Are you Embarassed?
Is embarassment fading?
It could be just me. It seems that people don't embarrass anymore. According to webster's embarrass :means to be anxiously self-conscious. It seems not many people are conscious in these times, self, or otherwise. It seems that if the bounds of social behaviour seem to be stretching, or more likely 'erasing'. It literally seems like no one gets embarrassed anymore.
People can do or say the darnedest' things without batting an eye. Like the people on cell phones who share their conversations with the world.Try tuning them out. They seem to get louder. Iv'e heard everything, from some stranger's financial woes, their criminal endeavors, and even some sexual escapades too risque' to mention here. I'm sometimes embarrassed for them. Most of the time just annoyed. It seems that America (maybe the world) has become ruder.
So yes I do still get embarrassed. For myself. Sometimes on behalf of other people. Sometimes my embarrassment is a direct result of other's actions, and direction. For instance, the person who wants to ask you, "how old do you think I am?" I am always afraid to guess too low, which would seem an obvious lie. Or too high which could wind up insulting the person. Maybe I shouldn't care but it again embarrasses me when someone else fishes for compliments. So, maybe that guy the other day got what he deserved when I guessed about ten years too high. Wish he hadn't asked. Or when someone puts you on the spot, by asking you to tell, a joke or funny story to a third party. Well maybe you were on a roll the day you first shared it with them. Usually for me, if I tell a funny joke I don't remember it the next day. Or the people that always ask you to look at some baby..."isn't he/she so cute?". It's embarrassing if you don't react with quick, awe inspired enthusiasm. So of course I should just smile and say yes, right?
One of the most embarrassing things for me is to be with someone, and run into someone else I know, and of course after a brief chat , you're expected to introduce them. Its always the person whose name escapes me that I run into. It's a small world after all. My body sometimes has been a serious source of embarrassment. Seeming it seems to have a mind, or will of it's own. Certainly I can't be the only one whose inner workings decide to 'explode' in the checkout line, elevator, or at work. Even on a date once. I was too embarrassed to ask for a second date. Maybe i'll make a date with the doctor.
KIDS SAY WHATEVER
Kids can certainly be a source of embarrassment (not teenagers, their another category). The small cuddly ones who'll ask a stranger why they "look funny'?" or they'll whine' "what's that smell?" at the most inopportune moments. They usually say exactly what's on their mind. Of course you can forgive them their non embarrass capacity. Since they have (if you're a parent) bestowed the honor to you. It seems the only way to embarrass a child anymore (especially teens) is to lavish affection upon them in front of friends. I encourage parents to do so. Maybe you will spare us a future 'loud cell phone talker!
- Have Americans Become Ruder?
Is there a loss of good manners in this country? If so, what happened?