All This Talk of Toxic Masculinity (Even From Razor Makers) Is Rubbing Me the Wrong Way, Irritating Me in the Process
More than a Few....Good Men
Okay, I know....everyone is talking about it, do we need an article about it too?
Yes, yes we do!
Not just any article though, a woman's perspective about all of this man-hating, male-bashing, which is constantly in our faces.
This 'latest propaganda' commercial, this time the culprit being Gillette, has really rubbed me the wrong way!
I am so tired of men being portrayed as incapable of caring, hurtful, chest beating, grunting and groaning brutes.
I don't know men like this...men like this, are not in my life!
I've crossed paths with toxic men and I've always chalked that up to an insecurity existing in them, not as if they thought they were somehow better than me, but rather, lacking in proper nurturing. I knew they weren't for me and I walked away without hesitation!
It was not within my power to change them, only God can change them, but it was within my power to walk away...and to walk away fast, in a couple of cases.
Lord knows I've come across an equal amount of toxic women and I knew when to walk away from them as well. They needed to do some soul searching, weren't really looking for a friend and I wasn't looking for a project!
There are toxic people and toxic situations that must be avoided. Go with your gut people, it will never let you down.
The first man in my life, my Dad, is my best buddy, my confidant, my hero! He was a kid when he and Mom married and had me a year later, we all grew up together!
They had me so young, I tell them that we are practically the same age now!
They brought me up with two brothers. One of those brothers has a child with special needs and to see how he is with her, warms my heart. He is such a good man, such a great Father to his daughter and his sons.
These men do not deserve today's across-the-board labeling and hating of men!
Our Parents weren't perfect, good thing I didn't expect them to be, but they prepared me for life, for being a wife, a Mom, a good and decent person. It's true I did not spend as much time with Dad as I did with Mom, due to him working hard, in order to help us to have a good life. He was busy providing for all of us, keeping a roof over our heads, while still managing to get to my softball games, in his capacity as my greatest fan.
He was much, much too busy being responsible to have time to pound on his chest and howl at the moon.
Later in life, along came my husband. He is the hardest working man I know. My Dad is retired now, but he could have given my Hubby a run for his money. Both could teach today's millennials a few things about respect, responsibility and work ethic. My husband started a business at the age of seventeen and the doors are still open today. He, like my Dad, is a very good man, he has always treated me with respect and I afford him the same courtesy and so....we, just like my Parents, are still married!
We have two loving sons that are respectful of women. Their Dad, although a hard worker, spent time with them, was involved in their childhood, their upbringing. They were much too busy playing ball, camping out, learning basic skills from their Dad, that didn't leave them much time to participate in bad behavior!
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God, created he him; male and female, created he them.
I remember a shift in things in the 70's, feminists were loud and proud and were such men haters, they didn't see themselves as selfish or in need of help, so they sought to change men.
They did not even appreciate a true gentleman, on the contrary, they were the most hated of all men. Feminist women wanted no man to stand in their presence and absolutely, positively no opening of doors for them, they were perfectly capable of doing it themselves. As if men didn't/don't think they are perfectly capable.
These women somehow completely missed that chivalry has nothing to do with them being seen as weak or incapable and everything to do with honor and respect, instilled in most men, passed down from generation to generation.
Although, I know I am quite capable of getting a door all by myself, I've always appreciated the chivalrous male. Any stranger inconveniencing themselves for a few seconds, so that a door might not slam in my face, is exhibiting strong character, as far as I am concerned. A man, brought up to be respectful of me and acknowledge my presence when I walk into a room, rather than to pretend that I not even exist, used to mean something!
I sure miss those days, I am so tired of having doors slammed in my face or worse yet, a young man to run ahead of me, not to get the door for me, but rather to beat me to the door, the result...a slamming door in my face. Nowadays, many men will not even look me in the eye, in conversation. Ladies, have you noticed more of this, these days?
I thank Feminists for that!
You all have had much success, men aren't sure what is expected of them, they are damned if they do, damned if they don't.
Is that what you were going for?
The men I know are confident and comfortable in their skin, they'll never slam a door in anyone's face, certainly not a woman's and they'd probably even go out of their way to get the door for you, the feminist, because unlike you, they aren't judgmental!
Some of the early feminism talk was that they wanted the same treatment that a man would give another man. Examples; a mutual punch in the shoulder or a fist bump, as forms of respect, a pat on the butt after a great play in a game, another man's perspective on what he may be doing wrong in his relationships with women, accountability from a more mature, wiser male in their lives....well, none of those examples apply, but they wanted to be treated just the same!
They wanted it all and didn't care the harm done, in the process.
Representing to the best of our ability
I wrote a couple of articles about Brett Kavanaugh and what happened to him once he became President Trump's nominee for the Supreme Court vacancy.
If that spectacle wasn't telling as to the times we are in, the problem which has been created, I don't know which example would be.
People were ready to crucify him, without evidence, they dismissed multiple character witnesses and based on some hearsay alone, they condemned him.
Because he is a man, he was not to be believed!
Because he is a man, he was to be judged and judged harshly.
Because of his gender alone, nothing he could say or do would matter.
That's a fact!
It seems, feminists, liberals, Dems, Establishment-types... would prefer a pushover for President, unless it's a woman, then, of course, push away and push hard!
No thanks, I want my President to be strong in principle, strong in faith, strong in leadership and strong in resolve.
I will look for the same qualities, whether male or female, that matters not!
I'll not jump on the condemn-all-men (unless they are spineless, wimpy pushovers) wagon and at the same time, I'll not expect perfection from the person that gives me the qualities I seek. If they are representing, to the very best of their ability, that will suffice!
God is still working on ALL of us
I adore the image of God...in both male and female!
God doesn't make mistakes, we do not always know best, why do we pretend we do and why do we allow dangerous, destructive thought to enter in and control our every action?
Men being men, boys being boys, isn't the problem.....those seeking to get inside of our heads, telling us to place blame where it doesn't belong; to blame God and embrace government, repeatedly telling us to forget the wisdom of our Fathers and to forget all about that antiquated 'Father Knows Best', business...that's a problem. The brainwashing which comes with sitcoms and commercials and magazine articles into believing that Satan is not at the root of all evil, men are....that's a problem and those things combined.....is definitely toxic!
We share in shortcomings, both male and female; we fall short as men, women, spouses, parents, Samaritans, citizens and we fall short in our Faith!
We need not worry ourselves sick about changing those around us, we need to work on bettering ourselves.
With God's help, we can!
Each of us focusing on making the man, the woman in the mirror, a better person, can change the world around us, for the better!
For all of you wonderfully-made, men and women
© 2019 A B Williams