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All This Talk of Toxic Masculinity (Even From Razor Makers) Is Rubbing Me the Wrong Way, Irritating Me in the Process

Updated on January 25, 2019
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Ignore the in-my-face obvious issues and lend all of my attention to unwarranted, groundless non-issues? Not happening!

My Dad, a good man!
My Dad, a good man!

More than a Few....Good Men

Okay, I know....everyone is talking about it, do we need an article about it too?

Yes, yes we do!

Not just any article though, a woman's perspective about all of this man-hating, male-bashing, which is constantly in our faces.

This 'latest propaganda' commercial, this time the culprit being Gillette, has really rubbed me the wrong way!

I am so tired of men being portrayed as incapable of caring, hurtful, chest beating, grunting and groaning brutes.

I don't know men like this...men like this, are not in my life!

Yes, over many decades, I've come across toxic men and I've always chalked that up to an insecurity existing in them, not as if they thought they were somehow better than me, but rather lacking in proper nurturing. I knew they weren't for me and I walked away without hesitation. It was not within my power to change them, only God can change them, but it was within my power to walk away...and to walk away fast, in a couple of cases.

Lord knows I've come across an equal amount of toxic women and I knew when to walk away from them as well. They needed to do some soul searching, weren't really looking for a friend and I wasn't looking for a project!

There are toxic people and toxic situations that must be avoided. Go with your gut people, it will never let you down.

~~~

The first man in my life, my Dad, is my best buddy, my confidant, my hero! He was a kid when he and Mom married and had me a year later, we all grew up together!

They had me so young, I tell them that we are practically the same age now!

They brought me up with two brothers. One of those brothers has a child with special needs and to see how he is with her, warms my heart. He is such a good man, such a great Father to his daughter and his sons.

These men do not deserve today's across-the-board labeling and hating of men!

Our Parents weren't perfect, good thing I didn't expect them to be, but they prepared me for life, for being a wife, a Mom, a good and decent person. It's true I did not spend as much time with Dad as I did with Mom, due to him working hard, in order to help us to have a good life. He was busy providing for all of us, keeping a roof over our heads, while still managing to get to my softball games, in his capacity as my greatest fan.

He was much, much too busy being responsible to have time to pound on his chest and howl at the moon.

Later in life, along came my husband. He is the hardest working man I know. My Dad is retired now, but he could have given my Hubby a run for his money. Both could teach today's millennials a few things about respect, responsibility and work ethic. My husband started a business at the age of seventeen and the doors are still open today. He, like my Dad, is a very good man, he has always treated me with respect and I afford him the same courtesy and so....we, just like my Parents, are still married!

We have two loving sons that are respectful of women. Their Dad, although a hard worker, spent time with them, was involved in their childhood, their upbringing. They were much too busy playing ball, camping out, learning basic skills from their Dad, that didn't leave them much time to participate in bad behavior!

Genesis 1:27

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God, created he him; male and female, created he them.

Feminists, disengage

I remember a shift in things in the 70's, feminists were loud and proud and were such men haters, they didn't see themselves as selfish or in need of help, so they sought to change men.

They did not even appreciate a true gentleman, on the contrary, they were the most hated of all men. Feminist women wanted no man to stand in their presence and absolutely, positively no opening of doors for them, they were perfectly capable of doing it themselves. As if men didn't/don't think they are perfectly capable.

These women somehow completely missed that chivalry has nothing to do with them being seen as weak or incapable and everything to do with honor and respect, instilled in most men, passed down from generation to generation.

Although, I know I am quite capable of getting a door all by myself, I've always appreciated the chivalrous male. Any stranger inconveniencing themselves for a few seconds, so that a door might not slam in my face, is exhibiting strong character, as far as I am concerned. A man, brought up to be respectful of me and acknowledge my presence when I walk into a room, rather than to pretend that I not even exist, used to mean something!

I sure miss those days, I am so tired of having doors slammed in my face or worse yet, a young man to run ahead of me, not to get the door for me, but rather to beat me to the door, the result...a slamming door in my face. Nowadays, many men will not even look me in the eye, in conversation. Ladies, have you noticed more of this, these days?

I thank Feminists for that!

You all have had much success, men aren't sure what is expected of them, they are damned if they do, damned if they don't.

Is that what you were going for?

The men I know are confident and comfortable in their skin, they'll never slam a door in anyone's face, certainly not a woman's and they'd probably even go out of their way to get the door for you, the feminist, because unlike you, they aren't judgmental!

Some of the early feminism talk was that they wanted the same treatment that a man would give another man. Examples; a mutual punch in the shoulder or a fist bump, as forms of respect, a pat on the butt after a great play in a game, another man's perspective on what he may be doing wrong in his relationships with women, accountability from a more mature, wiser male in their lives....well, none of those examples apply, but they wanted to be treated just the same!

They wanted it all and didn't care the harm done, in the process.


Representing to the best of our ability

I wrote a couple of articles about Brett Kavanaugh and what happened to him once he became President Trump's nominee for the Supreme Court vacancy.

If that spectacle wasn't telling as to the times we are in, the problem which has been created, I don't know which example would be.

People were ready to crucify him, without evidence, they dismissed multiple character witnesses and based on some hearsay alone, they condemned him.

Because he is a man, he was not to be believed!

Because he is a man, he was to be judged and judged harshly.

Because of his gender alone, nothing he could say or do would matter.

That's a fact!

It seems, feminists, liberals, Dems, Establishment-types... would prefer a pushover for President, unless it's a woman, then, of course, push away and push hard!

No thanks, I want my President to be strong in principle, strong in faith, strong in leadership and strong in resolve.

I will look for the same qualities, whether male or female, that matters not!

I'll not jump on the condemn-all-men (unless they are spineless, wimpy pushovers) wagon and at the same time, I'll not expect perfection from the person that gives me the qualities I seek. If they are representing, to the very best of their ability, that will suffice!



God is still working on ALL of us

I adore the image of God...in men and in women!

God doesn't make mistakes, we do not always know best, why do we pretend we do and why do we allow dangerous, destructive thought to enter in and control our every action?

Men being men, boys being boys, isn't the problem.....those seeking to get inside our heads, telling us to place blame where it doesn't belong, to blame God and embrace government, repeatedly telling us to forget the wisdom of our Fathers and to forget all about that antiquated 'Father Knows Best', business.

We are all being brainwashed today by programs and commercials into believing that Satan is not at the root of all evil, men are....that is the problem and that is what is toxic!

We share in shortcomings, both male and female; we fall short as men, women, spouses, parents, Samaritans, citizens and we fall short in our Faith!

We need not worry ourselves sick about changing those around us, we need to work on bettering ourselves.

With God's help, we can!

Each of us focusing on making the man, the woman in the mirror, a better person, can change the world around us, for the better!

For all of you wonderfully-made, men and women

© 2019 A B Williams

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    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      2 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Thanks Vivian!.

      Oh yes I've noticed that programming has gotten worse over time, Dad couldn't possibly survive if it weren't for Mom!

      I'm with you, I want a man to be a man.

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      Vivian Coblentz 

      2 weeks ago

      Another great article. I have notice in so many TV shows these days how the women are the ones with the power, influence, best jobs, etc. whereas men are portrayed as wimpy fools. It makes me sick. You are right that toxic people exist in both genders. I like a man to be a man!

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      Shannon Henry 

      2 weeks ago from Texas

      That's one word for it. LOL

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      2 weeks ago from Central Florida

      OMG, that's different! :)

    • shanmarie profile image

      Shannon Henry 

      2 weeks ago from Texas

      Try this one. LMAO.....https://vimeo.com/240732456

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      2 weeks ago from Central Florida

      LOL...oops!

    • shanmarie profile image

      Shannon Henry 

      2 weeks ago from Texas

      I hadn't seen that one either! I must live in an alternate universe or something! Actually, I went through a long period of time where I just didn't watch a lot of TV. I still don't, really. I binge watch more on Netflix or sometimes Sling. But we don't have cable or satellite. No need for it when we have so many local channels to choose from and the internet to stream. LOL Oops....I'm lol-ing everything!

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      2 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Remember this shaving cream ad? Good one!

      https://youtu.be/v_bXmXD1g30

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      Shannon Henry 

      3 weeks ago from Texas

      No kidding. Autocorrect didn't catch a typo earlier and I almost cussed at you. Well, not at you, but when I wasn't intending to. I caught it with literally a minute to spare.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Central Florida

      An edit button would be nice, I agree....for longer than 5 minutes.

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      Shannon Henry 

      3 weeks ago from Texas

      OMG.....We need an edit button for comments. I mean YOUR, not you're in the last sentence I wrote.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Thank you Shannon!

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      Shannon Henry 

      3 weeks ago from Texas

      I can be quite headstrong sometimes. My grandma used to say, "She's not stubborn; she just knows what she wants." She'd say that whenever someone called someone else stubborn. I guess I just don't like the conflict between people. But as you say, if you're rubbed the wrong way, you're just rubbed the wrong way and it's usually time to say something. I don't always hold back if I do state my thoughts and opinions....my feelings of the moment....but I also don't like to stir up a fight.

      He was a jerk. I know quite a few opinionated people, but you are not one who insults those who differ from you, at least not that I've seen. I was told by someone last year ....paraphrasing....that I'm a pisspot and that I should think more about how what I say may come across to others. This person also told me that I care too much about what other people think. I care about what people I care about think, as the case may be. There's a saying that goes: before your opinion can bother me I have to first care about your opinions . . .or something like that. And another saying that goes: those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. So there ya go. I look forward to reading more of your opinions.

      Oh, and speaking of must shares.....the other day my daughter was rattling off about something and then said something sarcastic to her daddy after he said something in response to her. I can't remember what it was exactly, just that it was her typical sarcastic style. I said, "You know, if people don't know you, they may be inclined to think you're a snob." She said, "Well, that's just your opinion and you're opinion's wrong!" And I laughed.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Must share:

      I was born opinionated, (my Mom always called it sassy) but when I was a teenager, the boyfriend of a friend said to me, well you just know everything about everything don't you. (I certainly didn't and he was just a jerk) but, it really bothered me and I clammed up for a few years.

      Early on all over FB, in print, in commercials with celebrities, there was that stupid campaign circulating about how we were all expected to 'Serve Barack Obama'....."Serve".....that definitely all rubbed me the wrong way for obvious reasons and I haven't shut up since! :)

      The moral to this story ....don't be silent, don't be a jerk about it, but when people are seeking to screw up your life, your Country, call them on it!

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      Shannon Henry 

      3 weeks ago from Texas

      Not usually my style. Haha. I don't get THAT angry very often. In fact, it's a rarity. Can't promise my mouth won't ever get me in trouble when I am irritated, though. I used to keep my mouth shut and then one day, I just started saying what's on my mind if I felt like it. Happens most often in writing, but not always. I'm not sure if it's a good thing or a bad thing. Maybe some of both. No need to duck tonight, though. Or any other night, especially for anything related to this article goes. ;)

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Thank you Shannon, I'd rather you smile than want to throw something at me!

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      Shannon Henry 

      3 weeks ago from Texas

      Heehee. Maybe not. But you make me smile.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Central Florida

      I agree. Gillette should borrow it in an attempt to salvage their brand.

      Apparently this commerical has rubbed many people the wrong way, so I didn't overreact! :)

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      Shannon Henry 

      3 weeks ago from Texas

      That is a much better commercial.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      3 weeks ago from Central Florida

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      So true Leland, God only knows the damage this is doing.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Hi Ken, naturally, I agree with everything you've expressed about this unnatural embracing of everything to the extreme.

      It does all go hand in hand with the socialistic agenda. Tear down the Country by hitting and hitting it hard at its foundation, work to destroy the traditional family unit, in particular, Fathers. It's not enough to destroy the family unit, work to destroy the mind of a child, mock God.....all to make way for what this mindset believes will be paradise on earth, a socialistic utopia.

      How do we stop it?

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      Leland Johnson 

      4 weeks ago from Midland MI

      Well said Ken. The Russians practically destroyed their culture in 1918 just by tampering with the calendar. God only knows the damage such unbridled recklessness will do to our country.

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      Ken Burgess 

      4 weeks ago from Florida

      Just more proof that media in all forms is pushing a SJW agenda which does not coincide with conventional roles in society. Or rather, is working tio rewrite the roles of gender in society.

      It shouldn't be surprising, college and university teachings today are so far removed from what is 'normal' and 'functional' in our world, that when these students become workers and get into positions where they can control the narrative, be it in Hollywood studios or Ad Campaigns, they are pushing things that to 80% of Americans is extreme, and often insulting to their beliefs, ideals or concept of decency.

      We have an 'intellectual elite' that it totally out of touch with the rest of America, be they Hispanic, Man, Woman, or what have you.

      We see this with the last couple Star Wars movies, where virtue signalling and political messaging was way more important than putting out a good story that made sense and made fans happy.

      We see this when they make a crappy Ghostbusters rip-off and then when the movie tanks with fans they blame the fans for being sexist.

      To subvert the 'patriarchy' will lead to the destruction of society, the culture, and the nation we live in... nothing less than that can come from it. Asking boys to be girls, and girls to be boys (which is essentially where we have gotten), trying to tear down history, and all societal norms, makes us a lost people with no attachments to past or future, family or franchise... in short it reminds me of what was thought to be a National Socialistic ideal in which the people are nothing but pawns and tools for the state, that is all that we will become, no heritage, no social unity, no history... just individuals which will have no power to unite and be heard.

    • abwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Amen Pop, I have wonderful people around me too, which makes life a pleasure!

      So true, "hatred is the most toxic of all", avoid toxic situations as if avoiding the bubonic plague!

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Hi Tim, when did ma'am and sir become so offensive? When did good manners go out of style? I am with your wife, I'd have called her on it too.

      Everyone is so easily offended about the dumbest things and it only seems to be getting worse.

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      I agree Shannon crude and potty-mouthed people come in both male and female varieties. Soap broke me of using colorful language at a very young age. Maybe Gillette....or Dove can do a commercial about washing kids mouths out with soap....can you imagine the outcry?

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Hi Leland, now that you've mentioned it, the elevator thing has happened to me. Didn't really think much about at the time, just figured they wanted to ride alone, have their own space....now I have to wonder!!!

      OMG what are we doing?

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      breakfastpop 

      4 weeks ago

      There are plenty of wonder, decent men out there who are shining examples of what a man should be. My father was one of them and my husband is another. All this labeling of people is nauseating. Men can be toxic, women can be toxic, but most of all hatred is the most toxic of all. I don't hang around toxic people. Instead, I surround myself with wonderful people who make life a pleasure. If we all did the same the bad men and women would have only each other to debase. Now that works for me!

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      Tim Truzy 

      4 weeks ago from U.S.A.

      Hi, Abwilliams,

      I think there is an overall dumbing down of our roles so we can be rolled over. Recently, we took our car to a mechanic, a capable female as a matter of fact. She knows her engines - got us up and running smoothly in a few hours. When I said: "Thank you, ma'am," she went ballistic. My wife told the lady: "Look, I'll say thank you ma'am, too. Are you offended?"

      Something has happened to the concept of simple manners; erode manners and then attack gender.

      I'll keep saying thank you ma'am and I'll use cheap razors. No thank you Gilet.

      Great article as always, Abwilliams.

      Sincerely,

      Tim

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      Like I said, haven't noticed anything like that around my town. Then again, I don't deal with many mechanics and such and there is a woman who is usually behind the counter at the local hardware store we frequent for jobs. None of the men I worked with at my previous job were afraid to look at women.

      Last time I went to a mechanic by myself was probably almost 20 years ago, minus a couple years or so. I guess I was about 19 at the time and just wanted a front end alignment before making a trip from Texas to IL for Christmas break. The guy said I had all kinds of other things I needed to pay for or he wouldn't do what I wanted. So I asked for my keys back to take my car elsewhere and he refused. I had to get my boyfriend to go in and get my keys back for me. I was livid. Turns out these other issues with my car weren't even as urgent as they made it out to be.

      But I get what you're saying. I really do. The commercial is not one I'd care to see over and over again, but it doesn't bother me the way that it does you. That said, the point you are making, in general, is something that I can get behind even though I'm not noticing it as much on a local level. It's evident on a national level. And you did touch on that here in your article.

      Like Leland said, people are all up in arms over things like "locker room talk", which is quite crude and definitely not something that would be attractive to women. However, people also tend to forget that women just as often objectify men. What's the difference in the long run?

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      Leland Johnson 

      4 weeks ago from Midland MI

      You’re right on the money AB. The other day a buddy of mine told me he was about to a get on an elevator. When the doors opened and he was about to enter he noticed that there was only one other rider- a woman. He stepped back into the hallway, and the woman said, “You can come in.” He said, “Nope, I’ll wait for the next one.” Paranoid? I don’t think so. This is the atmosphere we’re in now. The ironic thing is I see women routinely using smutty inuendo and sexually charged banter. It makes me want to withdraw completely.

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Forget the catcalling, it has gotten to the point where men are chastised for even noticing that there is an opposite sex.

      Say I need to talk to a mechanic about my car, talk some work-related business with a man(men that do not know me personally) oftentimes they will not even look at me. I've never noticed anything like this before. What's going on?

      I'd love to hear from the men on this too.

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      Noticing women is different from prowling after them. I can't stand being catcalled at or pawed at. I suppose the look on his face when the other guy stopped him from approaching the girl. Maybe it's because I once dated a player.... Don't know, but that scene didn't bother me.

      And some of the other scenes seemed to depend heavily on circumstances as well. Like the one with the boys wrestling. Were they mad and pounding on each other or just playing? Which is why I said they missed their mark. The message seemed to me to be that men don't have to be the cavemen brute type or treat women as objects. Rather that seemed to be the intent. I think it was not very well executed. If it had been, there wouldn't be a discrepancy of interpretation.

      Besides, I think you're right that when companies go overboard with social commentary commercials it usually backfires because it isn't their job.

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Yes this ad. I suppose everyone will see it and have a different take.

      Like I said, it rubbed me the wrong way. Gillette is supposed to be selling a product, it is not their job, certainly not in their best interest, to throw men under the bus.

      Stop boys from wrestling and what? No one will ever be hurt by another person again? Is that the message? If only they’d have tea parties like the girls, there will be peace on earth? If only men could lose the testosterone and be more like women? They shouldn’t hang out at the grill? They shouldn’t notice an attractive woman? They shouldn’t be men?

      This emasculating of men has been going on for some time now, but this particular ad seems to be more blatant and in our faces than we’ve seen before.

      I think I’m done.....for now! :)

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      This ad? Seems more like an ad aimed at women to me. Well, not women in general....maybe I'm just sticking my foot in my mouth here. Just saying it doesn't seem to me to sell to the population they are aiming for. But this isn't an article about marketing and hitting the mark.

      https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/01/gillette-...

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      Maybe I can find it on YouTube.

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      P.S. Leland, I do not see any reason why you couldn't write an article on this same subject matter, yours could be from the perspective of a non-cave dwelling male. ;)

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Thanks Leland, I have heard good things about Dollar Shave Club, may have to look into that.

      I am not sure who is in charge over at Gillette, but they are misinformed. I agree, they have slit their own throat with this ad and it may not hurt today or tomorrow, but it will eventually hurt!

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      Hi Shannon, I am surprised that you have not seen it yet, I hear that it has gone viral, so there will be ample opportunity for you to be subjected!

      Thanks for that chest beating image...not!!!

      Florida has changed a lot, we aren’t as friendly a State as we once were. I think all of the gentlemen have either died or moved to Texas.

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      A B Williams 

      4 weeks ago from Central Florida

      You are a male Eric, I imagine your head is doing a lot of spinning these days. Mine is spinning, but for different reasons and I must agree with you, Moms...and Dads, give the best advice.

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      Leland Johnson 

      4 weeks ago from Midland MI

      AB-this is one of your best. I'm jealous because I wish I'd written it! I think Gilette has, somewhat ironically, slit its own throat this time. I abandoned their overpriced razors a few years back in favor of Dollar Shave Club, but after seeing the commercial I might go back to using Gilette for a week just so I can have the satisfaction of boycotting them. I think they are going to see a mass exodus of customers, that is the few that remain after reasonable razor companies like DSC and Harry's.com have demonstrated that you don't have to pay $30 for 5 decent disposable razors. I pay DSC $6 a month and they have a superb product. I think this was a desparate attempt by Gilette to revive its miserable revenues and it failed miserably. I know that inside women despise the wussified men the media and the left claim to love. The metro-sexual with hand bag and man-make up in tow- images that sound good to leftists but never seem to find traction in the real world. For all their liberal chatter people generally like to see men portrayed as strong and heroic, check out the latest Mission Impossible flick or any film in theaters right now for that matter. Shied weilding, sword swiping, swashbucking, gun toting men... Leftists may control the press, thank goodness they have no grip whatsoever on reality. Thanks for this awesome and timely article!

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      Shannon Henry 

      4 weeks ago from Texas

      Okay, Miss Ma'am (to borrow a phrase used around here), I do not know what commercial you are talking about. Apparently, I have not seen it yet. But I have to say that your titles are hilarious and they draw me in just to see what you're talking about.

      It may be an age thing, but probably more of a location thing, that I hardly notice things like this. I suppose that what I think of as simply being polite seems a little less common. However, where I live, men still do open doors especially for women and for men, too, to be polite. But the reason I said it might be more of a location thing is that I can clearly remember the first time I had a gentleman come around and open a car door for me just for the sake of being a gentleman. It was my freshman year of college - after I'd moved to the south. Not that my friends back home weren't polite; it just wasn't the same. "Yes, Sir" and "Yes, Ma'am" are still quite common around here to address your elders when being polite or to answer a question and I like it that way.

      Hmm.....now look what you've gone and done. Instead of men beating their chest like apes, I have images in my mind of women doing that! Neither image is very flattering - but, hey, go feminism ( to the extreme)! LOL

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I just heard of this turn of phrase yesterday.

      I get a lot more bashed by 25 year old machismo men for being a big old white fat guy. My closest thing to be emasculated is that my wife makes more money than me. But haha I get to take care of our son. Uh oh am I being labeled as a stay at home dad? I guarantee I am not a sissy pants - oops is that a bad thing. I sure hope doesn't catch us peeing out back like us boys do.

      I figure there ain't much that a man can do now that a woman can't - well wouldn't be a toxic female or is a really wonderfully feminine woman a toxic female. ( this whole thing has my head spinning - I wish my mom was still around I would call and take her advice)

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