How Our Perceptions Influence How We See Others
Have you ever heard that if someone goes around fearful everyone will steal from them, most likely it is because they are a thief themselves...Or if a man or woman constantly accuses their partner of cheating without proof of them doing so, most likely it is because they themselves have cheated? Humans tend to judge everyone by their own standards, be they good or bad. A person who is honest tends to be to trusting. A liar tends to trust no one.
There are times of course when an honest person is forced to accept the fact that others cannot be trusted. This happened to me recently. I took in my sister. I then found out she had Paranoid Schizophrenia. I ended up having her arrested for striking our mother. But while she was here I learned the hard way that I could not trust a word she said. Some honest spouses find they cannot trust their partners in the same way. It isn't always a self perception broadcast onto others that we see...but the majority of the time it is. And knowing this it helps us to be more understanding of their failures. Knowing we have our own faults to.
I would like to take a moment to explain something. It is a hard thing to explain and will probably be even harder to understand. But it is my hope to clarify how i might come across at times. I think sometimes I seem arrogant. I don't mean to be. It is just that I know who and what I am and I know my place in this world and I know the path this world is on and going to. I feel like a rock, solid and immovable. What I know is also solid and unchangeable. Very few people can accept this. Very few people can accept that anyone can be so sure about anything in their life, because they themselves cannot be. This makes me come across as arrogant. I apologize if that is how I sound. But I can't help it. I can't change who I am or what I am or what I know. Understanding that humans perceive others through their own understanding of the world around them and their own experiences of life, I ask that you try to understand that I may have experienced life and a knowledge you have not, and accept this. Then perhaps I won't appear quite so arrogant to you. I hope this will help to clarify my attitude somewhat.