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Adam Lanza's Mother Nurtured His Gun Violence

Updated on April 1, 2013

Poor Parenting Often Leads to Gun Violence

More information about Adam Lanza was recently released and the information shows that his mother nurtured his gun violence and was indirectly responsible for the deaths at Sandy Hook Elementary.

President Obama and many people are tackling the issue of gun violence and universal background checks may be useful. However, there is one factor that no one is addressing in the gun debate: poor parenting.

New details that emerged about Adam Lanza showed that he had a gun safe and his mother gave him a check to buy a gun. They also found more than 1,600 rounds of ammunition in the Lanza home.

I think gun laws need to be balanced. People should have a right to have guns, but people should also have a right to feel safe. The reason why people find it unreasonable that people want to exercise theri right to have a gun is because there are people like Adam Lanza who despite having autism and personality disorders have guns.

The Sandy Hook Elementary shooting was tragic, but the recent shooting death of a Georgia infant is even more heartbreaking. The common factor in the Sandy Hook and Gerogia murders is that both although the victims were young, the violent crimes were committed by teens. Teens are using guns to commit violence and I think that poor parenting is the result!

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    • RealityTalk profile image

      RealityTalk 4 years ago from Planet Earth

      I agree with what you say about poor parenting being a factor in gun violence in America today. We live in a violent society that has only a few complaints about violence in games, media and Television. That to me says a lot about what many parents are and are not teaching their children. Shooting people in TV shows, movies and games should not be as cavalierly acceptable as it is. Violence seems to be acceptable to most of America and readily taught and or tolerated.

      Funny side note. I watched an episode of South Park (I do not let my children watch) where one of the boys threw a Japanese Throwing Star into the eye of one of their playmates. The boys were fearful of punishment by their parents. The injured boy slipped away, and the boys went on a desperate search to find him before their parents did. They discovered the boy had wandered off into a crowded Town Meeting at which all their parents were in attendance. One of the boys thought he could turn himself invisible, so he stripped off his clothes and, he thought unseen, walked onto a stage at a Town Meeting before the entire town to secret away the injured friend before the parents discovered the injured boy. Of course he was seen, and the next day at another Town Meeting the parents angrily complained about how a parent could let a young boy display his genitalia. Nothing was said about the Throwing Star shot into the boy's eye. The point being, parents are more concerned about nudity than violence.

      Parents are not responsible for every bad act committed by their children. But many parents take no responsibility teaching their children correct behavior unless it is forced upon them by the law. Parents should be "parents" and not friends with their children. And parents should not leave the responsibility of teaching right and wrong to the schools and to what the law may dictate. I do not agree that teens are the major cause of gun deaths in America today. But most teens do grow into adults. If parents took more responsibility teaching their children about the danger of weapons and the negativity of violent behaviors and monitored their children's exposure to violence in games and the media, maybe there would be less gun deaths in America caused by teens and adults alike.

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      Sandra Remilien 4 years ago

      I did not say that teens are the major cause of gun deaths in America. I have to look at the statistics before I make that claim. My hub says that the Sandy Hook and Georgia deaths were committed by teens.

      Regarding violence in the media, after the Sandy Hook shooting, the NRA chief spoke about violence in the media and video games and no one stopped to focus on it. Parents buy violent video games for their children. Adam Lanza's mother knew he had mental issues and she took him to shooting ranges and gave him money to buy guns. I think her actions were careless and the shooting could have been prevented.

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      RealityTalk 4 years ago from Planet Earth

      Sandra, I do not believe we are disagreeing on most points made in your Hub, so I am not sure why you replied to me as you did.

      As far as the NRA however, I now have the impression you are pro NRA and we will disagree there. I have seen nothing to prove otherwise than that the NRA is a self-serving organization that mixes lies with truths in a transparent attempt to make itself appear safety conscious. I have listened to the NRA and its rhetoric. The NRA "chief," distorts the importance of violence in media and games in an attempt to hide its callous approach to gun control and gun deaths in America. Their argument is usually aimed at singling out examples that are advantageous to the NRA's desire for America to be armed to the teeth. Tragedies like Sandy Hook and killers like Adam Lanza are only a small part of the gun-death problem. Most of the gun-wielding perpetrators are not disturbed in the sense that Lanza was. Most know what they are doing, although they are crazy nonetheless. The argument that it is the person that kills, not the gun is old and illogical. If someone is predisposed to kill, they will whether a gun, a butter knife or a rock is available. But you do not hand them the weapon. I would rather take my chances against a butter knife than a semi-automatic weapon.

      Regarding your claim you did not say teens are a major cause of gun deaths in America, you said, " Teens ARE THE ONES using guns to commit violence and I think that poor parenting is the result!" [emphasis added by me]. You strongly implied just that.

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      flacoinohio 4 years ago from Ohio

      I dont think the Sandy Hook shooting has anything to do with poor parenting. The only thing that was odd was that she was a "prepper". This does not make her a poor parent, maybe a bit paranoid but there are millions of people who are preppers. Teaching children even autistic children how to use a firearm for survival purposes is not poor parenting, it is an attempt to teach a survival skill. Teaching a curious child about a gun is appropriate because it makes the child less curious about the guns that are in the home. Prepping for a disaster of some sort is not much different than believing that Armageddon will come for Christians and Jehovah's witnesses, the "end" could come in the form of an economic collapse. Autistic people are not stupid, but can tend to have ideation a that can be triggered by almost anything. I doubt she would allow her son to have a firearm unsupervised, I think taking her children to the range is a sign of responsibility. Since no one can answer the question as to why Adam Lanza made his choice, it is easy to label a mother who was shot dead and cannot defend herself. Maybe her son shot her because she did not give him access to firearms, anyone think of that? She may have given him money for a gun, maybe she was going to buy him a gun for him as a primary user but not to have access without permission and supervision. Maybe that is why he made his choice, to prove a point.

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      Mazzy Bolero 4 years ago from the U.K.

      flacoinohio, I don't quite see the logic in your point. He shot his mother to prove the point that she should not control his use of firearms? Surely that would prove she should control it! From what I've read, this young man didn't just have aspergers, but was disturbed and emotionally unstable, and you don't put guns in the hands of such people. That was not just preparing for a disaster but creating one. She paid with her life for that, but so did so many others.

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      flacoinohio 4 years ago from Ohio

      Mazzy, thanks for reading and responding to my comment. I am surprised you chose my uneducated guess about Adam maybe trying to prove a point. If you have children, eventually they will do something to spite you at least once during their childhood or teenage years. Would it not make sense that maybe Adam was angry about something that was gun related? The search of the Lanza home revealed that a holiday card with a prewritten check for a handgun was found in the home, maybe she took too long to take him to go and buy his gun. How do we know that she was not killed because she was being a competent responsible parent who maybe held her son accountable for a negative behavior and he killed her for it?

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      Mazzy Bolero 4 years ago from the U.K.

      Thanks for responding flacoinohio, but I still find your logic a bit hard to follow. An angry child might well do something spiteful if he doesn't get his own way, but this was an adult who shot his mom through the head! This is not rational behavior! This young man should never have been allowed access to guns at all - he wasn't a fit person to be in charge of a deadly weapon, whether trained or not. That's the problem with making guns universally available - people have them who are a danger to others.

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      flacoinohio 4 years ago from Ohio

      I disagree, he is an adult physically, not mentally. He was prone to having childlike ideations regardless of how functional he was. Owning firearms and teaching family members how to use them does not make a person a poor parent. This is an issue that is based on personal opinions and objections of persons who do not identify or agree with the Lanza family values.

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      Sandra Remilien 4 years ago

      To Reality Talk, I am not pro-NRA. The NRA chief made truthful statements that people are trying to ignore. Violence sells and people buy violent video games like the one found in Adam Lanaza's room. Video games show children how to shoot, kill and maim others. in addition, songs like "I shot the sheriff" encourage people to kill others. It was proven that a man who was listening to songs like this shot and killed a police officer after he was pulled over. People with guns are the problem. They are somtimes prone to violence. The sad half to this is that there are many people who live in unsafe neighborhoods and have guns for protection and sadly, accidents such as thier children dying after playing with the gun happen a lot.

      Regarding Adam Lanza's mother being responsible, she was not. Adam Lanza also had a personality disorder. He was unstable and he acted in an unpredictable way. Clearly, if his mother did not want to leave him unsupervised when he was with others, then clearly she knew that anything could happen.

      Another point: Adam Lanza had articles about the Norway shooter. He wanted to outdo the man who killed innocent people in Norway. This was his goal: to kill as many people as possible and maybe become infamous.

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