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Battle of the sexes, and the fight of the fittest

Updated on October 20, 2015

Open your eyes:

He walked in wearing a shirt that revealed his chest. She slammed him into the wall and told him that he wasn't Simon Cowell, and couldn't pull off such a revealing shirt. She went on to say how no one but her could love him, so why bother trying to look good? She had done him a favour by being with him anyway.

Getting closer to his face she shouted: "You look ridiculous".

"How can you look in the mirror and think you look good?"

"Why are you trying to embarrass me in front of my friends - dressing like that?"

"Who do you think you are?"

He let out a few tears, which began to make her laugh. Poor him. Poor him? what about her? how can she deal with the embarrassment of having someone like that be associated with her?

Doesn't everyone know that, in such a materialistic world, appearance is everything?

She hit him in the face. Repeatedly.

The next day he called in sick. He stayed at home lying under the covers, listening to her speak to her friends about how she was sick of him, how he doesn't deserve someone like her, how she gave him everything.

Once he gained enough strength to get out of bed and look in the mirror he noticed familiar colours from previous weeks, months and years that he had tried so hard to cover.

Purple. Black. Green. Purple. Black. Green. Red.

Familiar shapes around the eyes appeared - one's he would have to make excuses for.

"I fell"

"I got into a fight, but you should see the other guy"

"I walked into a wall"

All excuses that he had used before. All that sounded too familiar.

But he is a guy. She is a girl. Surely a man is dominant, the worker, the decision maker. How can a lion lose his pride to his lioness?

His friends would say that he's under the thumb. Or make remarks about how his collar is too tight. He is a man, he doesn't let a woman define him.

Now read this replacing the genders. Would you view this story differently if a female was a victim?

Equality: are you sure?

Don't you think that, as a society, we need to open our eyes to the rise of female violence?

If you type in domestic violence into Google images, what do you see?

Females. Violence against females. Females coming forward about being abused - both physically and mentally.

Where are the male pictures?

Why is there nothing about how men can be abused too - both physically and mentally?

Do we feel that men are known to be dominant and won't, or can't, be abused by a weak, little female?

Open your eyes. We are equal.

Equality means for the good and the bad. Women can do what men do; that includes being the hand that beats their partner, or the poisonous mouth that spits venom into the face of their 'loved one'.

I bet you didn't know...

"About two in five of all victims of domestic violence are men"

"Men assaulted by their partners are often ignored by police, see their attacker go free and have far fewer refuges to flee to than women"

"men made up about 40% of domestic violence victims each year between 2004-05 and 2008-09"

"In 2006-07 men made up 43.4% of all those who had suffered partner abuse in the previous year, which rose to 45.5% in 2007-08 but fell to 37.7% in 2008-09."

The official figures underestimate the true number of male victims, Mays said. "Culturally it's difficult for men to bring these incidents to the attention of the authorities. Men are reluctant to say that they've been abused by women, because it's seen as unmanly and weak."

"The number of women prosecuted for domestic violence rose from 1,575 in 2004-05 to 4,266 in 2008-09"


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