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Disowning Your Child Due to Religion Issues
Marriage and Religion
· Would you disown your child, if they married someone from a different religion?
Children can decide for themselves when older.
Have an open heart and see the situation from all options.
Don't be the one to choose for your child.
You are there to guide your child along the growing up years.
Once older there is only that much that you can do to protect your child.
It may sound tricky but think about it carefully.
You can't live in the past and raise your child in the same way that you were raised.
Too much has changed and you sometimes you just got to let go and let be with what ever the choices are.
Children create their own lives and want to explore new avenues for you to intervene is not a right gesture.
You as the parent will threaten your child's needs and that you should not do to your child.
In many cultures children are still marrying the individual chosen by their parents.
It is sad to see such problematic issues and nobody helps in such families.
The chosen one has to be married and that is usually the final decision.
· Take for example the following story:
The incident of the Pakistani women aged twenty five. She was stoned to death and people watched over her and did not stop the violence.
The person was chosen by family and she did not want to marry him.
He was not her choice, and was her cousin.
Over eight hundred girls have been killed in that way from over a year ago.
In many families children are disowned for such decisions.
Your child makes their own choices.
If your child wants to marry that person irrespective of religion, color, avoid getting into a conversation that would only destroy your family relationships.
Most cultures won’t approve or even try to accept other religions into their families.
Who you marry is up to you.
Love is more important to one another than the religion purpose.
I respect the traditions of other cultures but I don't approve of a decision to disown your child for not marrying someone of the same religion.
You are what you are, and you practice a religion that is brought on to you from the day of birth.
Most children are taught about religion from an early age.
Children should know the meaning of their beliefs. It is not always the case to marry someone from the same background.
Sometimes approaching parents about the one to marry can be most stressful.
You may feel it is easier to approach the parent you are closest to, or converse with the one who is most reasonable.
It can be most difficult to discuss your future plans about marriage.
Marrying someone from another religion is a tough decision. A traditional lifestyle can make the situation different to the modern way of life.
· If the person you choose to marry is worthy to you and you know what you found in that person what has religion got to do with it?
· Can you not open up and allow what your child needs in life?
· Do you think religion is everything in a relationship?
The lifetime commitment affects your not you as the parents.
· If your child is willing to make sacrifices that are you to comment on what your child wants from their relationship?
There are differences and you need to accept each other.
You can overcome issues with great understanding which brought your child into the relationship in the first place.
Family members are also affected by the choices of their children, and it becomes a problem when parents intervene.
It is not the choice of parents only the choice of the children.
Parents do want to be part of what goes in their children's lives but instead of telling their child ''how to do'' and ''what to do.'' Parents should be guiding their children in their experiences.
Children eventually learn from their mistakes, and realize what their parents have been trying to tell them in all the years of growing up.
Life shows you just about all you need to know.
At some point in your life you will see that your parenting time is over and there is not much for you to do.
I read of how a Jewish father disowned his son for marrying into another religion.
I felt bad for the son, and thought how cruel of the dad to think that way.
The dad was very upset with the situation.
He refused to meet his son's girlfriend and did not want to be involved in his life.
It was unreasonable to expect Judaism to be important to the son when it was never important to the family.
The family had no explanation of why their son should not marry his fiancé.
Parents learn subconsciously from their parents and that is how you become and not what you actually do.
The practice of your customs makes you who you are and religion in this way affects many people of all parts of the world.
When you marry, the person becomes part of who you really are. Marriage is no hobby.
The person becomes part of your identity and marriage is something you do, and something that makes two people to see life from different aspects.
· It is normal to have different opinions about religion but disowning your child is a bit harsh don't you think so?
There is often something in your marriage that won't be shared equally. Religion is one of those parts of your life.
· Should your child learn of which religion to follow from a young age?
· Would you see it a problem if your child married to a different religion?
If you love the person enough to marry them then religion should not be a problem.
I married a Croatian (Catholic), I am Indian, and Hindu, and have not converted to Catholic. We are from two different parts of the world. We are happy and in love for over twenty years.
My parents did not intervene with concerns to the religion since it was my choice.
Children need to be properly taught about religion.
When adults they can choose their own religion in that way they understand the true meaning of religion.
Parents should not misguide children about religion.
· Do you think it is a good thought to let your child grow up and decide for themselves in regard to religion?
Then again, if your religion and beliefs are a major factor in your life, marrying someone from whose beliefs and religion contradicts yours should not be.
The totally different perspectives on life in trying to be together would be on a different wave-length.
· Did you marry someone of a different religion?
Religion comes between many relationships and traditionally you can't change the many issues.
· Does that mean you should disown your child?
I don’t mind the religion as I have married, so differently.
How one chooses to cope with each other’s choices is a greater part of any couple's lives in such situations.
What lies within is very important.
· How do you feel about religion?
I know that I am happy as I am and enjoy learning about a new culture it broadens my thoughts and life experiences.
I understand the different opinions of religion and I know that I can’t change the way people think but I can change the way I think and do.
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Would you Disown your child for marrying someone of a different Religion?
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