How To Know If YOU Are Being Ignored . . .
Can you imagine the pain this humble man is feeling, wanting to join in the conversation, only to be ignored?
More poor people being ignored
is probably one of the most-painful areas that a person can be in life. Being ignored is one thing, but not knowing that you and I are being ignored is another kettle of fish.
I have been on both sides of this fence. As the one being ignored. And he one who foolishly-ignored some rather wise people. I hated my days of youth.
I hope, that by reading this story, although presented in a comical light, we can learn a few solid truths about if we are the poor souls who are being ignored by those love the most. Our friends. Maybe family.
to-the-point. No one ever said that hubs had to be lengthy to be good. The photos I have used in this story should tell most of the story I am presenting, "How To Know If You Are Being Ignored," for a 'thousand photos speak louder than a few words,' or something of that nature.
I have tried to cushion the harsh truth of this story with some tongue-in-cheek humor, but even with humor, the feeling of being ignored is still painful. Depressing. Lonely. And can lead to, in some cases, of people developing serious sociological phobias.
Now sit back, nudge your pals and say, "Kenneth's not kidding around. He means business."
I've been both, the ignored. And the one who was doing the ignoring. Both are not pleasant. At all. I deserved my part of being ignored thanks to the karma of the universe who got even with me for some foolish, youthful decisions of not wanting to hurt the group that did accept me by talking to people they didn't accept. Take my word for it. Karma sees all. And doesn't forget.
I DON'T REALLY KNOW
why people ignore other people. And sadly our kind, loving animal friends as well. Could be it is a deep, rooted character flaw that makes us, the imperfect mortals, either too greedy or insecure to turn loose of our 'security blankets,' the people who are most like us, to just welcome those who are a bit different who only want to be our friends. Until I did some research on this topic, I was convinced that ignoring others and being ignored was exclusive with us, the human race. Not so, according to the experts at The Discovery Channel. The acts of ignoring and being ignored are visible in apes, chimps, hyenas, wild hogs, and some species of tropical birds.
Small world. Live and learn. But even with all of our secured-wisdom, the pain of being ignored is nonetheless deep. Brutal. And breeds long-lasting resentment, while the act of ignoring others is still cold and heartless by any standard. One could easily draw the conclusion that being ignored and being senseless enough to ignore others are just two of the illusive cruelties in life that will never be resolved. Or understood.
But for a moment, let's separate the two 'beasts,' ignoring others and being ignored by others. And only deal with the one hard-hearted 'beast,' being ignored by others. That way. We stand a much easier and far-better chance of experiencing some sense of dominance and equality when we are the victims of being ignored by our fellow man. In short, fore armed is fore warned.
Here some sure-signs. Dead give-away's. Tip-off's.
Ways To Know When We Are Being Ignored . . .
- In a small group of friends, when those around YOU, or I, talk to each other and never say a word to us. And we are left standing there--looking as intelligent as a storefront mannequin.
- When YOU or I start a new topic of conversation, we get halfway though introducing the topic, then suddenly, without any consideration, someone coldly blurts out, "That's fine," and takes over the conversation.
- When YOU or I, tell what we think is a seriously-controversial and interesting story, and we reach the ending, everyone looks dumbfounded and says, "What? Did you say something?'
- People we are desperately trying to talk to, keep looking at their watches.
- The only verbal responses YOU or I hear when we talk to people are, "Yeah," and "Right," said by people not even looking at us face-to-face.
- "Be right there, John!" is what we hear the most as we start a casual chat with someone we thought was our friend. And what is most-discomforting is that YOU and I know for a fact that there no one named "John," at this gathering.
- People bump into us and never say, "excuse me," just keep walking.
- When our names are drawn for the door prize and we raise our hands to signal that we are there in-person, the host keeps calling out more names.
- We are introduced by a mutual friend as, "Mac," and "Jimmy," our real names, but the people we are introduced to continually call us, "Tom," and "Tony."
- When we are sitting on a sofa, people look around us in order to talk to the people sitting on the other side of us.
- People give us their coats thinking we are the coat-check clerks.
- When introduced, "Bill has been with our company for over 30 years," guests ask us, "Are you new here?"
- When we finish what we think is a blockbuster-of-a-story, our only response is, "so, what's your point?"
- The host's pet poodle uses us as a tree to relieve itself.
- When we park our cars at the host's house, and are walking into the house, other drivers never honk at us to get out of the way.
- We accidentally set fire to our pants with the dessert, crepe suzette's, the host runs over and asks the person next to us, "can I freshen up your drink?"
- People use "us" as coat and hat racks.
- Smokers at the party put out their cigarettes on our arms.
- The host's pet Siamese thinks we are a "claw tree," used to sharpen its claws.
- When we sit down in the den to relax after the meal, people put their feet up on "us" thinking we are footstools.
These are 20 sure-fire was to know when we are being ignored.
And here are some sure-fire signs to tell us when
We Are Ignoring Others . . .
- We forget, too-easily, what the other person's name is.
- We catch ourselves dozing-off in the middle of the other person's conversation.
- We yawn (like we've not slept in days) as we listen to someone telling us a serious story about a near-death experience they had on the operating table.
- We keep calling the female hostess, "June," when her name is "Carol."
- When another person finishes the story they were telling us and ask, "What do you think?" We stutter, "about what?"
- Our 'drumming' our fingers on the table while someone is talking is a dead give-away that we are one, ignoring them. And two, we are severely-bored.
- As someone is talking to us, we cannot stop munching Dorito's and dip. And do not apologize for the nerve-racking munching.
- When a person starts talking to us about a subject 'we' deem as uninteresting, we suddenly jump to our feet and yell, "anyone want me to do some animal shadows on the wall?"
- As someone is telling us a story that is funny to 'them,' we are caught punching someone else in the side--pointing to a good-looking woman in the other part of the room.
- For some reason we reply, "nice to know that leotards are flammable, Bob," but Bob's informative story was about animal abuse.
So are you geared-up? Ready for the holiday party scene? You should be with these tips that you can be sure that you are either being ignored or ignoring someone else.
I am so glad that you stuck around to read my story that took me several hours to produce. I must say that you are a patient crowd of people to lend me your attention for such a notable length of time.
Do what? Why are you laughing? No, my name is not "Larry!"