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Children Must Have Individualized Parental Attention In Order To Thrive And Have A Developed Sense Of Individualism

Updated on December 22, 2012

Individualized Parental Attention Helps Children To Thrive And Feel Important

Parenting involves more than just physical giving birth and providing children with food, clothing, and shelter. Besides the rudiments of food, clothing, and shelter, children must be exposed to the finer things of life such as cultural and intellectual exposure which included attending plays and museums in addition to enrolling them in the arts such as dancing and music classes. However, the most important thing that parents can give children is individualized attention.

Children need individualized attention from their parents in order to believe that they are significant within themselves. Parents who give their child/children individualized attention have children who develop faster socially, psychologically, and academically. Parents as adults have more knowledge and education to impart. to their children than an older sibling/siblings have. There are confirmed studies by sociologists and psychologists authenticating that a child/children who interact regularly with their parents develop have a better sense of well-being, develop intellectually, and have more advanced vocabularies than children who seldom interact with their parents but are left in the care of older siblings. Older siblings simply do not have the maturity and as vast a knowledge as parents do when it comes to interacting with children.

Parents who give their children individualized attention have children who are least likely have psychological and behavioral problems in school and later in adulthood. They also do not have issues with intimacy as they grew up in a family environment where there was an one to one relationship with their parents. There is not so thing as too much parental attention. It is of paramount importance that a child/children know that they have a parental figure that cares about them. It gives children a sense of security which is an enabling influence in childhood and beyond. When children receive individualized attention from their parents, they have an easier time of becoming independent and do not have attachment issues as children who have little or no individualized attention from their parents have.

Sociological studies show that a children who receive individualized attention from their parents are the least likely to engage in delinquent and/or other deleterious activities. One of the main reasons children join gangs is have a sense of belonging and to receive the attention that they did not receive at home. Many teenage girls became invited in deleterious relationships with the first person who shows them love is because they did not receive individualized parental attention at home. Children who do not receive individualized parental attention have no sense of self and they often feel lost in the crowd. They often seek attention from an older sibling/siblings who are not emotionally, psychologically, and/or developmentally equipped to give a child the individualized attention that parents can. Many times these children are prey to less savory elements in society with dire consequences.

I have encountered adults who did not receive individualized attention from their parents that were highly attention seeking and clingy. They are seeking the individualized attention that their parents did not give them. Of course family size is instrumental in this and it has been substantiated numerous times that children from small families receive more individualized attention than children from large families. Everyone knows this and I shall not go into a litany so the reasons this is so. Sociologists and human development specialists have been advocating the benefits of the small family for four decades now.

There are many people who adhere to the atavistic and outmoded ideology that giving children individualized attention result in "spoiling" them. However, this ideology is baseless and obtuse in its premise. Children who receive individualized attention from their parents have a better self of sense, achieve more academically and intellectually, are more emotionally mature, do not have problems with intimacy when they reach adulthoods, and are the least likely to engage in deleterious and delinquent activities. Children receiving individualized attention from their parents benefit in the long run.


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    • gmwilliams profile imageAUTHOR

      Grace Marguerite Williams 

      7 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To both b Malin and SweetiePie: Thank you, I could not agree more with your statements. Thank you again.

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      7 years ago from Southern California, USA

      My parents always involved me in discussions, which showed me that they cared. Sometimes I wonder about parents who ignore their children, especially in public when the little one is trying to get their attention. Many times the parent is too absorbed in talking to another adult, and misses what their child has to say. I believe if you speak to children like they are young adults from a very young age, they will feel more included.

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      b. Malin 

      7 years ago

      Children need to know that they are being heard. A parent needs to take and make the time to do that...It's so Important for the Child's Sellf-Estime. A wise and timely Hub on this Subject GMWilliams. My Sons are grown now, but when they were in the home, we made the time to interact and make each feel he was important. I look forward to following your Hubs.


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