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Beliefs and Values Regarding Prejudice (Part 2)

Updated on June 21, 2012
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Please read part one first: http://angelabrummer.hubpages.com/hub/stopping-racism

Jeff went off to play professional football and I entered college where I was presented with choosing a topic for a paper that would amount to one-third of my grade in the class. I decided to look further into why officers of the law would feel comfortable treating my friend with such little respect. Back then research was done on micro-film in the library. I compiled a note book of endless hate crimes and the growing number in white supremacist organizations. I was alarmed to find that only thirty minutes from were I lived was the main mailing address for the neo-Nazi skinhead organization. Up until this point I was under the influence that most decent people would be disgusted by a racist organization. Although my report was done years ago, the continued growth of organizations members has prevailed. Only recently an arrest was made in Florida where a compound surrounded by barbed wire contained troops being prepared for a racial war. The group planned to establish dominance by whites by killing Jews, immigrants and minorities. They also planned to manufacture a ricin that could be used in weapons in mass destruction.

After hearing how Jeff was treated so distrustfully, no doubt brought on by his color of skin, and what I unturned by writing my paper I decided that I would stand up to hatred. I would not listen to racist jokes no matter how innocent they seemed. Imagine if you were at a gathering and unknown to yourself one of the white supremacy members that I mentioned above was the one delivering the joke or even listening, wouldn’t your laughter just empower them thinking you also felt hatred for other races?

I went onto have children and again was rarely confronted with racism. I went out of my way to transferred them to a school that was a melting pot of many ethnic groups. I recall after the tragedy of “911”, my children, quite young then, kindergarten to the fourth grade, spoke to me telling me that they were concerned about how people might treat their classmates from Saudi Arabia.

It is not always easy to stand up for what you believe in. I was a very miserable nine months pregnant, and had just spent three hours in the hot sun being a volunteer on a field trip for one of my children. I pulled up to a Quick Shop in a brand new sports utility vehicle (my husbands new toy) to get a much needed cold drink. As I was walking in out walked a group of three young black men and jumped in a rusty old car that reminded me of the one I drove at their age and pulled away from the pumps. Just when I had thought I couldn’t be any hotter or miserable I could hear the clerk blurting out ear burning racial slander about the young black men while I walked towards the coolers. He continued his idiotic behavior as, I approached the register, I began to pray, “Please god help me have the words and conviction to say something regarding this horrific hatred?” I handed the man my soda and he continued raving, still I was at a lose for words and said nothing. Finally as I held out my gold card to pay, my hand displaying a $10,000 diamond, and my pregnant belly touching the counter, he turned to me and said, “Don’t you agree?” I don’t know where the words came from but I answered, “I don’t know? My husband is black.” His hands trembled uncontrollably as he handed my card back and I walked away thanking God for the perfect words.

God wil help you stand up for what is right!


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      Marcela Arnaut 5 years ago

      Great hub, Angela. I read the first part and this one thoroughly. It was written very well, maintained my interest, but most importantly it is centered on a significant subject. I know racism is still present today and the experience you friend had is an example of racism. I have never experienced anything close to that but not long ago, for the first time (that I know of) I experienced being stereotyped for being a Mexican. I was working as a caregiver for the elderly in an area where white, high class, elderly citizens are abundant. I had just become an American citizen and the man I worked for told me it was a relief because now I would not risk being kicked out of the country by the border patrol. In his mind I was here illegally, not knowing that you can actually be a legal permanent resident without being a citizen. One time I mentioned I was taking my girls to Disneyland. Surprised, he mentioned how great it must be for my girls to get to go to Disneyland for the first time, not knowing that my girls had been to Disneyland two times before and to many other places, for that matter. And these were just two of the many signs that he was prejudiced. It's amazing how even today people can be so ignorant and judge you not just on the color of your skin but on your last name, job title, and background.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Laurinzo Scott: Thank you so much! What a nice thing to say!

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      Laurinzo Scott 5 years ago

      Yes you are a very brave woman Angela... and such bravery commits the world to social justice... incredible hub, and journey!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Cardisa: I was surprised the perfect words fell out of my mouth also! I will always be proud that they did.

      Docmo: Thank you for giving me your complete attention. I am sorry for the drunked women in the ER. Yes I am very sad about the small group that focuses on hatered instead of love. Where do they come from? I guess we all know that spreading ill will is taught! Also, it seems strange that that old saying birds of a feather flock together proves to be true time and time again. I wish everyone could spread love instead.

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      Mohan Kumar 5 years ago from UK

      I didn't know what to expect when I came to these hubs. I read Rahul's wonderful poem and the link he had made. This is an outstanding, heartwarming narrative from someone who is passionate and powerful in their beliefs. I love your outlook and courage and the sheer drive that makes you share this. It is people like you who keep the spirit of humanity glowing brightly as we create a truly multicultural society.

      I grew up in India where caste system and religious differences meant little to my younger self. My parents were Hindus but my Dad's best friend was a Catholic and his favorite teacher was a Muslim. I was surrounded by elders who still cast aspersions and remember seeing my grandma not touch the hand of the cleaner because she was an 'untouchable'. I grew up determined that all humans were equal regardless of color, caste and creed. when I went to Medical school my outlook only broadened. I came to UK for further studies and stayed here. On my very first shift in this country I was working in ER and went into a cubicle to suture a wound on a very very drunken woman's head and she shouted out loud, "I am not having my head touched by a nig-nog!" a local derogatory term for colored people. I could've flinched then, but I was amazed by the number of people around who looked genuinely embarrassed and upset and apologized to me for the behavior of this stranger. I walked away ( having sutured her head, with care and diligence) with a not an ounce of malice but the clarity that wherever we go, there is a minority who would love to fan the flame of hatred. But it is in the open minded others, the ones who fight that flame, the one's who douse it with their kindness, humanity and spirit that I should pay attention to.

      Like I am paying attention to you now, a total undivided attention to your story, your message and your courage, Angela Brummer. You are an inspiration to us all.

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      Carolee Samuda 5 years ago from Jamaica

      Your ending surprised the hell out of me and that clerk must have nearly peed his pants as well. Those words were perfect and you didn't have to think of a speech. I have experience internal prejudices here on our beautiful island but I think those are misplaced. Never experience the real racism so have no idea how to handle it. This is a wonderful story and I am proud of you.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Justsilvie: I loved reading your comment. What a name for a street! I also pray with you that the group of haters is small.

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      Justsilvie 5 years ago

      Wonderful story and I loved your ending.

      When I was young I was an avid Star Trek fan (I am old enough to have seen the original series). One episode was about a group from far away who were black on the left white on the right and they had an ongoing war with a group that was white on the left and black on the right. Someone had to point out the difference because an outsider had no clue

      It made me think how absurd racism is. I commend you for speaking out; I know how hard that can be at the beginning.

      Having just moved back to the US after 15 years overseas I am now living in a state where I cringe when I see a street sign that says George Wallace Street or Blvd. I know the KKK is alive and well and the conservatives often seem of the far right variety. But then I go to restaurant, store or my doctor’s office and see people of all races interacting with smiles and courtesy to each other and I am convinced, the haters and the bigots are a small, but very vocal group and I want to believe this with all my heart. I really do!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      KellyRivers: Im basically on the outside looking in..the storys I tell can not be as disturbing to me as they are for you and Jaden. Thank you for commenting.

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      KellyRivers 5 years ago

      The sad thing is, you're not the only one with a story like that. However, racism is a two way street. My son is married to a black girl who we love dearly. She had a 2 year old little boy when they met and they have now been married 1 year last February. Ja'den is now 6. When we go places together, other black girls look at her like she is an alien. She can get them to smile no more than I can. How can you dislike someone you don't know? We figure it's because she's with a white family...and it seems to bother her none! God bless your writing!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Michele Travis: Thank you for your comment, and no it doesn't seem to die easily.

      lovedoctor926: We hopefully can work toward that!

      whydThatHappen: I agree.

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      Michele Travis 5 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Sorry I missed this. This is a wonderful message to people. Racism is all over the place these days. For some reason, it looks like it is getting worse in some places. I don't know why. Thank you for this hub. Voted up!

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      even if it means I meant.. this is what happens when I type too fast.

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Hi Angela,

      You did the right thing. I am a firm believer that we should stand up for what we believe even it means standing alone. I agree with J.S. Matthew that people shouldn't be judged by their race and much less by their culture. Hopefully, someday racism will become something of the past and people can look at each other beyond a person's race or skin color.

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      WhydThatHappen 5 years ago

      People can be ^So unbelievably insane!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Thank you so much Cloudexplorer the sometimes silent racism is scarey. We need to or you would be better at writing an article on the secret racist, as I have had now direct encounters with this! Bless you!

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      This hub was gripping to the very end, and then just reached right out with an explosive exciting bang, wow!

      Your experiences in dealing with differing race issues is a rough reality of our more modern era of hidden agenda type racism, and silent racism as well.

      It's a shame the slithery hateful ways people tend to harbor in their heart and their minds ain't it. Love definitely come to the rescue though as you have used as your truest weapon and vice to destroy such a retched condition of the mind as racism.

      Voted up and paying this one forward in every way for sure.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      The-Quietwarrior: Thank you so much! I definately agree racism has not gone away. Thanks for reading both articles.

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      The-Quietwarrior 5 years ago

      Yes..trust me..racism is still very much alive..though often times hidden in places you never would suspect. I enjoyed both Part(s) 1 and 2. Great article.Keep writing..

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      CrisSp: Thanks for reading and offering such a great comment!

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Your hub reminded me of one of my favorite books: "To Kill A Mockingbird". I'm sure you're familiar with that. At work, I am an advocate for Employment Equity and one of our goals is to completely eradicate racism and embrace diversity. It's very challenging but we're getting in there. I think, education is the key. Voted up and sharing!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Sueswan: Thank you again!

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      Sueswan 5 years ago

      Hi Angela

      A wonderful comeback to the store clerks racial comments.

      I pray for the day when racism doesn't exist.

      Voted up and awesome

      Take Care :)

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Sweetipie: Crazy how could they consider a man that promoted hate to be a loving father! He got what he created. Yes our families were all immigrants other than the Indians!

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      SweetiePie 5 years ago from Southern California, USA

      I love your retort to that shop owner. What a jerk. It is scary how xenophobia is on the uptick with the bad economy. Apparently there was this man in Riverside who joined a Nazi group, and he dressed up like a Nazi and everything. Well his ten year old son shot and killed him, and in interviews the family said he was a loving dad, and the son had issues. Really, I think if you had a Nazi dad as a father saying all other races besides white people should go home, then you might have some problems. Also, with the whole anti-illegal immigration rants, this are actually a guise for racists to spew hateful things. They are obsessed with illegal immigrants from South of the border, even though in the boom of our economy many turned a blind eye to business employing illegal immigrants, who do horrible jobs most Americans do not want to do. I really think your story will make a difference though, keep sharing it!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Cyndi10: Thank you so much!

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      Cynthia B Turner 5 years ago from Georgia

      Hello Angela, I was reading through your articles and came across this one. This is very well done. Racism is dangerous, but unfortunately, alive, well, and kicking in a big way. Silly me, I thought the world would be different by now. Keep doing your part to speak out.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      rajan jolly: Thank you so much and esp. for the sharing!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Angela, a very fitting end to a great write. I'm so glad that I follow someone who is not a racist. I admire your guts to be so vocal. God bless you.

      Voted all the way up and across. Shared too.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Becky Bruce: You are so correct! Thank you for your comment!

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      Becky Bruce 5 years ago from San Diego, CA

      Love this Angela! Jokes may seem harmless but they only keep false stereotypes alive.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Thanks again Junko!

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      junko 5 years ago

      "Let the church say, Amen."

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      dndwordsmith: Thank you so much!

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      Nique 5 years ago from Philadelphia County PA

      I have my own convictions when it comes to racism. Racism still exists in many aspects of our world. However, with wonderful people like you making a difference by speaking out against prejudices, injustices and racism It helps me to realize I can overcome alot of my "isms." Your hub "again" was interesting and I appreciate your taking the time to share it. Thanks again!!!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      tillsontitan: thank you for your comment!

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      I applaud your courage and comment. How said it is that racism is still alive in this day and age. I have a hard time believing it but am reminded each time I see the news. Voted up and useful.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Whowas: Thank you so much for the comment but esp.for sharing!

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      whowas 5 years ago

      Hi Angela,

      What a beautifully and powerfully written piece. I applaud your strength in confronting racism where you find it. I can't bite my tongue, either, on that or many other issues of oppression - against people of another race, against women, against children or animals...Personally I don't think there is any room in the modern world for racism of any kind - although I know how strong it is in many places. Whether it is inspired by religious convictions, political manipulation or simple stupidity and ignorance, it is wholly unacceptable.

      I think it's worth pointing out that current scientific knowledge completely undermines racisim. Evolution by natural selection demonstrates beyond reasonable doubt that all people - indeed all creatures of every kind - belong to the same great brother and sisterhood of life on this planet. In fact, the most recent genetic science shows that ALL human blood-lines originally came out of Africa about 150,000 years ago - so we are all africans! Try telling that to a Klan member with his burning cross, but it is probably true.

      However, whether you come at it from the point of view of someone who worships a compassionate god or an athesit, scientific perspective - racism is simply untenable in every case.

      My sister is black I(adopted when she was a baby)and it was through that - and having to defend her at school from various forms of racist abuse - that my eyes were first opened to these things.

      Thank you again for a wonderful hub. I rarely share hubs with my followers because I think they have to be really important to do so. I'm sharing this one.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      I can't help it! Have a hard time seeing anyone mistreated in any way! But, thank you for saying thank you!

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      Rev Bruce S Noll HMN 5 years ago from Asheville NC

      Hi Angela,

      Enjoyed both segments. Somehow I think Jeff got beyond his experience, horrible as it was, and he probably had the last laugh as well.

      I have difficulty with labels of any kind. Thanks for being you!

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      trish1048 5 years ago

      Angela,

      After reading both hubs, I so admire your convictions and that you stand behind them.

      I hope one day you can find your friend.

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      Melody Trent 5 years ago from United States

      This is wonderful. I live in a multicultural town that is somehow segregated. It makes no sense to me, there is much racism here and to little surprise a lot of violence, too. Each group wants to blame the other for that, but I blame the hatred.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Thank you for reading!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Thank you so much.... I like your profiel picture!

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      CJ Baker 5 years ago from Parts Unknown

      Powerful follow up to part 1 of your hub. Very poignant. I am glad that you have the moral conviction to take a stand for what is right and to properly educate your children.

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      MizBejabbers 5 years ago

      The story of Jeff is terribly sad, and I hope he never had to face that experience again. I grew up in a small town in North Arkansas that had good race relations. My mother played with black children in the 1930s when she was a child, although the schools were segregated. Some of the neighborhoods were of mixed race, but as in all towns, some were not. Our favorite eating place was a barbecue joint in the middle of a black area. After I moved to Little Rock, I found it was different. As a single parent, I bought a house in an integrated neighborhood close to the university so my son would be near college. Fourteen years later my new husband and I moved because the neighborhood turned all black and some of the newcomers resented having white people in their midst. Apparently there had been some threats made against us. My black neighbors across the street, dear friends of all those years, advised us to move because they "were worried about us." We moved.

      The knife cuts both ways.

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Thank you for reading!

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      rneufeld 5 years ago from Virginia

      Good job on speaking up! It is certainly a tough thing to do! It's sad that kind of thing still goes on here in the US, but I'm glad you took a stand!

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      Angela Brummer 5 years ago from Lincoln, Nebraska

      Thank you!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 5 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Well done. Thank you for shedding much needed light on this important topic.

      voting up

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      Ginger Ruffles 5 years ago

      Love it, wish more folks would "speak up"! To not speak up or to remain neutral is to join the side of the oppressor...

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      Thomas Silvia 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Angela, More people need to be brave like you and stand up for what they believe in to stop racism,well done !

      Vote up and more !!!

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      Tim Mitchell 5 years ago from Escondido, CA

      (wink)

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      Miche Wro 5 years ago

      Wow! Bravo! Wow! I am so proud of you. I am proud that you stood up when it was needed. You made him the clerk feel like what he was calling those guys. Small. The story about the football player was awful. I could not imagine how that is probably still playing in his head. This was an outstanding HUB, I am glad I inspired you to write this. As a matter of fact...this is my favorite HUB!! I am voting this all the way up!! We need more yous Angela...again I am so proud of you, and I am proud to be following your writings. Love it!

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      Dexter Yarbrough 5 years ago from United States

      Thanks for sharing. You have touched upon a sensitive issue and should be applauded.

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      ThoughtSandwiches 5 years ago from Reno, Nevada

      Angela,

      Like you, I made a conscious decision to not empower racist jokes by acknowledging any humor. You are more than correct, passivity in those situations is as bad as participating.

      I REALLY wish I had been in line behind you at that store!

      Thanks,

      Thomas

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      Martin Kloess 5 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. pt3 try class prejudice

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      JS Matthew 5 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      You carry a wonderful message in your Hubs that makes people think and also open their eyes. I am not a racist even though I grew up in an all white community until I moved as a young adult. There was a lot of racism around me but I never latched onto it. People are people and should be judged by their actions and character, not on their race, religion or ethnicity. Well done. I love a happy ending. Voted up and shared!

      JSMatthew~

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      Nicely said, Angela.

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