Fat Shaming Versus Caring About Someone's Health
Caring Versus Abuse
There is nothing wrong with stating facts. Being obese can increase your chance for contracting certain diseases for instance. That is factual.
But unfortunately, most of the people who claim they're just trying to help educate obese people are actually just insulting them and making life harder for them.
An Example Of Fat Shaming And Stereotyping
The Difference Between Care And Abuse
If you state that being obese can increase your chances of contracting certain diseases, that's okay. It's factual. But people use that fact to create a whole bunch of assumptions and criticisms that are cruel.
If you harass someone and lecture them every day about how they need to change their eating habits and why, you are being abusive.
If you can see on someone's face that they are uncomfortable about talking about their weight, and you're still harassing them about it, then you're just trying to hurt them.
If you think an overweight person deserves to cry because they are a moral failure and they should be humiliated into change, then you are abusive.
If you assume someone never exercises or only drinks soda because they are "fat", you aren't sticking to the facts and you're stereotyping.
If you make the narrative about them, rather than obesity as a whole. Like,"You're such a failure", instead of "obesity is a struggle that can be conquered and you're strong enough to do it", then you're being abusive.
When you speak, if you see fat people as pathetic compared to you, as someone who has less self-control, as inferior, less intelligent, or more lazy then you're being abusive. You're stereotyping.
You know what else? Cigarette smoking can cause lung cancer. Having sex can give you an STD. But I would never, ever think about going up to someone who has a certain disease or a bad habit and mocking them for it. I feel empathy towards them if they are suffering and it makes me sad, which is something any normal human being should feel.
Anal sex without condoms can increase your risk for AIDs, but you're prejudiced if you go up to gay people and assume they all have AIDs or assume that they deserve to die for experiencing some pleasure.
You shouldn't feel superior to an obese person who has a heart attack either or assume every fat person has diabetes.
Instead, there should be empathy because empathy makes people stronger. When someone is already sick or weak or struggling, empathy is more likely to encourage them than insulting them will.
And if they never change, that's okay. None of us are perfect and they deserve to be loved just the way they are.
Nicole Arbor Is An Example Of Fat Shaming
All fat shamers claim that they are just trying to "help people."
But why do I say she is a fat shamer rather than someone trying to help people?
Because she spends a long period of time mocking an overweight person for taking too much room up in an airplane. Because she mocks how sweaty and gross he is (fat stereotyping), instead of once complaining about the airline and how greedy they are for not having seats big enough to fit all people.
She complains about a fat family and exaggerates how disgusting they are. No one in the history of humanity has ever actually sweat lard.
She says they are gross for sweating, but when she says she was sweating, she's just a mistreated skinny person that you should feel sorry for.
She stereotypes fat people and says none of them exercise when plenty of them do.
She doesn't want to help. She wants to feel superior.
She actually thinks that shaming an entire group of people, making them feel inferior,will help them in life. All it does is create more suicide. So obesity is less healthy, but that doesn't mean they don't deserve to be treated like human beings.
A lot of factors effect health and there's plenty of obese people who are healthier than skinnier people. It's not necessary to harass people based on your perception of their health. That's something they have to deal with on their own.
Fat Shaming Isn't Helping
Shaming Actually Increases Obesity
As you can tell by the image above, fat shamers don't actually care about people's health. If they did, they wouldn't mock fat people who were dancing. They wouldn't even mock fat people who were struggling to walk. Because at least they are walking and dancing, right? If your goal is for them to lose weight, wouldn't you encourage them to exercise more?
This kind of reaction is from someone who wants fat people to feel inferior instead. People who feel inferior have a harder time changing themselves. They are more likely to feel suicidal and practice bad habits.
Everyone Wants To Be Accepted
Everyone wants to be accepted the way they are. When you're focused on someone's weight and changing or shaming them, you aren't seeing them as a human being. People who are dehumanized by society are more likely to die as well because they are bullied (which leads to suicide), mistreated (especially in this case by doctors, which can lead to death by medical malpractice), and physically attacked. If you want to help obese people the most, then embrace them as human beings.
Skinny Shaming Is Ridiculous, Too
When someone on youtube made a video mocking Nicole Arbour's attempt to fat shame people, it shows how ridiculous her entire video is. People can be so skinny that they are unhealthy, too, but it would be unacceptable to shame them for it. This video is not meant to be taken seriously, but to make you laugh and to point out how wrong it is to shame a group of people. Size, shape, skin color, race, or sexual preference, it doesn't matter. We're all human beings.