Domestic Abuse of Philippine Women in the USA.
Exploiting Foreign Women
In this article I will be discussing the deplorable conditions some foreign brides find themselves when they come to America and marry it's dubious men. Let me be clear there are many fine decent American men that bring foreign women here and have great marriages and families. Sadly this article is not about those terrific men, It's about the dysfunctional dregs of our society that seek out to bring women here with the sole intention of abusing and exploiting them.
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The Reason Why Men Seek Out Females From The Philippines
Here are some of reasons why American men seek out females from the Philippines and other third world countries. Quite often these men tend to be older divorced men that wish to get remarried and start a new family. The obvious problem in our culture is it's very difficult for a man in his 50s or 60s to find a woman in her 20s early 30s that would date and eventually marry a man of that age. This stigma does not apply in places like the Philippines for various social and economic reasons.
Some men are social misfits or have disgusting addictions that would not be tolerated by women here for other's the challenge could simply be you're not handsome, obese, short, bald, poor, nerdy, have disabilities and a whole host of other reasons why they are rejected. It's a shame because most of these attributes by themselves shouldn't exclude a good man from looking and finding companionship and love, nobody deserves loneliness just because he or she is not perfect. Unfortunately in our Madison Avenue celebrity culture there is air brushed perception of beauty that drives what is socially acceptable in mates in the USA.
Many men still to this day see women from from third world country's potential doormats. Let me borrow a quote from one of my previous articles "many western men still hold onto a very strange perceptions and stereotype about women from the East many believe these women will wait on you hand and foot speaking only when spoken too and would be happy to live out their lives keeping your bed warm 24 hours a day" In fact you will find most online sites that specialize in Asian brides perpetuate these stereotypes.
The American Men Marriage Loser List.
The example I list below are relationship I have first hand knowledge of and should give you an idea of what some women from Third World countries are exposed to and why men of questionable character seek out and are attracted to these vulnerable women. It's not hard to understand why girls from third world countries fall victim to these men. The obvious reason is the wretched poverty and bleak future they would have in their native homelands. Bravely and naively they set out in a desperate gamble to escape their homelands in hopes for a better life. Many know very little about the men that are attempting to bring them here having only one face to face meeting in many cases. Imagine how hard it would be to assess a man's moral character and temperament from one short visit, phone calls, writing.
It would be almost impossible for any of these real men in the subjects below to marry and keep a woman here in the USA. The vast majority of western women would not tolerate the conditions and the abuses that these women are subjected to.
- The professional - my wife came across this young girl ten years ago and befriended her she had been brought here by a pharmacist who had filled her head full promises of the good life but what she got was a nightmare. She was confined to her home 24 hours a day he would only let her outside to mow the lawn and wash his car under supervision. There were strict times to perform intimacy without her consent and when she would protest he would abuse her physically. We tried to help her set up an appointment with a woman's counseling and rescue shelter but eventually lost contact with her and sadly we don't know whatever happened to her.
- The senior sugar daddy - I know many 50 to 70 year-old men who have married 20-25-year-old girls from the Philippines just to have a young trophy wife and the caretaker, they are not interested in starting a new family. Many want prenups to protect their money and property often because they plan on leaving these things to their adult children from first marriages. This leaves their new wives to largely to fend for themselves in the event the husband dies or the marriage ends. The girls usually go along with these prenups because they will do just about anything to escape the crushing poverty of their homelands. Once in the States and they realize their situation many of the girls have no intention of staying long term with these men. From their perspective it doesn't make much sense to waist 10 or 20 years of their prime childbearing years being a nursemaid for these men in their twilight years knowing that little or nothing is going to be left to them. Eventually when they finally meet a young man usually at a work place thell jump ship and believe me most men won't care about the circumstances how and why they got here.
- The slave pig farmer - American farmers love Filipino girls especially ones that come from rural areas in the Philippines they are a dream come true. It's been well known farmers have found it difficult to find workers in this country. Many old farmers have found the perfect solution this they divorce their old wives and bring a Filipino girl here. This kills two birds with one stone they now have a young wife to satisfy their Viagra driven needs and free farm labor. We personally know a Filipino girl that lives in an old dilapidated soot filled farmhouse that the husband lets his chickens roam around freely in. she is required to plant, tend, and harvest garden crops, split fire wood and tend stove all day and night as needed. She has to cook, bake from scratch, feed the chickens and pigs. She has to help slaughter and process animals when required and help her husband in the barn fixing equipment.
- The cheapskate cheater - This man is a big auto executive he travels the world to visit his many mistresses abroad. His home base is in Michigan where his Filipino wife resides he keeps her in a dilapidated home he in a slum neighborhood in Flint, Michigan. She has no driver's license or car so she has to walk to the nearest grocery store that is many blocks away passing through dangerous neighborhoods to get what she needs. She receives only $30 allowance per week for her food and personal needs she says can only afford to eat is Ramen Noodles or rice.
- The college tuition scam artist - One of the first things this man talked his new wife into was to take out a high interest rate not accredited college loan. What happened to the money you might ask? Well the deadbeat husband ended up blowing it mostly on himself and paying off his overdue child support payments from his previous marriages. They have recently spit are are now in the middle of a divorce leaving her to deal with these large loans. I doubt she will ever be able to pay them off because she still has no education to get a good job.
- The mamas boy - This 50 year truck driver has lived with mom all of his life and because he helps pays her bills he cannot afford to buy a home for himself. The girl is miserable living in the house with her mother in law who is very mean and controlling. The poor girl has to stay in her bedroom with her door locked almost 24 hours a day to keep her sanity. The husband does not allow her to have friends a drivers license or work I recently heard this relationship won't last very much longer she is preparing to leave him.
- Trapped with a paranoid survivalist out in the middle of nowhere - This guy didn't have the qualifying income necessary to bring the girl here by himself so he used his mother to financially sponsor her visa application. He lives off of social security, hunting, fishing and growing some small amount of crops. They live high on the mountain top in a cobbled together home that looks like a two-story grain silo. He says he built it that way so he can easily see if he's being attacked by any direction. The truck he drives is an old dilapidated 1967 powder blue Chevy pick up truck with a large rusty crack in the frame. On the pickup doors he painted a simplistic pastoral scene of sheep grazing in grass with the words ( sheep thrills ) you may draw your own conclusions. The guy never describe accurately to the girl his real living conditions. She now lives practically in the middle of nowhere totally dependent on this man and his 1860s lifestyle.
- The alcoholic family man - The poor girl never knew the extent of this man's drinking problem until she came to the States and married him. This guy has put his family through the ringer with his verbal and physical abuse. He has been caught multiple times driving and drinking by the police. He now spends all of their extra money on his lawyers, fines and educational classes ordered by the courts
- The recluse gamer - This guy does not participate in any family activities such as school functions, movies, outdoor actives, social parties. His wife says the only thing he likes to do after he gets home from work is shut the door to his man cave and play computer games all night long until bedtime.
- She gambled and lost on him - Poor Debbie this good friend of ours thought she married a fine and decent man. In the beginning of the marriage everything seem relatively fine living a normal family life. Fifteen years into the marriage the husband decided to retire after working 30 years at an auto plant. Her husband decided to move away to a remote city in northern Michigan where he had grown up as a boy, once there he hooked up with his old childhood friend who apparently had a pension for gambling. Once settled in his friend invited him to go to the nearby Indian casino for some fun. Over the next two years the husband managed to gamble away their life savings included his pension, 401K, savings accounts, money put away for their children's college fund, and more. This resulted in a broken family and a divorce.
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This article to be sure offers only a small peek into the deplorable bleak conditions some foreign brides find themselves. Our hearts goes out to all of them we only wish there was more we could do for them. US laws and screening for fiancée visa's and marriages to Third World women are limited in scope. Obviously there are large gaping holes in the screening process that should be addressed without making things more difficult for good decent men that have found love abroad (which there are many) from bringing their loved ones home.
Now I know there are people out there that have lived sheltered lives and would find this article and subject matter hard to believe. I would encourage you to think out of the box, pretending this does not exist won't help educate and bring these issues to light so they can be addressed socially and legally.