Endeavor to Deceive
Endeavor to Deceive
“Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive!" I have always remembered the passage from Sir Walter Scott's long poem, "Marmion." However, I would not be able to say when I first heard it. I remember as a child the bitter taste of soap, placed under my tongue for hours at a time, when caught by my mother for prevaricating. I now realize that my memories may be slightly enhanced from the real amount of time I suffered. My mother will say that it was only for a period of thirty seconds to a minute. Somehow, time seemed to move much slower in those memories well instilled on my young mind. My father’s version of dealing with it, was slightly more malleable, and well I remember the sting of the lash, for the same transgressions. Reflecting back, I must say I preferred my mother’s method of retribution.
As I grew older, I learned that there was a difference in a black lie, and a white lie. White lies are allowed. Because, they are told for the conservation of relationships among friends and family. When asked by a friend, acquaintance, or loved one, how we like their hair, their dress, weight or an opinion on a subject, we diplomatically reply with a favorable response regardless of heartfelt thoughts or feelings. True it is not honest, but if it makes them feel better about themselves for only a moment, and will not lead to public embarrassment or personal derogation, I have trouble seeing any harm.
However, the "black lie," the "bold faced lie," the lie that causes injury or pain, the one told for personal gain, when individuals or groups prevaricate, and endeavor to deceive; these are the ones I imagine the anecdote referrers too. We live in a world where lies are becoming more and more common place. Where children see politicians give promises and dreams, that later were casually referred to as misinterpretations. When they hear, “I have no recollection of that,” as an acceptable answer, we teach them to practice dishonesty. Soon they become more concerned with improving ways to hide a deception, rather than understanding that the practice of deception in itself will affect the rest of their life. Recently a person I trusted (even though inertly I had concerns) lived down to my expectations. I felt strongly that what this person said, was all a lie. Because, I try to keep a positive outlook, I gave them the benefit of the doubt. I remained optimistic that they would rise above expectations, and show me my feelings were unfounded. Sadly my concerns were soon to be realized correct.
Many psychologists will say that when caught in a lie, and offered no avenue of avoidance, a person will become angry and resolute, in an attempt to regain their impugnable facade. When I began to organize my thoughts about this topic, and how many different words we have to dance around the word “Lie," it surprised me. They only emphasize acceptance of dishonesty. Words like Hedge, evade, quibble, dissemble, dither, embellish and stall; each one having other synonyms with similar meanings to alleviate the abrasiveness of the lie. Why do we allow ourselves to go through pain and suffering, as a result of someone's lies? Do they not know the deception is apparent? Yet we still allow them continue on, thinking we believe them. True, sometimes deception can not be caught in the onset, and only after pain or loss will it be revealed. The deception practiced will tarnish future trust in others. We look at the world around us, and wonder why it is on a downhill slide, yet we do nothing to alter its course. How many times have we heard: “Change begins at home.” Yet the media prints story after story shifting responsibility in other directions. If we as a society do not make a stance, will we not become the authors of our own demise? If I truly desire change, then I know what I must require from others. My challenge is to all who will join me in demanding a higher standard, creating a better world for children. Who knows, perhaps soap companies will show a rise in sales figures if we all work together for change.
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