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Fear of the uh... Known

Updated on June 4, 2013

The popular saying known to many is ‘Fear of the unknown’. I however, have a different fear, a fear of the known. I am not particularly afraid of what is yet to come; I am afraid of what already exists. Because the future has yet to be determined, there is a chance of turning the fears of today, into hope for tomorrow. Fear does not have to be a bad thing, in fact, fear can act as a motivator, but it can also act as a hindrance. What we fear and what we choose to do with our fears can have an enormous impact on not only our own future, but the future of others.


Fear:


~ An unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.

~ Anxious concern.

~ Reason for alarm.

Any part of the definition is a feeling we can all relate to. At some point or another in our lives, we have felt moments of fear and we have dealt with them, whether facing our fears or running from them. The world around us, our environment, generates and continuously contributes to our fears.

Do not live in fear!

I am not normally an easily frightened person and sometimes, ignorance is bliss. Yet, fear has dictated my behavior on more than one occasion. After the attacks on 9-11, everything changed; I was almost afraid to live because I feared dying. I barely had my first child and found myself responsible for keeping another life safe in a time and place where safety was threatened and maybe out of my control. The thought of not knowing if or when the next attack was going to happen left me very anxious, always looking over my shoulder and afraid to go very far. I remember a beautiful, sunny fall day. I laid my son down for a nap and coincidentally find myself taking a nap as well. I woke up startled by what I thought might have been ‘another terrorist attack’, windows rattling and a God-awful loud sound of some engine or motor. I shot up like an arrow, swinging my arms and pulling the curtains aside, only to realize, after getting my wits together, it was just the train coming through the village. It was at that moment, when the fear dust settled that I realized I could not live like that.

Fear is inevitable. Fear should never be ignored, nor left unattended, it should be approached as a form of positive motivation in response to a negative issue. Face a fear, overcome it and move on. Simply fostering a fear but taking no action will result equally, in no reaction. Running from a fear is counterproductive as it will not go away but always be just a step behind you.

So many of us are guilty of the bystander effect, when dealing with fear. We acknowledge a problem but don’t know what to do with it and so we do nothing at all, while hoping someone else will stand up and do something about it. Imagine if we were all guilty of this… there would never be a change. Someone has to do something, so why not everyone do something.

My biggest goal is to turn hatred into love.

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Everyone has personal goals, regardless of how important those are to the people around them. Goals are a good thing but how fulfilling or rewarding would life be if the only goals we strive for are goals that will only benefit ourselves? We need to have goals that will inspire change; goals that will affect people, not simply a sole person. What you do is up to you and it doesn’t matter how big or small, doing something will result in something. Each act of kindness, each attempt to change, will add up and snowball. Imagine if we all shifted gears and started working as a people, each, doing one small thing to make a difference. A lot of small equals big. I’m ready for a change! You?

"The World I Know"

Has our conscience shown?
Has the sweet breeze blown?
Has all kindness gone?
Hope still lingers on.
I drink myself of newfound pity
Sitting alone in New York City
And I don't know why.

Are we listening?
Hymns of offering.
Have we eyes to see?
Love is gathering.
All the words that I've been reading
Have now started the act of bleeding
Into one.

So I walk up on high
And I step to the edge
To see my world below.
And I laugh at myself
While the tears roll down.
'Cause it's the world I know.
It's the world I know.

Let's change the lyrics to this song.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      manatita44,

      Thank you, I really appreciate the comments and the visit! Sometimes I just want to grab a hold of the people in the world and shake them to see if they're still alive! I'm sure I need to be shaken sometimes too!

      Thanks again!

      Cat

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      manatita44 4 years ago from london

      Well chosen and well written. Some great quotes. This hopefully will help us all.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Au fait,

      I always value your insight and you seem to be extremely level headed and kind of straight to the point. I'm sure you're getting a good enough idea of how I operate and fear has been a pretty big factor in my life; if not one thing, another!

      You're right, change is inevitable and it's a matter of learning how to 'roll with the punches'. This is something I'm working on... some of which, you have recently inspired!

      Thank you!!!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Kim,

      Thank you, very much... this was one of those 'just write' kind of hubs, you know what I mean? I don't really know what my main motivation was, but I know I've had an on again, off again relationship with fear myself, my whole life. Sometimes I seem to have none and maybe need a little... and others times my fears shut me right down. I am not surprised you've been courageous in the past and it is only human to fear... but I'm sure glad you're working on facing yours... you should never be held back... you are a gift!

      Thank you and best to you as well,

      Cat

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      I think younger people fear the unknown more than older people. Older people tend to fear the known because they realize through experience that life can change in the blink of an eye. It may not do it often, but when it does things could go either way.

      Change is the one thing we can depend on. It's going on all around us constantly. Most importantly, I guess, is controlling one's fear so that it doesn't hold a person back. Also, as you pointed out, living with constant fear gets old quickly. As with any traumatic event that can't be changed, we have to find a way to deal with it so that we can get up in the morning and move on.

      Very good essay and poem. Lots of wisdom here.

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      ocfireflies 4 years ago from North Carolina

      Cat,

      Not sure how I missed this one, but so glad to have found it. There was a time when I was rarely afraid of anything, but then life events changed that. Now, I am working hard to overcome many fears. Thank You for this hub for it gives me hope.

      Best Always,

      Kim

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Hey there you!

      Thank you so very much! These songs were part of my adolescence and I’ve liked them ever since but rarely hear either. A hub on anxiety; oh boy, that will be a must read! I’ll be looking for the notification. Thanks for stopping by girly!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Ed,

      Yes, that too :D

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      vandynegl 4 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Hi Cat!

      I love your use of songs in your hubs, by the way.....

      I am writing a hub on anxiety and of course, it is rooted in fear. Thank you for writing this! Great quotes :)

      G~

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      You mean the hugs hugs hugs ?........LOL

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      You are Ed, don't deny yourself ;-)

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      Oh I wish .........

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Ed,

      Well you're just my li'l ball of sunshine! I am aware of these fears... but I will not let them change or stop me! It is thanks to the shoulders of hubbers like you that I know it'll be okay! Thanks Ed, you are a beautiful man!

      Hugs, hugs, hugs!

      Cat

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      The lady is in deep ,deep thought with this hub , fear not my luv ! We are here for you now rest your pretty head on our hubber shoulders . Cat , there is no time for fears like these , live ,live live ! Those babies look to your awesome knowing smile !...........:-}

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Blondey,

      Thank you! It's funny, I never expect people to actually take the time to watch the videos, though I wish they would; I like them, that's why I put them here :D ... The end of the video almost seems like they come together and maybe there's a chance for hope... which might've compromised my plea for saving the world and changing the lyrics to the song... but I didn't expect anyone to make it that far.... your thoroughness proved me wrong; thank you! :-)

      I like that one too! Thank you!

      I agree; creative minds have more fun... I'm glad you see it that way too!

      Thanks so much for stopping and commenting!

      Cat

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      Rosemary Amrhein 4 years ago from Boston, MA

      I like the idea that there is no fear of heights but fear of falling- now that's cool.

      Great choice of videos, especially the first one which I had not seen, and the singer is cool.

      Yeah changing the words of the second one is a cool idea, but I like how the people got out of their cars.....You know I think artists have more fun you know? Being creative and not following rules like lying on top of your car arms spread out without caring is really living , lol

      Creative minds have more fun!

      Enjoyed it

      Rose

      Oh btw I like this one:

      IITim1:7 For the Lord hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Thanks Lurana! Isn't it funny how some days seem to drag you down and you feel so low and then every now and then you get a day that you just wish you could save the world? I dunno; welcome to my life :D

      Thanks so much, I absolutely appreciate your comments!

      Cat

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      This is so powerful, Cat, the whole thing! So much wisdom, from the quotes (Face Everything And Rise) to the lyrics...and thank you for sharing your personal insights. So inspiring!! ~Lurana

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      dreamseeker2,

      Thank you! Your youngest likes ‘Collective Soul’? They’re from my day… you’re from my day… aren’t you? :D If I’ve heard ‘Run’, it’s been a while; I’ll definitely have to YouTube it… and hey, so do I :D

      Thank you so much for all the awesome compliments!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Wayne Barrett,

      You ain’t tellin’ me nothing Wayne, that’s all I see now; you in that chair… writing away! :D Talk about distracting? Ha ha

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      raven765,

      Brother Bear!!! You are a busy boy, saving the world and playing father and husband :D But, I am anxious for you to get a fresh hub up when ya can. I knew you’d like the songs; we used to fight over quarters for the same juke box! “Everybody Hurts”; that’s daddy’s song. Thanks for finding time to come over and I appreciate the support, as always! See you when you get to New York! :D

      Love ya,

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Mhatter99,

      Oh Martin, you are brave… you love courageously! Thank you.

      Cat

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      dreamseeker2 4 years ago

      Love the pics, the thoughts behind your hub and the song. (my youngest likes the band, 'Collective Soul'). I like their song...'Run', which is what I tend to do when I am afraid. ; ) Great writing! Voted it up and interesting, Cat!

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      Wayne Barrett 4 years ago from Clearwater Florida

      Oh, there you go making me think about those hot buttered buns again! I am sooo distracted now. ;-)

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      Derek 4 years ago from Harper's Ferry

      I know, I know I have been HORRIBLE with commenting and getting on here, and even writing my own. I have a couple ideas brewing...Anyways, really nice piece! I especially love the 2 songs...good taste, especially Everybody Hurts. I LOVE THAT SONG! Good points though, deep thinking, and so true in many ways. Well, gotta read more. See ya soon (driving from work in about an hour, be there 1-2 ish...)

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I wish I were really brave. In all honesty, my bravery was mostly due to stupidity. (or to impress a girl)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Kathryn Stratford,

      Aw, my new buddy Kathryn! Thank you, I just don’t like all the ugly in the world, I’m sure I’m not going to change anything, but maybe make one person decide they don’t like the other either.

      It’s a good thing I’m hungry… ‘cause I so owe you a visit!

      P.S. I cannot be held accountable for the conversation in the comments section :D

      Thanks for coming by and the compliments!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      wayne barrett

      Well of course you do; you’re ‘Wayne-I-can’t-believe-it’s-not-butter-Barrett’, everyone loves you ;-)

      How awesome you’re working on an eBook; it’s so past due! I’m sure it’s keeping you plenty busy and I want to know when it’s out!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Well, Colin dear, I fear people too, but my doctor says I should work on that ;-) lol

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      This is a great piece of writing. Very inspiring. I love how you came up with so many quotes.

      I agree with Wayne, the comments here are interesting! I don't always read them, but on your page or Colin's, I like to!

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      Wayne Barrett 4 years ago from Clearwater Florida

      I'm glad to see I can still make the girls excited! : )

      I haven't been ignoring everybody; I am working on an eBook that is to be published and it is consuming me. At least I'm writing!

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      ....well why I said a faraway beach away from everyone, well, ah, I FEAR PEOPLE.

      lol

      big time

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      Otay. I put it in the FB thread where we were working on it. :D

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      Jennifer 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Anytime!!!

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Theater girl,

      How awesome that you recognized your fears as holding you back and overcoming them! It’s a shame to let fear prevent us from some of the beautiful things that can happen when we let go! I’m learning to let go of some fears and I’m trying to face the others! Thanks girly, always appreciated!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      wayne barrett,

      It’s Wayne, it’s Wayne! :D I have very colorful friends don’t I? I’m grateful for all of them, including you! Thank you so much; I’m honored by your visit and your compliments.

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Oh, Shan! Me hopes you came up with something sweet! :D … I’m on my way out the door to drill in a minute. I’ll check it when I get back, otay?

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Romeo, my love!

      I guess that’s why ignorance is sometimes bliss. What we don’t know can’t hurt us? Sometimes I just think I know too much :D

      ‘…fear has to do with punishment’ – interesting concept.

      Suppose you can help me be drive out my fear? ;-)

      Thank you for your always wonderful contribution!

      Yours Truly,

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      My Dear Sweet Colin, is that an excerpt from you book? It sounds divine :D ... I'd like to know more about it!?

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      Jennifer 4 years ago from New Jersey

      I used to fear so many things. I have come to believe that was what was holding me back. Knowing that and overcoming it has opened up the world in ways I never expected! Brava to you for approaching this topic!

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      Wayne Barrett 4 years ago from Clearwater Florida

      The comments here are almost as good a read as your article. Aren't friends the greatest? But the greatest is your writing, Cat. Very positive message!!

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      Oh, Cat! Me thinks you just gave me an idea to finish that verse we're working on! I'll email it to you to see what you think in a bit.

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      Romeos Quill 4 years ago from Lincolnshire, England

      Cat

      False

      Expectations

      Appearing

      Real

      According to Aristotle, " Fear, is pain, arising from the anticipation of evil."

      Also: 1 John 4:18

      " There is no fear in love.But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.The one who fears, has not been made perfect in love." (N.I.V.)

      An interesting Hub, because knowledge also banishes fear, although you have nothing to fear. : ) Thumbs Up, and sharing!

      Yours Truly,

      R.Q.

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      A M.E.M.O. ????

      Well I have an indelible image - you and I lost on a faraway beach with a Persian rug blanket for two, a picnic basket, a bottle of chilled white wine and a cheese plate where the rest of the world can't find us.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Ha ha... look at you both! Shan and Colin, lol ... I walk away for one minute :D

      By the way Colin... a book? I'm hearing through the grapevine, but know nothing of the details???? ... an award??? Where are my memos?

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      ...and you're the only woman I know who deserves a double T.

      H.O.T.T.

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      .....about my E.V.O.L. for you (secret code in reverse, do ya think anyone will get it? lol)

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      ...and yes, I am quite serious too .....

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      Check your voicemail. Haha!

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Shan,

      Ha ha... yes, I'm not so much afraid of heights either... but that fall scares me too!

      .... and thanks, I've only read the first sentence about a dozen times now! :D

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Dearest Colin,

      You know how much I love you and your opinion means very much to me. I get what you’re saying, I do! I guess my motivation behind being involved is trying to get people to think about love rather than hate. I really don’t want to sell anything… just a mindset, you know? (But I did fix it to be a little less pitchy, as that was not my intent… thanks darling!)

      You’re too funny, seriously!!! Thanks Colin!

      Big hugs this sunny and breezy afternoon to you and Miss Tiffy and Mr. Gabriel.

      Your Cat

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      Nevermind. I've got spinach in my eyes! I read it wrong! LOL

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Dear Sweet Faith Reaper,

      I'm so honored to have you stop by, I truly am! I get discouraged when I see the hatred in the world. Then I see glimmers of love and acts of kindness and it makes me think, why can't we have more of this? I wish we could end suffering but if we can even slow it down, I'll be happy.

      Thank you so much for your lovely comments, you yourself, are an inspiration!

      Thanks for all the hugs and big hugs to you!

      Cat

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      By the way. . .that not afraid of heights quote is so me! Hahahaha...literally...I'm not afraid of heights, it's the coming down!

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      epigramman 4 years ago

      Not a big fan of the H.O.W. movement (do people really need to be told what to do? Think for yourself) H.O.W.E.V.E.R. anything to do with you Cat will always be of the highest standards because 'your' heart is sincere and beautiful and I know you mean W.E.L.L.

      And that's the N.A.M.E. of that T.U.N.E.

      but no fear on this page because you always R.O.C.K. and R.O.L.L.

      with your world class writing style and your ability to communicate the written word through your ideas and thoughts.

      H.U.B. B.R.A.V.O. from the epi-man who tells it like it is.

      And oh yes you are the most beautiful woman on the face of this P.L.A.N.E.T

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Hi Dearest Cat,

      Oh, what a clever write here! I love that "Fear of the Known"! Me too! Exactly . . . great point.

      Thank you for this heartfelt write, as I can tell your heart was truly in it when you wrote it, and thanks for sharing your personal fears at one time.

      I love all of the great quotes and the lyrics to that song. And yes, let's change the lyrics to the other song! Go girl! You know what the deal is, no doubt.

      "We have nothing to fear, but fear itself." Roosevelt

      Voted up +++ and sharing

      (will return to share, my buttons are not appearing at the moment)

      Hugs, hugs and more hugs to you this day, Faith Reaper

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Oh Shan, you're such a doll! That's funny you say you usually make choices and screw the consequences... I always convince myself to worry about the consequences later, but it's usually not good :D Thanks for the lovely words!

      Uh... where's the spinach? I don't see it... hurry, give me a mirror :D

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      shanmarie 4 years ago

      You are simply awesome, Cat! I love the way you put together such thought-provoking prose. Interesting take on fear,for sure. I'm usually one to react to something after the fact, and I often make choices and screw the consequences - if I feel that it is the right choice for myself. But, when you throw being responsible for other lives into the equation, things become a bit complicated. Fear of the here and now makes sense.

      P.S. - Spinach in your first sentence. ;)

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      agapsikap,

      I didn’t even see you up there and how could I not with those big pretty eyes? :D

      Yes, there are certainly times when we just need to run as fast as we can and never look back and then there are times when we may want to run, but we need to face it and rise up! Thanks so much for stopping by and the beautiful compliments!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Man of Strength,

      I’m sorry; my page went right to SidKemp when I opened it… I didn’t mean to skip over you! Thank you! I’m loud and probably obnoxious at times, but public speaking is a whole new game. I’m glad you’ve overcome that fear… imagine you didn’t share your voice with the world and what we’d be missing out on!

      Thanks for visiting and sharing!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Sid!!!

      Sitting on my desk next to me, is a piece of paper with your name on it... I kid you not! It's intention is so that I don't get distracted but rather, find myself over your way... it's almost 2 weeks old! So guess where I'm going next? :D

      I love your interpretation of fear and courage. You are right and sometimes it's just easier to avoid or run from fear. Awareness and understanding are essential for defeating fear aren't they?

      Thank you for your wonderful comments, I really appreciate them!

      Cat

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      I hear you loud and clear! Fear is simply a reality of our inner lives. We choose how to use it. I choose to bring awareness to fear. When I know what is beneficial, feeling the fear and doing it anyway is called courage. Always act courageously.

      When I don't know what to do, I increase my awareness and understanding. Then fear is a compass. And awareness is the focus of attention to explore the landscape and find my way.

      And we can get past our fears by being part of something healthy and larger.

      Agree on all points - up, awesome, beautiful, shared, tweeted.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Forget everything and run or Face everything and rise? Wow, a thought-provoking hub!

      There are circumstances in life where we have to forget everything and run.. face everything and rise.. yet sometimes we need to forget then rise.. or face then ruuuunn.. Great hub, Cat! Love it!

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      Man of Strength 4 years ago from Orlando, Fl

      Hi Cat,

      Great hub as usual. For alot of people fear can be crippling. I used to have a fear of public speaking. I would tremble and my heart rate would increase. I realize now, my fear was looking bad to others or caring what they thought. The fear was all in my own mind.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      sallybea,

      It's funny you said you think you were born to be afraid; I had to cut down on my hub to keep people from falling asleep, but I had a lot more stories about fear :D

      Thank you for your wonderful comments!

      Cat

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      Ha ha... it took a second, believe it or not... but once I got it, I laughed!

      I'd be lying if I didn't say I fear the future, but the future we still have time to change. Let's hope!

      Thanks Billy for stopping by and the support!

      Cat

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 4 years ago from Norfolk

      I certainly understand the sentiments expressed in this Hub. I think I was born to be afraid! Most of the things I am afraid of, never materialize anyway and thank goodness for that. Guess one could waste an awful lot of time and energy waiting for the unwanted and horrible things to happen and it really is not worth worrying about. Must easier to focus on the here and now and try to enjoy it to the full. Nice one Cat, voted up.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      "Forget everything and run"???? I learned that first F a little differently. LOL

      Loved this topic....are all people afraid of something? I think so.....I love that you opened yourself up so that others might learn....well done my friend, and again, thank you for mentioning H.O.W.

      bill