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Hand Up vs. Hand Out

Updated on November 30, 2012
It's easy to do... Just extend your arm...
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Do To Others As You Would Have Others.....

I have heard that Bible verse so many times over the years, and feel very pleased that I have taken heed to it in my life... So many of us don't and then when the chips are down, we wonder why us?

As you know if you have been following my Blog, I have hit a bit of a rough patch. Well heck it would say that it's more like a rough canyon, but non the less I am doing alright. With all that has been going on with the eviction, and not being able to find employment, and then knowledge of my situation going,"Public" in the Modesto Bee Article ( I have found that good things are still coming my way, even though there are so many things that seem so bad.

If you know me, and for those of you that don't, you have to realize that I have a pretty random life. Great things seem to happen to me for no apparent reason. I mean things like going from being a gastric bypass patient, to talking to members of Congress about medical technologies, being in a commercial, doing webinars, public speaking, and so much more. Not because I sought to go out and do these things but they just kind of came to me. The key component in all of those great things is that I was able to give to people that needed help. That is what makes my heart soar more than anything is giving back, and helping people.

So, on the day of the eviction, a reporter was there, and asked if I would be interviewed, at first I said, "no" because of the embarrassment factor, then I said,"yes, but don't use my name", then finally it came to me that my story is one that has to be told, and there are so many people out there that are in the same situation as I am. The other thought that came to me was that so many people judge those that are getting evicted, thinking that they are low life's and that they ALL use drugs, and destroy the property of the Landlord's, well that is not true, there are people just like me that this happens to every single day. I finally agreed to be interviewed, using my name, and telling how all of this transpired. It was a very hard thing to do, and I cried like a baby, but deep down inside I knew it was the right thing to do.

Well after the dust settled so to speak, Erin (The reporter that did the article) called to follow up on me, to get information and put the finishing touches on my part of the story, I gave Erin the information, that she needed, and then thought for a moment and asked her,"Why me?" I mean after all there are thousands of people that get evicted, and they had several that they had done that day, but why my story, and how did she end up at My house? Erin said, that that day was simply the day that she had gone out with the Sheriffs to do the story on the dangers of doing evictions, and I,"just happened" to be one of the stories.

Well I am a true believer that nothing "Just Happens" God has a reason for everything that he does, and whether you believe in God, or a Higher being or whatever, I always know that nothing, "Just Happens" for no reason. So today, I received an email from Erin, and a gentleman and his wife had contacted Erin so that they could give me some help. Well I am usually the one that is trying to help others so this kindness coming from a stranger was very odd for me at first, but then I realized that I had helped strangers so many times, not because I wanted something in return, but just because I am compelled to do it, it not only feels good, but is the right thing to do.

So many people let pride stand in the way of receiving something that God has put out there for them, it's like the Joke about the guy that is stuck in the ocean, ends up dying because he refuses several rescue attempts and gets to heaven and asks God why He let him parish, to which God responds," what are you talking about? I sent, you a helicopter, a boat, and so on" So I have to take the "rescue" attempts ,the random article that involved me, the help from a kind stranger (that would not have happened if the reporter, wasn't there that day) and know that the help from others, including the Welfare office is not a Hand Out, but a Hand Up, and I am not going to let pride stand in the way of someone giving me a Hand Up because I have fallen and I am not to blind to see that these things are happening for a reason.

So, I have helped strangers, (do unto to others) and now strangers are helping me (as you would have others do unto you)...... now if only I had given someone a million dollars! LOL :-)


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