsibility that have to deal with the repercussions of the decision.

Tell me what are your thoughts on the matter, is it right for us men to have a say whether a woman should have an abortion or not?

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      Brenda Durham 5 years ago

      Of course men should have a say in the matter! Whether it's a personal situation or a generalized subject or a public situation such as politics. In what social setting or political setting should men NOT have an opinion and input and responsibility and an equal amount of authority? None! with the few exceptions such as if the man is a rapist who impregnated a woman via that criminal offense.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      Thank you for reading and commenting.

      I don't think so because as a man I will never understand the things that women have to go through in order to have a baby. Just like women will never understand what it's like to have a vasectomy. Granted I might be inconvenienced a little, but that fails in comparison to the woman actually having the baby. That's why I feel that men should only have an opinion expressed when it comes to their wives having children and not try to pass any laws when it comes to the issue of abortion.

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      Brenda Durham 5 years ago

      What about the baby?

      What about its rights? Specifically, the right to life.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      That should be up to the woman ultimately, because it is her body, and it is her right. I believe that every baby has a right to life, I do. But there are situations where it is understandable that a woman might choose abortion. I feel that decision has to be respected by any man, because it is the woman that has to go through the pregnancy, not the man.

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      TeaPartyCrasher 5 years ago from Camp Hill, PA

      I'm a bit torn on this. The man should have input, definitely, but the choice should be the woman's.

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      vector7 5 years ago

      One, it's an egg AND sperm, called combined production of a child. It is both the man and woman's child. Two, I did not bother to read as, respectfully, I noticed a slight flaw.. "It is not my body being considered..." Correction, it is not your or the mothers LIFE being considered.. It is the CHILD'S LIFE which is at stake in the decision to be made.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      Thank you for commenting and reading.

      I understand what your getting at, but what I am saying is that men are not the one's that get pregnant nor are they the ones that give birth. The man should talk it over with the woman that they are with in their individual situations, not pass laws about the situation. I say this because ultimately it is the woman that has to carry the child for +/- 9 months.

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      vector7 5 years ago

      Agreed, on the aspect of carrying the child. But who is suppose to help carry the mother while pregnant and in need? Does the pain of labour come at no cost to the husband? Unless of course the husband is not a husband. ;)

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      The husband can and I believe should carry the mother during her pregnancy, but the father (I don't agree with this) may not be there, so what happens then? This is why I think that women not men should have the say and not men. I understand as a man, that the husband may be emotionally involved. The husband is not ultimately the one that must give up for the good of the child while in the womb. It is the mother that must give up pleasures in life in order to have a healthy child, the husband is the one that gives up in order to support the mother. This is why I say that the responsibility should go solely to the women when it comes to the issue of abortion, after birth everything should be 50/50.

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      vector7 5 years ago

      Maybe the decision to kill the child shouldn't be up to either of the individuals as they DID have a choice in the actions they took to create it, and prevention (a easily attainable goal to anyone not drowned in complete stupidity) could have been accomplished easily. The steps to pregnancy aren't a mystery to the human race my friend.

      If: The killing of a one year old child is not morally correct (downright evil in truth) simply because the existence of that child creates a burdon or pain on the parent or caregiver, when that being is incapable of caring and providing for itself, or defending it's given right to live at the young age of one year for lack of mental maturity...

      Then: What say you to the killing of that same one year old child at the fragile, yet still potential person in the making growing with NO DIFFERENCE in comparison to it at age one with the exception of the time in that child's life (example: age ten vs age 50;two times, same life) and it's stage of growth?

      The reprecutions of the creation of the child are known.. pregnancy. And we are to punish the child who asked no more to be made than you did?

      What do you HONESTLY believe that child would answer, if it is chosen not to be aborted and asked at age 15 or 20 or any reasononable age ofif told it wa understanding and maturity, if HE or SHE (not it as commonly used) was told their abortion was planned but withdrawn.. WOULD THEY BE GLAD AND CHOOSE LIFE?..

      DO YOU.. YYOOUU, my dear friend in your day, today, choose life and are glad to be here?

      I am that child's only voice. And anyone who agrees with me. Abortion is wrong.

      PERIOD.

      As NONE OF US would choose for ourselves to have been aborted.

      What makes us think for a quarter of a second THAT THE CHILD CONCEIEVED THAT IS WITHIN THAT PERSON HAS LESS RIGHT TO LIFE THAN WE DO, SAVE THE FACT THEY ARE HELPLESS TO THE MURDER INFLICTED UPON THEIR FRAGILE BODIES, BEAUTIFUL FUTURE, AND LIFE OVERALL?

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      Angela Blair 5 years ago from Central Texas

      I totally understand the statement you're making as to men don't bear children - women do. An unwanted pregnancy doesn't indicate to me there was much intelligence exhibited by either the mother or the father as pregnancy is easily preventable in this day and age. Therefore, I think neither of them is capable of making a good decision but obviously a decision will be made. I'm totally pro-life so my choice is obvious for every pregnancy -- put the child up for adoption if you don't want it but don't kill it. Your Hub is well written and your position as to who makes a decision is generous. Best, Sis

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      Vector: I understand your point of view and as much as I would like to respond. I cannot unfortunately because I do not want to get to personal. So, please do not take this the wrong way.

      Angela Blair: Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      amymarie_5 5 years ago from Chicago IL

      Hi Lawrence,

      I don't really believe anyone is 'for' abortion. I really don't like that term. It's not a black and white issue. Women who are raped, whose lives are endangered and fetuses missing vital organs and will ultimately die anyway are all justifiable reasons to have abortions. I absolutely believe a man should have a say but in the end it is ultimately the woman's decision.

      I think people who are against abortion shouldn't be so quick to judge. I always believed we should worry more and help the people who are already here.

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      Tams R 5 years ago from Missouri

      I usually do not weigh in on such controversial conversations but as a mother who has held my 20 week baby in my arms and felt his last kick as he died and saw the last wiggle of my miscarried baby at nearly 12 weeks gestation helplessly watching the baby die in my hands, I don't think people really know what they're destroying with an abortion. At 12 weeks they have little faces, tiny arms, legs and fingers, toes and little noses. They are remarkably human! They have many of these features at 10 weeks.

      I've seen people cry over hamsters and pets dying, yet seem confused over an abortion. I simply don't get it!

      You've created a question that will go on for ages I'm sure.

      A man's say should be heard loud and clear when he is willing to take the baby when a woman wants an abortion. I do not believe she should have any right to take away his right to be a father, just as he doesn't have a right to make her get an abortion because he is not ready to be a father.

      Assuming they both made the decision to have sex, protected or not, they should know a baby may result. The time to choose to abort the pregnancy comes before the baby happens.

      Abort sex; practice abstinence!

      If not, it's time to be a parent or give the baby to someone who will cherish this special gift.

      The choice is 9 months to have a baby and give it away or live a lifetime with guilt for destroying a life. Seems a simple choice to me.

      That being said, I cannot with good conscience cast stones at a woman electing abortion in cases where she will likely die if the pregnancy continues.

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      Emile R 5 years ago

      Well said. But, I think if men had a legal right to make a decision and divorce themselves from an unplanned pregnancy you'd see the number of 'unplanned' pregnancies go down drastically. And the abortion issue would become less of an issue

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      Xenonlit 5 years ago

      This is an interesting hub. Of course the man has input, but the man has to be a man, ready to step in to help raise his child, not just run off to play around some more.

      Life begins when the fetus is able to survive outside of the womb. Period. Humans have huge heads and must be born early in order to keep developing. This is why newborns are called neonates, not babies. The human body has a billion reasons why a fetus will not make it to a viable age in the womb.

      I am concerned about the children who are abused, raped, murdered, tortured, abandoned and otherwise part of life for a right winger in America. You watch Nancy Grace for a month or two and tell me that the religious deviants and right wing extremists need to bother the rest of us. It is in their communities that the worst horrors are happening. The rest of us are getting ready to tell them where they can put their ideas.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      @amymarie_5 thank you for reading and commenting.

      I do believe that there are reasons to have an abortion, so I can completely understand your stance.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      @Emile R Thank You for reading and commenting.

      I think you are right.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      @Xenolit Thank you for reading and commenting.

      I understand your point, and I think that you make very valid points.

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      Lawrence Stripling 5 years ago

      @Tams R: Thank You for reading and commenting.

      I found a video and it deals with the subject of a man wanting a the baby even when the woman doesn't. I think in cases like that the baby should be born and given to the father not the woman. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXZKsrSPixU

      Even after seeing that video, I still think that women should have the final say, but the say of men in general should only be considered not the last and final word on the subject.

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      kate12402 5 years ago from Storrs, CT

      My personal opinion is that men should have an equal say. Because at the end of the day the decision isn't about what happens to the mother's body (and to say that it is about her body is to devalue all life), it's about the life of the baby - a baby which took two people to create. And on top of that, to say it is the woman's choice only is to imply that the man does not share EQUAL responsibility for the child purely because of his gender. That sets feminism back one hundred years, and is something I personal cannot tolerate.

      Having said that, I respect everyone's right to their opinion. I found this hub both informative and well written. And I appreciate the opportunity to re-evaluate my opinion.

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      vector7 5 years ago

      Never came back. The caps weren't me yelling, just emphasis on the main point.

      I do take the subject intensely serious but yelling isn't my style. lol

      Don't take it personal, it's just something I find silly and important to point out when for personal pleasure they create, and for personal pleasure they kill.

      I simply can't believe in this day and age people think they should be able to kill something just because it's inconvenient, when they have the knowledge and capability to prevent it.

      I don't take it personal, I just don't understand killing things that by choice were created. Really, I don't.

      Apologies for the intensity if it bothered you or ruffled your feathers.

      God bless Lawrence.

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      kate12402 5 years ago from Storrs, CT

      Xenonlit: I don't think that the opinion that life begins at birth is the obvious opinion. I understand it, and that's why I understand the pro-choice opinion because I recognize that the point at which life begins is subjective. I personally believe life begins at conception. My belief on that is final, but I wouldn't assume that everyone shares that belief.

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      lstCitizen 5 years ago from California

      Lawrence, I agree with you that the decision should be made by those who have the most to gain or lose. That settles it then. No one could possibly have more to lose than the baby!

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      Sanxuary 4 years ago

      When it comes to children, men have no rights. If you really do the research you will reach the conclusion that marriage could be the worst thing any man could do to himself. I am not opposed to the concept but quite aware that men have no rights and all the liability when it comes to children and marriage. The only thing that effects the equation is those with the most money might win something. If anyone should be opposed to materialisation and consumerism its men. If you pick the wrong person and the odds are good that you will, you our screwed. We should be educating every young man on his lack of any rights to raise a family in this female entitlement program we live in this country today. The cops will come to the door and if you our a male you will have no rights to your children. You will be kicked out of your home and be charged child support until they are 18. If you have any money left after losing most everything, you can then spend thousands of dollars to fight just to see them. Every step of the way she can legally harass you and make it as miserable as possible to impede your ability to have any rights to your children. Yes, she can abort your child, even if you our married.

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