Desperate What Should I Do
If I tell you how many children we have you will judge me. "Don't they know where babies come from"? Many of the kids have been adopted. Nobody harasses us about those kids. Its our biological kids that we are harassed about. Nobody expects the adopted kids to behave well. They say,"Those poor dears, they have such nasty backgrounds they can't help themselves". The natural born children are expected to be well behaved and good at school. They are held to a higher standard than other kids because they look like us. It isn't fair for them.
We Make A Good Income
We make lots of money, but my partner and I just can't stop adopting children. It doesn't matter what they look like or where they come from. If we hear about a child in need we adopt him or her. We are pretty fertile as well. We have been doing this for a long time and it has become a habit. Now there are so many who depend on us we just don't know what to do.
We have fights constantly about the budget. I look at the budget like it's telling my money where to go. My partner looks at budgets as a straight jacket that keeps him from having fun. There seems to be well defined ways of budgeting. I read this book called the Complete Cheapskate by Mary Hunt. This book outlined how to get out of debt. It isn't easy, it started with cutting up all credit cards. Well that wasn't too hard. All but one was maxed out and we couldn't use them anyway. My partner instead of looking into this system and changing her mind applied for another credit account.
Did I say we make a good income? More than 7 figures is the income we make, but we have so much debt you wouldn't believe it.
She got the new credit card she applied for.
Our FICO score is over 700, but we spent at least 10,000 a month more than we earned, until we cut up the credit cards.
I just found out the FICO score predicts how likely you are to pay a debt. It has nothing to do with how much you can afford something. At least that explains why my sister's FICO score is higher than mine and she doesn't have much income.
The fireworks really hit when the kids started bringing home their friends. The friends stayed and stayed. Some of them have even gotten regular jobs. They don't seem to have any difficulty getting jobs. Don't tell anyone, but I think some of them are not here on the up and up.
I have a very big house and it is a shambles. The kids play games, talk and eat. There are piles of garbage around the kids. They are too lazy to pick up anything. They just throw their dishes on the ground. It's really hard to get help. It is so expensive. Having to pay so much for health insurance is about to bankrupt us.
Last week my partner yelled and screamed at how unfair I was to ask her to contribute some more of her income to the household expenditures. She went ballistic. She said" If I do that I won't be able to get my nails done every week, or my hair tipped every six weeks. You are just asking too much". Then the mother-in-law came in. She was upset that her daughter was upset. She screamed at me and said,"You are heartless, don't you care how my daughter looks". Then she asked me for more money in her allowance. I am ready to give up, but what can I do? All these people are depending on me. If I tell them I am not paying or cutting their allowances they tell me I am on a power trip and mean. What am I supposed to do. This household is out of control.
Should children be required to help around the house?
We have some of our own kids. We love them dearly, but we have to keep making money, so we haven't always been good parents. We haven't set up boundaries, so the kids don't know how to behave very well. I read a book about boundaries. It said to feel safe and secure children need limits. But my partner keeps buying every kind of thing you can imagine to make the kids happy. Well the grown up children, who have all gone to Ivy League schools can't get jobs.
I told them that ancient art history didn't lead to a well paying job, but that's what they wanted to study so my partner said,"You just go ahead, honey, do what your heart leads you to do", There is another who became a lawyer and now works for a none profit organization that doesn't pay her enough to live on. The story goes on and on. So much of our debt comes from school loans. We have kids who have graduated, but can't get jobs. Some of them work in restaurants. but their loans are coming due and they can't pay the interest. Those are the motivated children. We have several children who are high school. They stay up late at night then complain that they can't get up in time for school. They are about to fail and drop out of high school. They see their older siblings failing and think education is pointless. I am about to agree with them.
I love my children, but all most of them do all day is eat, play video games, listen to music and talk on their cell phones. I pay hundreds of dollars for cell phones. Did you know the cheapest data charge for a cell is $29,99 per cell phone. I did just hear about a family plan, but when they hear how many phones we have they smile and say "I don't think we can help you".
Those are our birth children. The ones we adopted have fetal alcohol syndrome, or are crack babies and they probably won't ever amount to anything so we have them on medicaid. We are showing them how to work the system so they are provided for down the road.
Our hearts are so soft that whenever we hear about a child in need we rush in and rescue them. We hire the best nannies. But the nannies don't stay very long. They tell us the children are unruly. Just because one of the crack babies(14) beat up the nanny she was mad.
Doesn't she have any sympathy for the poor kid. She said."You need to discipline those kids". I agree. I don't have time and my partner won't do anything. Well. she is busy.
Everything is so out of control. I can run a billion dollar company, but I can't run a household of 12. I am desperate, "What should I do?"
Do you think having a budget would help us?
The Real Story
What you have just read is an allegory of our United States government.
The government doesn't say," No", to anyone or thing if it sounds good. The government makes really good money on taxes. What do they do with the taxes? They don't know where the money they spend goes. They don't set boundaries or expect anyone to behave in a fashion that encourages good citizenship or good work ethics.
The children are discouraged and depressed, which sometimes appears to be laziness. Many of this generation have been babysat by television and video games. The government has made laws where children have to learn about sex before they can read. Then the powers that be are upset that the children can't read, but are doing sexual things with teachers and each other. They don't have any job skill or people skills.
I can go on and on about government and what is wrong with it, but unless "We the People" stop electing people who care more about telling people what to do while enjoying the nicety's of life, we are on an airplane on a downward spiral. It's never the fall that kills you its the stop at the bottom.
218 lawyers in the House of Representatives
54 members of the senate were lawyers
in the 111 congress.
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