Dealing With Your First Gray Hair
DO YOU REMEMBER WHEN?
This is how it starts
A couple are going out to dinner and the husband, “Thad,” is almost-ready. The only thing he lacks is combing his hair.
His wife, “Lula,” who is very hungry, says, “You gonna be in there all evening?”
“Thad” laughs. “I’m ready . . .just lack comb . . .WAIT A MINUTE! WHAT’S THIS?” he yells.
“What is it, “Thad,” a snake?” “Lula” says with fearful-response.
“Thad,” realizes that if he tells her the “real” discovery he has made, she might view him differently along with their friends and coworkers.
“Uhhh, nothing dear. It was just a spider and I took care of him,” “Thad” says smoothing-over the controversy.
ENTER THE DEMON GRAY HAIR
What “Thad” has discovered is one of the most-powerful adversities that a man or woman will ever face. It is more terrible and terrifying than any devil from Hades. It can turn an athletically-built, husky he-man into a sniveling mass of quivering fear. It is the Achilles heel, the humbler of all mankind:
A GRAY hair. Yes, one gray hair. It’s been lurking in “Thad’s” head of beautiful, full black hair all these years and now it’s time to turn “Thad” into a eating, walking, talking, breathing being of little or no self-esteem, no confidence, and afraid to get out of bed.
Gray and white hair . . .
- Gray or white hair—sometimes colloquially called "salt and pepper" when it is 'peppered' throughout dark hair—is not caused by a true gray or white pigment, but is due to a lack of pigmentation and melanin. The clear hairs appear as gray or white because of the way light is reflected from the hairs. Gray hair color typically occurs naturally as people age (see "Aging or achromotrichia", below). For some people this can happen at a very young age (for example, at the age of. The same is true for children with white hair, caused by Albinism. In some cases, gray hair may be caused by thyroid deficiencies, Waardenburg syndrome or a vitamin B12 deficiency. At some point in the human life cycle, cells that are located in the base of the hair's follicles slow, and eventually stop producing pigment.
- The Journal of Investigative Dermatology published a study in 2005 which found that white people will begin to gray in their twenties and early thirties while Asian people begin graying in their late thirties, but most African people can retain their original hair color until their mid-forties. People with albinism may have white hair due to low amounts of melanin.
Fighting gray hair and winning
So with time being short, “Thad” combs some black hair over “the” one gray hair and puts on a fake smile to keep “Lula,” his life-long sweetheart from noticing how he is falling apart.
But “Thad” shouldn’t fear. He should be the man he’s always been—strong, self-reliant, confident and sure of himself, because he needs to master the challenge of . . .
Dealing With Your First Gray Hair
"Thad," my friend, remember to study . . .
THE AGING PROCESS -- everything ages, "Thad." Everything living ages. Everything dead ages--trees, carcasses, so get it in your head that you, no matter how great you look, you are slowly aging everyday, every moment that passes.
GRAY HAIR -- if it is one or five, is NOT new. So face it. Getting a gray hair will NOT stop the world from turning. Be a man and if no one sees your gray hair, do not volunteer the information. Be cool.
THERE ARE MANY -- ways to deal with gray hair. You must find the one that suits you. First, discipline yourself that you will not fall apart and let the thought of gray hair keep haunting you, for like a ghost, it will.
CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE -- on this gray hair. After all, it is only a hair, not a fatal disease. And some women and men "love" having gray hair because it gives them a new look. A look of maturity, more-stately, and charming. So do not "throw the baby out with the bathwater." Relax. And get the good out of this new pathway in your life.
NUMEROUS PEOPLE -- successful, powerful and ultra-intelligent people have gray hair. Albert Einstein, Admiral Nimitz, Harry Truman, Bishop Fulton Sheen and Mister Rogers. Can you just accept the fact that you are in the company of the elite by having gray hair?
DEAL WITH YOUR -- fear and pride before using any method to deal with your gray hair. It is really not about the color gray, but your fear that you will look old and not as youthful as you once were and that destructive-pride is holding you back from doing something mature about the gray hair.
VISIT A PROFESSIONAL -- hairdresser and get him or her to keep your confidence and ask him or her to color "just" the gray hair for you and just like a patient and doctor, you can visit their salon when you see more gray hair trying to take advantage of you.
BUY A HAIRPIECE -- that a professional hairpiece designer can design for your head. There is no shame in this method at all. And it could be more-economical in the long run. NOTE: just buy one that will not blow off your head in a windstorm.
GET YOUR BARBER -- to design a hairstyle for you that takes out the part of your scalp with the gray hair. When your family and friends ask, "Why the new hairstyle, 'Thad?"" You smile and reply, "Oh, just wanted something new and this will be the truth."
And lastly . . .
JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP -- for people who have gotten their first gray hair. And this is really important since you are a man of pride. This is an area of fright that needs tending-to and talking about it with others like you, will allow you to grow past getting gray hair.
NOTE: be thankful just for me. I am bald on top of my head. So I just trim and keep my head shaved as to not look like "Bozo," The Clown.