How do you plan?
Looking for help with executive functioning and "planning ahead"
This hub definitely appears to be either one of those "duh" questions, or perhaps a pedantic and deceptive lure into getting an audience to whom I'd be giving that advice.
....sorry....that last one just made me snarf, fall out of my chair, pee my pants and faint all at once!
I'm seriously asking for ANYONE's advice - especially those who can personally relate to the experience of not having "the long view" desk-top in their brains. It could be because of Nonverbal Learning Disability as in my case, from a TBI (traumatic brain injury), stroke, or monumental difficulties with the aforementioned issues for a reason as yet unidentified (and my heart and hope goes out to you who have a clinical, medical, neurological, psychological, learning or other cognitive deficit or impairment and who have yet to figure out what the hell it is - I know your pain and don't give up. In fact - get mad. 'Nuff said.
The thing is, I honestly cannot retain and/or process more than 2 MAYBE 3 pieces of information simultaneously - and 3 would likely lead to an anxiety attack for the effort. So, I see a project to be done, or (in my academic years) a "long-term assignment" - and my 100% perfect record throughout that history when it comes to said "big scale" planning and doing - is failure.
You can disbelieve me if you want, but you'll not be of much help if you don't accept the above as genuine and militant and irritating and embittering truth, then your advice will be of no help whatsoever. I'm exposed to plenty of doubters and cliche' spouting, cookie-cutter "time management" bullshit that, while usually well intended, fails miserably to "get" what, how much, and the very fact that so often, I truly DON'T GET IT!
How does one train his brain to be able to *INSTANTLY* process the sequence of steps, events or conditions that lead to some future thing. I even don't get excited about a holiday or psych appt (yes, these are happy things for me - as they are - with a good clinician, that is - cathartic, calming, cleansing and give me some feakin' clarity!), or birthdays or - see I can't even "force" myself to think of all the things to which "future thinking" applies, it's so extraordinarily awkward and difficult.
How, when anything nonverbal or visually oriented or overstimulating, is so damned impossible and overwhelming and anxiety-provoking for me, would some brilliant and awesome hubber suggest I, an extremely literal and verbally oriented thinker, can "*see* the so-called big picture" with greater ease and consistency. Hell - hopefully someone out there can see themselves as able to help me achieve success that is greater than ZERO!
What I'm seeking in this "sort of experiment" of a hub is a ***TON*** of responses - and hopefully more than a few of them will be from folks with alphabet soup after their names - you know, like M.D, Ph.D, Psy.D, LCSW, Ed.D.
To the rest of you (we!) lay folk, I'm not shutting you out. Are you kidding?! There are some folks in the hubosphere whose wisdom and clear yet original thinking leave me gawking with respect and envy (the good kind - like, "Wow! She's so vivid and honest"...
This may seem like a strange hub to many of you, but I hope you stuck it through and read to the end. I'm even here doing something I think is an accomplishment for me, and that is "thinking outside the box" with regard to how to find help for a clinical disorder.
I know no one with credentials can legally give medical advice in this forum, but whether you're a doc, a teacher, a CEO, a lifecoach - or you're someone like me who has been beaten and battered around the block for several decades, and have some hard-learned lessons you're willing to share.
I am SOOO hoping for some traffic here. And I am already grateful to ANYBODY with relevant and supportive input.