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Homophobia and Suicide

Updated on January 13, 2012
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I read today about another gay teen committing suicide.

Eric James Borges, a 19 year old teen committed suicide after making a "It Gets Better" video in support of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth (LGBT). He talks about constant bullying while growing up and harrassment. He was thrown out of his home by his parents two months ago for coming out. His mother performed an exorcism on him.

When is this going to stop?

Why should someone be afraid to come out or be condemned for coming out when they do? Who is teaching these kids to bully and hate so much? Their parents? Society?

I have been hearing so much about teens committing suicide for being bullied for being gay or being bullied in general. I think it's disgusting that this is going on. Where are the parents in these situations and what are they teaching to these kids? It is a devalued society where people cannot be themselves and be hated and persecuted for being different and for being who they are.

Someone in my family came out a few years ago and was afraid to have his father know, so he waited until his father passed to come out to his mother who couldn't believe it at first, but now accepts him. I love him no matter what he is. I embrace people who are different in anyway and love them for their uniqueness. Gay friends have always came to me because I have an open-minded heart, am sensitive and accept them no matter what. Which I think all people should do.

Last year I worked for a gay news magazine and I was the only straight female working there. I saw how gay people struggled and how they had to confront their demons and to fight other people's demons everyday. It was a constant battle. In embracing who they are they had to fight to show who they are.

I remember my friend's boyfriend (who is straight) was walking down the street at night in the LGBT neighborhood (Boystown) in Chicago and got attacked by a van full of guys. They beat him up and left him on the ground lying there just for walking in the neighborhood. Who is teaching people to hate so much and where is it coming from?

Hate comes from fear. People who hate are too afraid to fill their hearts with love, so out of fear to be persecuted and judged they join the bandwagon. To these people hating is easier then loving and accepting. It takes a strong heart to accept everyone's differences and to do the right thing all the time.

I think that everyone should be accepting to people's differences and to stop the hatred, judgement, and fear. It is a shame that this is still going on in today's society.


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    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      @ Thank you Sky for reading and leaving an awesome comment.

      @ Tom that's great you're so accepting. I worked at an office full of gay people. It was quite an experience. I learned a lot. Thanks for your comments!

      @ Always thank you. What a great comment. I totally agree with you.

      @ Cheryl I agree. I think people need to learn to stop hating and start loving and accepting. It all comes out of fear.

      @ Gypsy that is great that you do that. I guess there will always be people who hate to balance out the loving people. That's the way it is. From the beginning there was hatred and love. Thanks for the comment and read.

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      tom hellert 

      7 years ago from home

      I work with a gay/bi guy now- he is really cool hes a funny guy tends to try to keep things "light" he takes allot of "kidding" about being gay but I dont say anything unless he teases me about being old- Im the 4th oldest- - sometimes not even then...

      people can be jerks


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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      7 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Caroline this world is now so full of hate I don't know what to think. Basically a person is a person no matter what they believe in or how they are sexually orientated. I've know some very wonderful gay people. I sign every petition which comes my way to support them. Hey they too have a life to live.

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 years ago from Connecticut

      Hatred, no matter where it is directed, is horrible. I believe that everyone has a right to be who they are and I wonder why it is so difficult for people to be themselves without fearing repercusions. What is this world coming to? Are we heading back to the age of Witch Hunts? :(

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I had a male nurse friend who was Gay. He was the sweetest person. We both worked the evening shift, one night he was forced off the road and beaten badly. I can not understand the hate some people have for a Gay person. People are not born haters, they are taught hate and intolerance from ignorance. I had a young family member who was Gay..I wrote a hub about his young life..We all knew he was Gay before he realized it. He was not Gay by choice, he was born that way. Someday we all will have to stand before God and answer why we hate others because they are different. Thank you for sharing this....

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      tom hellert 

      7 years ago from home

      I ued to work with a gay gal- she was totally cool she was like working for a guy lol except her "I went to a strip club-stripper stories" were way different... She was a good mom she brought her dog in all the time - he liked to sleep in the one corner of my office or at/on my feetthe dog was the final hurdle to getting hired...LOL oh how disfunctional that place was...-for other reasons not my boss lady...


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      tom hellert 

      7 years ago from home


      I work with a gay guy- but you know what I didnt care he was when I didnt know he was gay and now that I know...I couldnt care less- hes a great worker and kinda funny...does not take himself too seriously...

      so no big deal,,,,


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      7 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      You won't believe , I am listening to Michael songs this day and as soon as I decide to read this , you are not alone come on, came on. And this guy said you are not alone also.

      Sorry about this incident Caroline , it's sad and even more sadly the way of our world . I am quite happy to see you doing what the great human that's in sees fit to do. I applaud your efforts. I can you that piece in one of the magazines , but here it is as a start.


    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      Thank you Stessily for your endearing and heartfelt comment and compliments. Your comments are always appreciated. :)

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      7 years ago

      carolinemd21, These days many people seem to be defining themselves by the minutest, irrational degrees of difference in order to distance themselves from other humans who aren't carbon copies, aren't family or friends, etc., etc., ad nauseam.

      Bullying exists because parents teach it to their children and model judgment and intolerance in their personal lives and because people in positions of authority, people who are in a position to do something, look the other way and do nothing because it isn't happening to someone within their closely defined circle.

      I remember observing, especially in high school, all the mind games that certain of my peers played to ostracize and bully whomever wasn't "in" that day. Bullying is a tragedy. I have never participated in bullying, and it is saddening that, not only does it still exist, but it is much worse these days and going stronger all the time.

      Your ability to see into the hearts of others is admirable. Also admirable is your taking the time and having the sensitivity to write on this poignant theme. Somewhere, in the place where we go after this earthly existence, Eric James Borges has to be feeling the kind of unconditional love, coming from your writing and from readers' comments, which he sought and which eluded him.

      "Judge not lest you be judged" (Matthew 7:1) seems to be one of the most ignored, yet also one of the most important, statements in the Bible.

      Thank you for sharing.

    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      Thank you for your support Debbie. :)

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 

      7 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      I agree so is the answer...just love...why do people hate so? It is so tragic...thank you for posting this. I just pray everyone will realize that love is the answer..I voted way up..debbie

    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      Thanks Josak for your support.

      Perspy thanks for the edit and support.

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      Demas W Jasper 

      7 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Corrections? "people who are different in anyway and love them for their uniqueness. Gay friends have always came to me because

      to these people hating is easier then loving and accepting"

      Points well and lovngly made, minor corrections above.

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      7 years ago from variable

      So sad such a tragic waste of young lives, we must never forget to never be part of the mechanism that oppresses the LGBT community and support them with our voices and with our vote. Great hub voted up and interesting.


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