Are You a Member of "Just a Face in The Crowd," or "The Famous and Renown?"
Fame and obscurity.
Inside almost every member of society lies that secret yearning to be noticed, heard by others, and maybe someday win an award for their accomplishments. This is known as fame, "living in the lime light." But on the opposite side of the spectrum lies the other area that most people enjoy, while the rest dread each day that they live as "a face in the crowd," or living in obscurity.
Are you just "a face in the crowd?" If you were, just how would you know it? We do not have, in our so-called advanced society, have a machine or gauge to determine who is just "a face in the crowd," or whom is not. It would surely be nice if we did. A lot of hearts would be mended while other hearts would be at ease at knowing their place in life.
Pain is relative to both groups.
Members of both groups, those of the "face in the crowd," and those with "fame" as their daily companion do a certain amount of suffering. And it is hard to detect in both groups to what extent and specific area they are suffering. Some, factually-speaking, in the "face in the crowd" group have not even realized what it means to be just "a face in the crowd" for they are so accustomed to being unwanted, unnoticed, and painfully-unrecognized for their work or presence in our lives.
I give credit to the late Andy Griffith, famous for his "Andy Taylor," role on the "Andy Griffith Show," which was quickly seen as an icon of American entertainment. Griffith was also a noted radio comic, writer, producer and director as well as accomplished actor. He starred in the drama, "A Face in The Crowd," as "Larry 'Lonesome' Rhodes," an obscure, booze-loving "ol' boy" from Arkansas who spent time in the jailhouse. That was until an ambitious radio show producer, Patricia Neal "Marcia Jeffries," puts "Lonesome" on her station and soon fame not only finds him, but changes him from an obscure "ol' boy" to a nation-wide celebrity who finds himself driven with his own greed and powerful ego.
Signs of Being "A Face in The Crowd":
- It is rare that you are the topic of talks at elite and regular cocktail parties.
- Only one out of ten knows your first name. (and they are your oldest neighbors).
- You "work like a dog," but never receive one ounce of recognition for all of the business you have single-handedly brought into your company over your 15-year spotless career.
- You are growing accustomed to that gnawing in your spirit that says you are better than the obscure place you have settled for in life.
- Even at home when you and your lovely wife of 20-over years are talking about old memories, her fondest memories are those of "Johnny Castronelli," a rounder, hustler and neighborhood "hero" for saving her dignity that was insulted by "Louis Jackson," the all-around obnoxious bully.
- Your pastor, "Rev. Joseph," called on you before worship service (you thought your time to leave the "obscure" side of life behind) and mispronounced your name. Of course, you being the dedicated and selfless church member of over 12-years, laughed with the crowd at his faux pa.
Do you see yourself in or know someone who is in either of the two groups mentioned in this hub?
Signs of Being "Famous, Loved, and Not Obscure":
- Your back has red welts from your coworkers (and fellow church members) patting you on the back for doing so many things. You have heard: "You must be called for this," so many times now you are growing weary of this phrase.
- You have to say no to the last three big raises the boss has given you for you have trouble remembering why you are being monetarily-rewarded. "I make more than you do, boss, haw, haw," you joke. But honestly, you are telling the truth.
- Two weekends out of each month your neighbors throw you a "Salute to 'Louis Palmer' Party," with tasty barbecue and all of the trimmings.
- You are constantly confused for Brad Pitt each time you shop at your local TARGET store.
- When your "Uncle Thad," who always takes the family photo at your annual reunion, he always insists that "you" stand in front of the other 230 cousins, nephews, nieces, sisters, and brothers. It is a wonder that you are still loved due to the nasty jealousy this gesture courtesy of your "Uncle Thad"
- Everyone thought that "you" made a better actor for the beer campaign: "The Most Interesting Man in The World," than Jonathan Goldsmith. And you have never had one acting lesson.
"Ways to Break-Free From Being Just "A Face in The Crowd":
- Try doing something gestures of kindness and giving for the other obscure souls you encounter in your live.
- Learn to smile more at your circumstances which in all measures of honesty, are "not" that bad. You have a nice home that's paid for, two kids at a state university, both graduating with degrees and at the tops of their classes, and you are a Deacon at the church where you have served for over 12-years.
- When talking to friends, stay away from natural complaints that all humans talk about. "I am not paid enough," "I wish I could be promoted," are two of the harmless complaints we humans talk about.
- Suggest or nominate (by secret means), a neighbor, fellow church member or coworker for an award of appreciation that is to be awarded in a few months. Do not worry. God has perfect vision.
- Speaking of God. Why not just "talk" to Him frequently and avoid those long, drawn-out religious dialogues you think of as prayer. He has emotions like us. He made us in his image, so talking to The Creator may be "your" source of real peace that you have been seeking.
- Tell your lovely wife and children how much they mean to you. Do this often and not just on holidays.
Hey, I just had a wild thought: "It could be that your "fame" and awards of appreciation may be reserved for you in your life in eternity. Ever think of this?"