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Choices, Decisions and Christmas

Updated on November 27, 2011

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When Choosing to be Happy is Considered Selfish

I am a 40 year old mother and a grandmother. When I decided to move back down to Florida to be with my fiance and future husband, (we plan to be married some time after the first of the year), my family threw a fit. My daughter is angry because I won't be there to help her out with her grandchild. I love my family, children and granddaughter dearly so this was a very difficult choice for me.

I divorced in 1997 from the father of my three children. Always poor and unhappy, I finally see a bit of a future with a man who truly does love me. This has been a hard decision because I will miss them very much. It is also hurtful because my daughter tells me that I don't care about them if I do this.

Anyway, the decision has been made. I put it off so I could go to my family's big Christmas party at my Grandma's Thanksgiving weekend. I am now leaving on Wednesday. I was laid off on Wednesday of last week so that gave me more incentive to go while I still have the money.

I moved back up here in September to try to catch myself back up. Everyone knew it was a temporary thing but now I am evil.... so my choices, decisions and Christmas have me feeling guilty because I want to be happy.


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    • Smokes Angel profile imageAUTHOR

      Smokes Angel 

      6 years ago from Broke Alabama

      Thanks for the comments. I did end up moving.

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      6 years ago from US

      I agree with Louise and am happy to see you both do something for yourself finally. Kids don't give up their lives for us and I suppose with age they think we none want a life, but they will see one day. Whether they do or not, go for it and God bless you with happiness the rest of your lives.


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      Louise Elcross 

      6 years ago from UK

      I really feel for you and the decision you have to make. I divorced my abusive husband in 1998. I have been on my own since. I have spent the last 13 years just being there for my kids. I have raynauds so spend my life in bed trying to stay warm summer and winter. I am depressed, poor and lonely. I decided to move to canary islands, a warmer climate, 2 thousand or so miles away from my children who are all grown. They have the choice to come with me and hopefully one day they will join me. we are on this earth only a short time and our purpose is to enjoy. we have to do what makes us happy and not do out of guilt. I wish you all the happiness in the world and hope make the best decision for yourself and not others. Good luck.

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      Barbara Badder 

      6 years ago from USA

      Interesting. Happy to see you writing again.


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