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America’s Internal Parry and Parley

Updated on November 19, 2017
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I like to come at things from a different angle. Usually if we take some words and apply them to ourselves we can then apply to the world.

One of a Kind

What could be better than a laughing Buddha?
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Perhaps a Flamenco or Perhaps a Tennessee Waltz

There is a great word “parry” and another alike “parley”. The former is a move to fend off an attack. The Latter is to basically sit down and discuss options with an opponent. There is thrust and countermove and the only real difference is the level of human violence. But maybe not as we are seeing that words now hurt us more than sticks and stones. A new America maybe.

It seems to me that Yalta, Korean War armistice, and Vietnam “talks” are worthy for anyone to look at. No I do not mean as a study of history and yet I do. I read about matters like this for fun. Thank you I qualify as an information junkie or a nerd if you go back a decade before everyone had computers. Oh for sure, sometimes they laughed at us for playing chess after school and for being “bookworms”.

But as most reading this know I get way further out into the spiritual and philosophical. And one of the coolest things that I have found about the aforementioned “parleys” is that they work in my family. For those familiar with the above we even debate which table to sit at to hash out opposing positions.

The parry is an art form perhaps incorporated through the “Art of War” by Sun Tzu (and others). And most excellently played on with Steven Pressman’s “War of Art”. One the internal being made by the external and the other the external being made internal. No one knows the parry better than an accomplished courtroom/trial attorney yet the money is there to be made in the parley. Please note that on a whole lawyers can do serious damage or good with nary a sword of the physical lifted.

One of my favorite quotes of all times is “There must be space within and a space between”. (ed 2010)

As we look further into this let us take note. My seven year old does not need a “safe zone”. He fears no bully but knows some. He creates a “what is right” zone, and stays within it. His worse crime to date at school was not ratting out a friend. You can imagine the parent teacher conference and boy to dad talks. “If it harms another do whatever it takes to stop it, if it does not harm another keep your nose out of it”. Schools and I do not agree on such notions. (of course this is within the confines of report suspicious activity)

A Parley of Two?

Below is an awesome display of parley. Perhaps Ginger and Fred even do a bit of romantic parry, that sexual tension that makes so many movies great.

The a tête-à-tête. Perhaps the most important kind of parley or even parry.

Let's Call The Calling Off Off!

Cups of Agreement

Nothing better than toasting to another's good health.
Nothing better than toasting to another's good health. | Source

Worth Fighting For?

And neither do you or I completely agree here so let us take a look at the parry versus the parley. If you are at all interested with all the North Korea turmoil going on you should look at the ultimate parley. For sure it is one of the longest wars in modern history. (But check out the Dutch war of 1651-1986; 335 years without armed conflict for most of it.)

Back to Korea and war and parley. Did you know that South Korea and the Allied forces including the USA are still at war with North Korea? That blew my mind as I researched it. Yes, the sides only agreed to an Armistice, or cease fire. The war is still alive. So that parley for a negotiated time of cessation of hostilities is, not was one of the finest parleys ever.

To my understanding this notion of cease fire, is the champion of words over physical combat. Perhaps the pen is mightier than the sword. Some would hold on to the concept that any settlement of disputes needs both sides to walk away unsatisfied. Interesting idea.

We are not quite ready to move on into the “study” of parley and parry in our spiritual realm but close.

“Bullying”. As a child I liked to fight with fisticuffs. It was not the beatings either way. It was the ultimate game of parry. It was so cool. I could watch for a bigger guy bullying a smaller one. A space where there is no parry, just a whooping. No matter the outcome I was a hero like Sheriff Dillon or “Sarge” on Combat. Or maybe Rowdy Yates or the Lone Ranger. Could I even compare to John Wayne? You see there was very little about the little guy the parry was the end goal. Smashing my face into another’s fist was all part and parcel with the deal – “badge of honor”? You see bullies do not ever seek parry or parley. They simply prey on the weaker. Nations and Individuals, institutions, certain groups. If the goal of being aggressive is to inflict punishment on another, I say that goal is not worthy.

“Use our words instead of our fists” is just a wonderful idea, unless you are the kid being bullied. I was raised youngest of 6 siblings. And I was near the youngest in my grade. And I imagine I was bullied. I simply do not know of it. Defeated yes but bullied? I just cannot wrap my head around the idea for me.

Tree of Peace or of War?

Yes that is a Mustard Tree
Yes that is a Mustard Tree | Source

I Listen To This Every 18th of Every Month.

Let Us Parley, So We Do Not Fail

There is an old story where Jesus confronts these maniacal idiots who are going to stone a lady to death for her sins. Now those stones would be a brutal hateful death. It would not be a parry it would be murder/homicide. Not two opponents but horrible hate on one side without the ability to parry on the other. It kind of makes one wonder at Socrates and Hemlock and the US death penalty.

When one has been captured and restrained by the governance without ability to defend of what point is the stoning?

There are things called fighting words. Such verbiage as to make justified physical reaction. There is a notion of defamation per se. Injurious statements as to ones character.

There are words that create danger though none exists. Yelling fire without there being one in a crowded theater. These are words that are an action in and of their selves. They are not parley they are not parry, they are verbalized disrespect. They are a cause of danger and panic.

America truly is a nation. A nation really is less about borders and far more about its people. Within its borders on just about every issue or level some chant for parley while others demand action. That is our space within. And like it is the appropriate space between the USA and other nations or peoples. And again some chant for parley and others demand parry.

America was actually founded more on a failed parley than the war of independence. What was parried for was actually the words of the Declaration of Independence. It started with “No taxation without representation.” But a refusal of England to seriously parley. Ended with the parry of a new nation.

We are in a proper phase of great conflict within our borders and between our people. We need to tone down the calls and rhetoric for parry and reignite our calls for parley.


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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      10 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you much Frank. I really love to write.

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      Frank Atanacio 

      10 months ago from Shelton

      I have to admit Eric that this hub made me write with a powerful pen..bless you

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      11 months ago from Washington DC


      I did not say you are enlightened, I said "in a higher level [of] enlightenment" which I would think is appropriate for many people who are able too grasp what I say. I don't even consider myself enlightened, only in a higher lever than man-en-mass.

      Peace Brothers.

    • manatita44 profile image


      11 months ago from london

      Thanks Elijah.

      You are a good man just don't call me more enlightened. It is crucial that I have Zen mind... beginners mind.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Elijah.

    • The0NatureBoy profile image

      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      11 months ago from Washington DC

      Since you, Eric, and Manatita are parleying with me LOL...

      With the way the U.S. government is attempting to keep children from understanding anything - what else can we expect from the land called Mystery Babylon - I supposed I should return to writing in six-year-old language. I shall see if I can muster that guy again. However, someplace the length of comments are too short to do it.

      RE: 1. No preacher ever go his point across if it took over 20 minutes.

      If I was able to speak it - my computer doesn't convert speech to writing - I don't believe it would have taken me 20 minutes but due to reduced feelings in my hands it took me that or more to write because feelings cause me to make typos that "auto correct" often makes even worse.

      RE: 2. The Ten Commandments on which all law is based, numbered ten and can fit easily on one page.

      True, the West's civil laws are based on the ten commandments but what is called "god's" laws are ecologically based. If we want to find the laws directing us to "enlightenment or everlasting life" we must humble ourselves enough to become willing to live like all other animal-kind as Genesis 1's lived prior to the flood and Adam and eve lived prior to their eviction from the garden.

      RE: 3. Albert Einstein — 'If you can't explain it to a six year old, you don't understand it yourself.'

      When the editor of my website talked with me about how I wrote she said six-year-olds understands better than how I was writing my site to read like and was backed by some comments I obtain before loosing my comment and visitor counter. Now that I am attempting to communicate on an adult level I have two who are in a higher level enlightenment suggesting I should make my concepts much simpler. Will someone please help me meet the medium!!! LOL

      Thank both of you, I will work on it.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Manatita. Your thoughts are quite similar to mine in this area. I like to say that each day brings us an old awakening.

      No doubt that Elijah is a very good man. I think his message should be heard. And so that is why I hoped to challenge him to write in such a way.

    • manatita44 profile image


      11 months ago from london

      Yes, we are all Gods and you are deeper than I thought. That kind of awareness would have you shot somewhere and most certainly in Christianity not so long ago. We are already Spirit, but yet to be re-awakened to our true Source.

      yes, we can gain more knowledge when you think of God as Infinite. It is an ever-transcending journey.

      I came back last night. Elijah is not a bad man. Just complex. I told him so before. There are two major Paths among all Paths of the spiritual life. The way of the mind and the way of the Heart. The way of the mind is valid, yes, but a very difficult road. The way of the Heart is the shorter, sweeter, gentler way... it's the way of the child.. of simplicity ...

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita I always love your insights. I noticed you said from London on your location, but aren't you in Germany? LOL

      Do you think that a seer has more knowledge or that he is just more in tune with the knowledge most of us have? Somehow I get the notion that we are all gods. But that would mean in our Alpha and Omega states. So how could we actually gain more knowledge. A parley with the universe?

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I undestood perfectly what you said. I agree with much but let me suggest three things here: 1. No preacher ever go his point across if it took over 20 minutes. 2. The Ten Commandments on which all law is based, numbered ten and can fit easily on one page. 3. Albert Einstein — 'If you can't explain it to a six year old, you don't understand it yourself.'

      As smart as you are you should be able to relate to common people.

    • manatita44 profile image


      11 months ago from london

      Two of my heroes in Fred and Martin here. Actually, Ginger too. They used to blast Martin's speeches up on a hill in Auckland. One could hear it for miles! Perhaps they still do.

      You use parry and parley quite successfully. Are you taking a dig at the warmongers too? (Chuckle) It's scary to think that the Saviours keep coming with the same message and little effect. It is not like we do not have history.

      You are not a bookworm, but an educator. Knowing the past helps, or should help us to be more tolerant. Does it?

      Food for thought in your wonderful Hub and lots of it. Hari Om!!

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      11 months ago from Washington DC

      Bro Eric, let me see if I can word it so it doesn't look like I use "stammering lips and 'Another Tongue' [to] speak to" you (Isaiah 28:10-11).

      The death of Adam and Eve after eating "The Knowledge of Good and Evil" was spiritual or the inability to see things as a whole because their eyes of association closed leaving them seeing only what their physical senses perceived, only half of the matter. Then, because of the law "take the man ... [and] put [them] to death ... with stones without of the camp" means to teach them the nature seen in the self-reproducing environment, in the case of the girl guilty of adultery, and teach her the intended purpose for sexual activity because man, prior to the concepts of good and evil, (Genesis 1:26-28) engaged in sexual activities in the same way as all other animated life did, for reproduction only. Also, because the 2 stones Moses smote were the spiritual understanding of all things the first and later messiah (Exodus 4:8 & Isaiah 11:1) the stones represented it would kill in man the concepts of "good and evil" the "new birth" concepts representing a metamorphosis; man living by civilized standards die to such standards and return living ecologically as all other life on earth do.

      Attempting to push others to do something they don't usually do, more often than not, will fails so maybe my attempt to show you how to put "precept upon precept, line upon line and a little from here and a little from there" failed it's purpose. I hope the above doesn't.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      My friend do you think that given the length and breadth of your comment a common man can follow it?

      Sometimes our God given genius requires a tone of normalcy or our message is lost and it then does only good for us.

      You are brilliant. You prove that. But maybe you should prove that you can be understood -- just a thought.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      11 months ago from Washington DC

      Thanks for your well written definition and examples of the difference between the parry and parley, you've increased my vocabulary by two words.

      Now, allow me to "parley" with you concerning the meaning of the original Jewish law in Numbers 15:35. "And the Lord said unto Moses, The man shall be surely put to death: all the congregation shall stone him with stones without the camp."

      First we must realize the death of Adam an Eve upon eating from the tree of "The Knowledge of Good and Evil" was not physical but spiritual, there inability to "comprehend all things" - as the term "man" means - because their spiritual eyes were closed and allowed them to see only one of the two halves of everything. Notice how they were naked prior the eating and become aware of it after eating "Knowledge of Good and Evil".

      Second we must recognize the two stones Moses smote while bring "Israel to their land of promise" represents two messiahs with their water being their messages which would cause man to overcome "The Knowledge of Good and Evil" and, in turn, make the "stoning" to mean "teaching".

      Third is the fact that it was done "outside of the camp" or communities once they were settled in their lands.

      Putting those three things together to explain what you spoke of requiring to "stone a lady to death for her sins" we find ...

      Upon the exit from the garden Adam and Eve were allowed to re-enter the garden provided they went through the [mind purifying] flame on the [cutting away from all attachments] sword. Being put out of the garden means they began the civilization by comforting themselves from the conditions of the environment because of not comprehend our body's senses messages to our brains. They only understood what their preferred sense revealed.

      Example. When we put our feet in cold water during summer we feel a chill sensation all over our bodies saying it's cold but, in fact, the actual message is our senses are saying our pores are closed because of the cold you we're entering for protection from hypothermia; as soon as we exit the water and our feet touch hot sand our profess opens allowing the b body's heat to escape for preventing a "heat stroke". That is why I am able to dress as you see me in my photo in temperatures as cold as Zero degrees F.

      Therefore, what was meant by the above law was to take the person into the environment and show them the ways of other animated life and encourage the woman - in that case it relates to the man's inability to comprehend all things and not a gender - which would be a step toward the return to the "Tree of Life" - eliminating their judgmental opposites for returning to life - still in the garden or self-reproducing environment.


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      Eric Dierker 

      11 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for your kind words of encouragement for all who may read.

      One of my most difficult issues is staving off my own ego. If I fight for the right reasons it is good and honorable. But I am afraid that too often I have fought for my own self aggrandizement.

      If we beware of ourselves we may be aware.

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      Yes indeed..we must keep trying . I was always the protector of the under dogs. And there were many in Catholic school especially in 50s. There just so many sweet kids without voices or any way to p 

      11 months ago

      Yes indeed ...we must keep trying. I was always the protector of the underdogs. And there were many in Catholic school, especially in the 50s. They were just sweet kids without a voice or any way to parley or party, just take it and cry. The nuns would try and put out my spirit by knuckle ruler wacks , but it only made me more empowered to continue. I learned parley from my parents as they were always for the under dogs too. But hoping not just standing up for them, but in modeling and teaching that we all have a voice and internal empowerment to proceed with our journey come hell or high water.


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