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Disowning Your Child Due to Religion Issues

Updated on May 15, 2017
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· Would you disown your child, if they married someone from a different religion?

Children have their own minds.

Have an open heart and see the situation from most sides.

Don't be the one to choose for your child.

You are there to guide your child along the growing up years.

Once older there is only that much that you can do to protect your child.

It may sound tricky but think about it carefully.

You can't live in the past and raise your child in the same way that you were raised.

Too much has changed and you sometimes just got to let go and let be.

Children create their own lives and want to explore new avenues for you to intervene is not a right gesture.

You as the parent will threaten your child's needs and that you should not do to your child.

In many cultures children are still marrying the individual chosen by their parents.

It is sad to see such problematic issues and nobody helps in such families.

The chosen one has to be married and that is usually the final decision.

· Take for example the following story:

The incident of the Pakistani women aged twenty five. She was stoned to death and people watched over her and did not stop the violence.

The person was chosen by family and she did not want to marry him.

He was not her choice, and was her cousin. Over eight hundred girls have been killed in that way from over a year ago.

In many families children are disowned for such decisions.

Your child makes their own choices.

If they want to marry that person irrespective of religion color avoid getting into a conversation that would only destroy your family relationships.

Most cultures won’t approve or even try to accept other religions into their families.

Who you marry is up to you.

Love is more important to one another than the religion purpose.

I respect the traditions of other cultures but I don't approve of a decision to disown your child for not marrying someone of the same religion.

You are what you are, and you practice a religion that is brought on to you from the day of birth.

Most children are taught about religion from an early age.

Children should know the meaning of their beliefs. It is not always the case to marry someone from the same background.

Sometimes approaching parents about the one to marry can be most stressful.

You may feel it is easier to approach the parent you are closest to, or converse with the one who is most reasonable.

It can be most difficult to discuss your future plans about marriage.

Marrying someone from another religion is a tough decision. A traditional lifestyle can make the situation different to the modern way of life.

· If the person you choose to marry is worthy to you and you know what you found in that person what has religion got to do with it?

· Can you not open up and allow what your child needs in life?

· Do you think religion is everything in a relationship?

The lifetime commitment affects your not you as the parents.

· If your child is willing to make sacrifices that are you to comment on what your child wants from their relationship?

There are differences. You can overcome issues with great understanding which brought your child into the relationship in the first place.

Family members are also affected by the choices of their children, and it becomes a problem when parents intervene.

It is not the choice of parents only the choice of the children.

Parents do want to be part of what goes in their children's lives but instead of telling their child ''how to do'' and ''what to do.'' Parents should be guiding their children in their experiences.

Children eventually learn from their mistakes, and realize what their parents have been trying to tell them in all the years of growing up.

Life shows you just about all you need to know.

At some point in your life you will see that your parenting time is over and there is not much for you to do.

I read of how a Jewish father disowned his son for marrying into another religion.

I felt bad for the son, and thought how cruel of the dad to think that way.

The dad was very upset with the situation.

He refused to meet his son's girlfriend and did not want to be involved in his life.

It was unreasonable to expect Judaism to be important to the son when it was never important to the family.

The family had no explanation of why their son should not marry his fiancé.

Parents learn subconsciously from their parents and that is how you become and not what you actually do.

The practice of your customs makes you who you are and religion in this way affects many people of all parts of the world.

When you marry, the person becomes part of who you really are. Marriage is no hobby.

The person becomes part of your identity and marriage is something you do, and something that makes two people to see life from different aspects.

· It is normal to have different opinions about religion but disowning your child is a bit harsh don't you think so?

There is often something in your marriage that won't be shared equally. Religion is one of those parts of your life.

· Should your child learn of which religion to follow from a young age?

· Would you see it a problem if your child married to a different religion?

If you love the person enough to marry them then religion should not be a problem.

I married a Croatian (Catholic), I am Indian, and Hindu, and have not converted to Catholic. We are from two different parts of the world. We are happy and in love for over twenty years.

My parents did not intervene with concerns to the religion since it was my choice.

Children need to be properly taught about religion.

When adults they can choose their own religion in that way they understand the true meaning of religion.

Parents should not misguide children about religion.

· Do you think it is a good thought to let your child grow up and decide for themselves in regard to religion?

Then again, if your religion and beliefs are a major factor in your life, marrying someone from whose beliefs and religion contradicts yours should not be.

The totally different perspectives on life in trying to be together would be on a different wave-length.

· Did you marry someone of a different religion?

Religion comes between many relationships and traditionally you can't change the many issues.

· Does that mean you should disown your child?

I don’t mind the religion as I have married, so differently.

How one chooses to cope with each other’s choices is a greater part of any couple's lives in such situations.

What lies within is very important.

· How do you feel about religion?

I know that I am happy as I am and enjoy learning about a new culture it broadens my thoughts and life experiences.

I understand the different opinions of religion and I know that I can’t change the way people think but I can change the way I think and do.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      This was very interesting DDE. We raise our children to be responsible adults and then should allow them to make their own decisions. I understand the differences in religion but it breaks my heart when I hear about things like that Pakistani woman. Freedom is precious and touches all aspects of our lives, not, however, in some religions.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tillsontitan, so glad to see you back again. I have missed reading your hubs but have noticed a new one today. Thank you kindly for all votes and for sharing your valuable opinion here.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I can't speak for other cultures, but I can speak for the American culture, and I will never understand disowning a child over an issue such as religion. Love trumps all in my opinion. :) Great food for thought.

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      Marlene Bertrand 3 years ago from Northern California, USA

      "It is not the choice of parents only the choice of the children." I truly believe this statement. Too often, people are hurt in the name of religion. I would never disown my child for the sake of religion. I just think that is so wrong.

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      kidscrafts 3 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Great hub, Devika! I agree with you that we shouldn't disown our children because they choose a different religion. The most important thing for me is for them to be honest and caring human beings. Whatever the country we live in some people are more open than others to let their children choose their religion.

      Have a great day!

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      Billys1 3 years ago

      "It is normal to have different opinions about religion but disowning your child is a bit harsh!" Absolutely, this is your flesh and blood that you are speaking about here. If they choose to worship your religion and adopt your faith and beliefs then that is all well and good, if they don't then that is good also. It is their God given right to worship anything or anyone that they want to. There is only one creator of the universe no matter what you call him or her. As far as I know, all the different denominations have the same goal, to do what is good and to avoid what is wrong. So what does it matter what you call the person, thing or entity that you consider as your Supreme Being?

      What if the parent took the time and effort to really try to understand what it is that their child is believing in? I didn't say adopt the child's beliefs merely to understand them. This could bring a closer child/parent bond and the parent might even derive some kind of benefit from their child's "different" religious belief. This sounds like a win-win to me.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      This is one of the saddest things and certainly not areason enough to disown o child. So sad. People need to question their entire value systems if they involve rejecting their children. I don't care if culture or religion is an excuse. It is not right.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You have made so many great points in this hub, Devika. Rejecting children because they have different religious beliefs is very, very sad.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      We are a family of faith, but my husband and I could never reject our daughter if she married someone of a different faith. I don't think God would want us to reject her, either. Instead, I think he would want us to be there for her, come what may, the way he is always there for us, come what may.

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      We have to respect the decisions of our loved ones.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc you are so right religion should not be taken so strongly thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MarleneB so nice of you to stop be here. I too feel the same. Thank you for sharing your valuable words.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi kidscraft good to have you back here it has been a while since I have read a comment from you thank you very much for sharing your point here. Have a great weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Billys1, if only parents could think like that and allow themselves to bond with their children and listen to what they believe in how different most families would be? Great answer and always something to think about from your comment. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway, It is not right to disown your child for religion purposes life is too precious and to let go of your child that is not how a parent should think or be. Thank you for stopping by have a lovely weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello AliciaC thank you very much for such thoughtful comment

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      grand old lady it is so true about what you say here. Be there for your child irrespective of the choice of religion. Thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader you have stopped by at many of my hubs I appreciate your efforts and time take to come by. Thank you very much have a lovely weekend and take care.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Interesting hub! I Hated reading about the woman who was stoned to death-especially by her own father and brothers. It is something I can't even fathom, and over religion. To me, family comes first and all else is secondary.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi epbooks, I don't like what happened to the 25 year Pakistani woman that was sad. To me too I feel the same way about religion like you do. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. Your dog stories are so interesting.

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      justmesuzanne 3 years ago from Texas

      Great points! We face this issue more in the US in terms of right wing so-called "Christian" religious extremists disowning their children who are homosexuals and bashing themselves as "failing" as parents. Of course, they are right, they have failed - not because their child is gay, but rather because they have chosen to disown their child.

      Voted up, awesome, interesting and shared! :)

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Devika, it is so sad when tradition causes heartbreak and even death. These people love their culture more than they love their children. Thank you for highlighting this problem. We should all be concerned.

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      Mel Carriere 3 years ago from San Diego California

      Absolutely ridiculous. I love my children and I don't care what religion they are, or even if they have any religion at all. Naturally I would like them to share my beliefs but the parental bond is stronger than anything else. Great hub!

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      truthfornow 3 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      If you love your children, you don't disown or kill them. You have to accept their choices and hope for the best for them. We all need more love and acceptance in the world.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      justmesuzanne I understand your point of view here and once parents show failure towards their children immediately all falls apart. Thank you for all votes so glad you came by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi MsDora greatly mentioned from you so nice of you to stop by and share what's on your mind.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mel Carriere thank you and surely is ridiculous your strong words show you don't care about religion and also don't so agree with you.

      Hi truthfornow, children should be loved and cared for guided and led the way. Thank you very much for stopping by

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      A lady { and their have been many many others} disowned or even worse killed in the name of religion is beyond my understanding. You have as always wrote a piece that will surely bring more, opinions, than any other subject. Religion and murder two entirely different concepts seem to be as one in some countries. Or worse still, one being the excuse for the other!

      Voted up,useful,and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello, D.A.L. Religion and murder so much of tension and surely the lack of love shows all here. To disown your child because of religion or kill your child is a sad state of life. thank you for all votes I appreciate your kindness.

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      Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

      No, I won´t disowned my child if he had chosen a woman of different religion. I can´t understand why people stoned their daughters because of this reason. I can´t understand, too why the rest of that people do nothing about this stoning. Very horrible. Thanks for sharing this thought provoking hub, DDE. Have a wonderful weekend!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Thelma Alberts well mentioned, disowning your child for religion purposes is a horrible thing to do thank you.

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      Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

      I agree with you and I think it is quite harsh to disown your child. For one thing, children sometimes change their minds and return to what they were taught if they are allowed to experience another religion without pressure from their parents. As they mature they often change. Your hub gives us much to think about and an interesting topic.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Pamela99 thank you for sharing your helpful thoughts here disowning your child for religion purposes is sad for anyone.

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      Val 2 years ago

      I would not have eaten anything off the menu! Cheese scnawidh definitely was the safest bet! What is an acid salad??? And yes you are definitely are lucky, Alberta apparently is stuck in permanent winter!!

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