Angry, Controlling, Egotistical Women...Always Right? Always the Boss? Why is That?
Angry, Controlling Women
As an avid reader, I have read hundreds of books. Many times, the main character is a woman, who inevitably meets up with a man, and together they work to solve a mystery of some kind.
The woman is almost always a very strong personality, holding her own against whatever comes her way. A positive trait for anyone to have, right? What bothers me is that all too often, she is so angry...and that anger is directed at men in particular. The chip on her shoulder is the size of Texas, and it's so glaringly obvious that it gets annoying right away...
I see this out in public, in my family, on the internet, too. The women who "rule the roost", in other words. No one tells THEM what to do, or how to live their lives, and they won't even consider the idea of letting their husband in on decision-making. It's almost as if they think they will lose control of their whole life if they allow a male--even if it IS their husband--to help in any way.
It's as if they've forgotten that success in a relationship requires give and take from both parties. It's NOT losing control to share in decision-making. It's NOT being a doormat if your husband gets HIS way, sometimes.
Why should you, the woman, be the one in charge--make all the decisions? Why are you so much better qualified? Why are you so angry at the world?
Watch how her husband has NO control over this lady
Why Are These Woman SO Angry?
It makes me wonder...why are there really so many angry women out there in the world? Women who feel that they are so much more important than men that no man can even come close to measuring up to their standards, so they just dismiss them out of hand as inferior to them?
And what made them so angry? A bad relationship, possibly, or an abusive father or male relative? A boss who made a pass at her? Or are they just born with this aura of self-importance, of narcissism?
I can't wrap my mind around this attitude. Maybe because I have never felt the need to be "superior" to any man--I would rather a relationship be equal...with no superior egos "in charge", husband OR wife.
I was once in a lop-sided relationship, to someone who didn't respect me, and who always felt like the world revolved around him. But I didn't let him turn me against men in general--I knew better than to think that all men were like that. I had been raised by a wonderful father who was loving and caring to his wife, and to his children. And I have had many male relatives who have been very special to me, too, and who always treat me with kindness.
If I had adapted the "angry woman" persona, I would have never met and married the man whom I have loved and cherished for 25 years. If I had decided that all men were unworthy of me, I would never have known what it would be like to be married to someone who loves and cherishes me in the same way I do him.
So I wonder--are these women truly satisfied, living their lives angry at the world? Don't they realize what joys they are missing out on? Is it more important to them to be right all the time...to be "in charge" every single minute of their lives?
Let The Anger Go...
As far as I'm concerned, life is about compromise--giving a little, taking a little--from everyone around you. Going through life being angry and proud can only hurt you--while letting go of the anger can be a positive action.
Bitterness and stubbornness will weaken a person, while compassion and caring will strengthen them...and it is much harder to be compassionate and caring when times are tough, so if you think about it--being angry, stubborn and prideful is actually the easy way out...
So then... what does that REALLY make you?