Tolerance: Part 1
Let us not throw up walls.....
Lately I have been reading random hubs on different "hot button" social issues, but one of the main topics I have been diving into the most is abortion. Now, I want to state first and foremost that I am NOT writing this hub to try and change anyone's mind on the subject of abortion. If you are Pro-Choice, great. If you are Pro-Life, great. It doesn’t matter to me. Really, what I am trying to get across in this hub is tolerance, and learning to be tolerant of things that you, as a person, may not like. However, I will state that this article comes from the point of view of a Pro-Choice individual.
When I was 18 years old and a senior in high school, I myself had an abortion. I was in a really dark place in my life and my boyfriend at the time and I WERE NOT in any position to become parents. Our relationship really wasn't going very well by that point, and having the baby would have made things 100 times worse for both of us. Also, I was putting numerous amounts of illicit substances in my body at that point in my life, so I was pretty well convinced the baby would have come out with two heads had I carried it to term. (Not that THAT actually would've happened, but I was convinced it would.) I'm sure some of you reading this who are Pro-Life are thinking "this girl is an absolute monster.” You might even be thinking "That selfish little bitch." I wouldn't consider myself a monster, but was this choice selfish; absolutely. I was taking control of my destiny, and a child wasn't in the cards for myself at that time in my life (or my then boyfriends.) So, to make a long story short, I had the abortion, and I am not sorry for it. Actually, I'm sure my life turned out better because of it.
I have been reading some very hostile hubs from both sides of the fence, though I will say a majority of the hostility comes from the Pro-Life camp, and for the life of me I can't really understand why. I know that this is a very emotional topic for a lot of people, and I completely respect EVERYONE'S point of view. However, that respect seems to be lacking from some Pro-Life people based on the comments I have read here on this website. I read a comment from someone on a hub who stated something to the effect of "everyone who has ever had an abortion should be forced to have a hysterectomy." How disrespectful and rude is that? Everyone is entitled to their opinions, but to say something so hostile and nasty (especially not knowing the reason why every single abortion on Earth takes place) is just despicable.
In my personal opinion, there are Pro-Choice people, Pro-Life people and Pro-Birth people. Though “Pro-Birth” isn’t a real term for a group of people, I assure you it should be. The main difference between Pro-Life and Pro-Birth are the way that they go about the abortion debate, and of course, their views on the subject. Pro-Life people generally have a firm and reasonable reason for their stance on the subject, whether that is based on their own personal opinion (or values), their religion or their life experience. They are also willing to listen to the Pro-Choice point of view, and though they may not agree with their opinion, they remain respectful towards the other person. Then, there are the Pro-Birth people. They are the people you CAN’T have a reasonable conversation with about abortion if you fall on the other side of the debate, and they are of the belief that abortion is ALWAYS wrong, even in cases of rape, incest or if the mother carrying the child is in mortal danger by being and staying pregnant. In my opinion, you can’t call these people Pro-Life, because they absolutely are NOT pro-life; they certainly are not for the life of the mother in question, only for the baby who has yet to be born. They claim ALL LIFE is important, and yet would rather keep a woman pregnant even if staying pregnant could directly lead to her end here on this earth.
This country makes me upset in many ways (mainly because our freedoms are constantly being stripped from us), but even so, it is one of the more “free” countries in this world. The reason that it is considered free is because its citizens are freely able to make choices (such as having the right to terminate pregnancy if so inclined.) Even if you don’t like abortion or agree with it, I don’t know why you would fight to take away EVEN MORE freedom from people, which is exactly what you are doing by trying to make abortion illegal and constantly complaining about it. See, the beauty of this country is that it is made up of people from all different walks of life and with completely different opinions and perspectives. That is also the beauty of Pro-Choice; it gives you the freedom to have you own opinion on the subject of Abortion and to exercise that freedom if you want. You can either agree with it or you can think it is completely horrible. Either way, you are able to have a real choice in the matter. Now, you don’t have to like abortion (or get one,) but you should TOLERATE it being legal in this country. There are some things I don’t particularly like that are legal in this country, but I tolerate them. We should stop throwing up walls against everything we don’t like, and learn to live with and tolerate the things we don’t like/agree with. Otherwise, one of these days, we might wake up realize that we DON’T live in anything that resembles a free country anymore.
I will close this hub on abortion and tolerance (in general) with this quote:
“Don’t like gay marriage? Don’t get one.
Don’t like abortions? Don’t get one.
Don’t like drugs? Don’t do them.
Don’t like sex? Don’t have it.
Don’t like your rights taken away? Don’t take away someone elses.”