Ellen DeGeneres, the Posters & Me
Do you support gay marriage?
How Far Have We Really Come?
One step away from checking my AOL e-mail, I saw that one of today’s top news stories on AOL involved Ellen DeGeneres. “Ellen Could Leave Show,” read the title. As her talk show is a huge success, this puzzled me. Why would a woman who struggled so hard to get back into the mainstream cut out now? I clicked on the link and it led me to PopEater, a celebrity website that I’m not too familiar with. In this month’s edition of Ladies’ Home Journal, an interview with both she and her new wife, Portia de Rossi, is featured. As this PopEater article only gave snippets and one of the snippets touched on, but didn’t fully answer my question, I’ll be going out today to find this magazine.
One of the snippets that PopEater did publish concerned the DeGeneres/de Rossi summer wedding. As some of you might remember, for a brief period in 2008, California legalized same sex marriages. This past November, thanks to ignorance and fear raising more money than justice and love, Proposition 8 pulled the plug on California’s gay marriage life support. This was a major setback for American’s who promote progress and humanity.
Obviously, the people who commented on this article were the ones who drank champagne at the passing of Proposition 8. Relying upon their bibles and self-righteousness, they spoke of how Ellen and Portia are going to go to hell and deserve to die for what they and they alone, are doing to America. Wow. Is that why we’re in a Recession and teen pregnancy is up? I didn’t know that two people could do such damage.
The other snippets centered on her career (She might one day like to retire to Massachusetts.) and her thoughts on beauty (She is the new Cover Girl after all.) However, no one seemed to notice this. Why center on such mundane topics as career and inner beauty if you can berate a whole portion of society? This was not the forum to debate this topic.
It amazes me that someone whose job is to make people laugh is seen as a villain and is made a scapegoat for all of the problems of the world. Having watched her show more than a few times, Ellen has no evident sexual orientation or political stance on the show, unless she is asked for an opinion. Having learned her lesson in 1997 when both she and the character she played came out of the closet, she understands that in our society a big mouth with diverse views becomes jobless very fast. She doesn’t want trouble and she does her best not to make trouble. Ellen has become a family-friendly personality in many houses.
Still, she did rock the boat violently when she decided to come out so publicly. People are still angry. They never intended to tell their children about gay people. They never expected to see gay people in the community. Gay people belonged in San Francisco, Provincetown and hidden gay clubs all across America. Shame on Ellen for living so openly and for not praying for unnecessary forgiveness every day.
There are people, the bulk of them posted about the article, who pretend to be open-minded and even go so far as to say that they like gay people. However, they say the same thing that gets them thrown back into the bigot pile. They say that they want gay people to have the same rights as them, but they wish that gay people would keep it private. You can come to dinner and as long as you remain out of the dining room. These people annoy me most of all. They are on the fence. They can look welcoming to gay people while still being invited to hate meetings. They want to look progressive, but, if they were honest with themselves, they would see that they are still in the dark.
I understand why people have a hard time accepting gay people and rely so heavily on their morals. Though gay people have been around forever, it is only within the past few decades that they have been more noticeable/open about their orientation. With every generation, there is a new moral question. To some people, it was morally wrong to allow the remaining Jews to survive the Holocaust. To some people it was morally wrong to free slaves. To some people it was morally wrong to allow refugees to come into this country. To some people it was morally wrong to end segregation. To some people it was morally wrong to allow women to be regarded as human beings and not just another one of their husband’s belongings. To some people it was morally wrong to setup laws on child abuse. To some people it was morally wrong to allow interracial marriages. Our modern day society, considers the above moral dilemmas as embarrassing moments from our past. We know now that hesitating to advocate for these groups was in fact, the only morally wrong thing we did. One day, a future generation will look back on our current moral dilemma and scratch their heads.
I am not a very religious person. However, I do have strong beliefs. Having been friends with people who research the Bible, I know that these passages that the “Bible Thumpers” depend so heavily on have been deeply misconstrued. The Bible doesn’t preach hate. People do. Let us not forget that while the Bible has been around forever, it was written by men who had opinions of their own that may have found their way in. I believe that God is not a book. He is a loving, fatherly spirit who doesn’t judge or hate. I can imagine him looking down at us, wringing his hands, wanting to intervene, but telling himself that we will work things out on our own. I don’t know when people made it their goal to find reasons to hate each other. I don’t believe for one second that hatred is the meaning of life.
I’ll be buying that magazine today. If my hands catch on fire and my eyes turn to dust, I’ll be sure to have someone type my next piece for me when I’ll tell you all about it. Wish me luck.