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Eye for an eye? Is this appropriate?
Can't take the heat?
I was recently texting someone who used to be a significant part of my life. They're still a big part of it, but I've made the mature choice to move on and be happy without them. We have been attempting to stay friends but this is what happened today, I want your opinion....
I was telling this person that I didn't think some of his choices right now were the best. I realize that I'm far from perfect, but since he and I share children, I felt I had the right to give my opinion on a certain subject. I guess what I said hit home with him because he started to bash my life and choices. We had been getting along just fine up until this point. He had been trying to be nice and keep our friendship alive, until I decided to tell him that something he's doing, isn't appropriate. I honestly gave my opinion to help, not hurt him.
He hadn't said anything about my life until I shared this idea with him so was it wrong of me? As I said, we share three children together and he has them, percentage-wise, more than I do right now because after separating I needed to get on my feet and I wanted our children to be comfortable, not more traumatized by this major life decision. I was a stay at home mom for 15 years so my life now is completely different and very difficult. I didn't want my children to have to suffer anymore and have to be on welfare while I started a new life. I thought I was making the best decision. I still do. That being said, I want them to continue being happy so I believe that what I was saying to my ex was only for the benefit of all of us. I truly wasn't trying to be a bitch or condescending.
Again, his way of dealing with my thoughts was to start bashing me and my new boyfriend whom I love and adore. My boyfriend has been my angel and has loved me like my ex couldn't dream of. He has no right to talk about my life like this, simply because I thought he wasn't taking mature steps to do the same with his life.
Honestly, do you think I'm in the wrong here? Should I just keep my mouth shut even though I think his actions are affecting our children? He compared my boyfriend to a horrible, drug-addicted, mentally unstable girl that him and I both have known most of our lives. My boyfriend has almost nothing in common with this girl, why would he do this? I mean, you could pick similarities between almost any two people in this world. A murderer may have had a green t-shirt just like a school teacher. Does that mean they're exactly alike? Would you even try to compare the two based on one measly, insignificant fact? Tell me............