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Showing you care through True Leadership - Love & Humanity

Updated on October 13, 2014

Do you really care about the next guy or gal?

Caring for the likes of your fellow humans is a tough job today, and many folks seem to do it with ease. It can be as simple as opening the door for some stranger just because you can. People from all walks of life have various belief systems, differing customs, and ways they choose to care. In India it isn't customary to show public signs of affection, in some African countries kissing doesn't exist, and all throughout Europe its quite the opposite.

(None of these facts prove to be true for most people who live amongst such people worldwide, but these are just some of the examples of many people having differing ways of customs in which they show that they care or not, and there's loads more.)

American folks have some pretty weird customs as well, where they can curse at one another and still be friends somehow. All of this is what makes our interactions between one another 100% human, and somewhere in the midst of it all there is caring and showing love for one another. Then there's the moments of negativity, hostility, and the likes that aren't conducive for any social atmosphere, group or environment, but its something that tends to repeat itself just as history does.

Online social animals are fierce or can be kind using mere fingers


On the Internet its easy to show you truly care for folks

Digitally it can be as simple as sharing others content via a social networking share button, providing insightful comments and positive feedback on content they offer up etc...

This helps to show you care and choose to support others efforts, but if you do please do it sincerely from your heart and not to play on a persons emotions.

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Helping out your fellow man or woman

Giving a helping hand to someone in need is something that takes a true inner love for humanity as a whole. This isn't something that works well for many folks whom have developed a sort of selfishness in them. It's kind of like pulling teeth actually for those folks, and they may never change that factor of themselves and feeling that they care not to help someone else besides themselves.

Growing up in a good household is a plus, where sharing and caring counts for a large portion of the families true purpose of cohesiveness, cooperation amongst one another, and home training of wholesome family values. Many people today may or may not have had such an opportunity to be blessed with a good well balanced family.

Those young folks fortunate enough to be born and raised with parents who show them love, respect, and care from genuine nurturing and balanced discipline. Also tend to be able to reciprocate such emotions and feelings as the years progress. Once these youth become adults themselves, its now up to them to act on such a noble and wise training by their parents. In effect they can and will eventually help others by learning to love, and to care from the love that was provided to them at home.

This doesn't count out the folks who haven't been shown love though, and there are some exceptions to the rule, where some youth turn out to be quite the opposite of what their parents hoped they would become as well. Praying is something that helps, establishing a faith based belief system does too in terms of learning to help another person. There are people who may even have a complete change of heart and decide to help someone, and on a moments notice, maybe by having sympathy for another persons hardships.

Some want a thrown all their own, but its pretty lonely on the top


Being the opposite of selfish - "Selfless"

Many folks may find it very easy to become greedy these days, and self centered. It happens simply by plugging into a computer portal for far to long, and when your spouse for instance looks at you wondering when you'll be getting off of the darn computer, or handheld gadget.

You can be a child just learning the ropes to being greedy and never like to share your ice cream, cookies, cake, or candy with anyone. The list goes on and on and I can type into this portal millions of examples of us humans being selfish, but I'm not going to go there today. Actually I will show a few examples of quite the opposite, maybe I should draw out a cool chart for the Google gods and so to appease the search engines a bit, but nope I won't go that far neither.

To be the opposite of selfish today, it will be like pulling the teeth of a elephant actually, because it isn't as easy as it appears to be here on the computer screen. Nope you must have a certain weight of personal aptitude, or maybe not. Well, if your smarter then the average chimpanzee, that might help you become a kinder or less self absorbed person, who knows right!

What I do know is that in order to do whats right for those besides yourself, it takes hard work, and the keyword "Care" comes to mind and heart as well. Without having care for that of another person, this selfless thing will not maintain its steadiness, it will not even surface one bit. This is so because doing good deeds isn't about just doing something for someone. In all actuality it must derive from the core of ones heart, rather than mind or body. So this is why its so very hard to get folks to understand such a thing. Selfishness on the other hand is very simple.

Example 1:

  • Your walking down the naked field and a snake is slithering behind you, you don't notice it coming, but the cool dude who just walked by it walking in the opposite direction of you has seen it as he passed. You was on your cell phone of course and didn't think to look down at your feet. Quite the dilemma right! so what happens here is the other guy decides to yell out to you, "Yo dude! watch out for that snake heading your way."
  • You leap into another orbital of thought, drop your cell phone onto the ground, it breaks but luckily your out of harms way now. "Darn I almost got bitten by a rattle snake, yikes!"

Example 2:

  • A women has a baby in hand, she is walking into a crowded bus at rush hour, and you see her coming. You decide to think "nah I'm not giving my seat away, forget about it! I just got off of work, I'm tired and need to rest my aching feet."
  • Little do you know whats about to transpire by you being so selfish to not give up your seat for the poor lady. Her and her baby somehow end up standing directly across from you. Your looking up at her thinking to yourself. "Self, I definitely feel good now knowing my feet are all comfy."
  • When suddenly a wet avalanche of vomit comes rushing from up above, and right on your head, and dripping down your neck. "Yes it happens to the best of us."

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High quality personnel and persona versus low

When at work many folks find it to be a place where they can find good folks to communicate with, to share their work experiences with and the likes. Those people they tend to get along well with, may even become lifetime friends, and potential contacts for future purposes of doing business etc...

This is where being assertive, kind, and caring for the likes of all others while maintaining a professional attitude works wonders. Working in any industry today, whether it be the automotive, airlines, military, hair dressing, medical field, law, basket weaving, entertainment business, sports or what have you. These industries all require for their workers to be equipped mentally with the staying power of a working professional, and to not only be highly skilled in their trade, but also to have good people skills. This is why many of us are required to go through years upon years of training, and schooling to become certified in not only our field of studies and career types, but also in leadership modes and positions. We also are expected to learn to get along well with others in a social environment and at any work environment.

There have been set in place certain standards, that are to be met for most working professionals. These standards are there to help us establish oneself as a person of good conduct, law abiding, and of high quality productivity. These individuals learn to follow and obey set guidelines, protocol etc.. and they also fully understand the laws of such a confined system of rules.

On the other hand there are those people whom may never make the cut, or some who cheat their way through a system by trying to bend the rules all the time. They're usually what people consider to be the most fradulent of individuals or also called low life citizens in any organization or social group. This is so, mainly because they are consistently trying to steal their success, rather then earn it by working hard for it & don't truly deserve to gain any.

On the opposite side of the coin per say, that someone who learns to follow all the rules, guidelines, and set standards gains leadership qualities by pure experience. They will eventually become a true leader over time, and will also be able to live by those basic instructions, as well as effectively carry them out in the form of delegation; both when and if they're given such an authority to do so.


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Some rules help us, others may hurt, but to get ahead you need to learn them and master them

Strict regulations on some online platforms are not necessarily a bad thing.

If you read the terms of use, and try to work with all the changes and new bylaws you can succeed there for sure over time.

Oh society how we love you

That above paragraph must be where society has played the correct and wiser approach to things as a whole, and in dealing with business savvy aspects. Placing major emphasis on the human connection, the quality of life, and the overall assessment of how we are to function in these work places was and still is paramount today.

Many businesses however have moved completely or partially online on the Internet, but these mandated rules of fair play do indeed still exist even so, and are heavily mandated even across the vast spectrum of the online world today. However, It has taken some time for system administrators to play a bit of catch up digitally, and so that they can officially program into their online portals such rulings, and make them effective.

Filtering has now taken effect to allow for the heavy monitoring of online interactions, and to make certain that people are to stay in line, and not be allowed to exploit any system holes. These constraints are mandatory and even here on Hubpages such a regulating system has been set fourth into action, and its also governed by the community of users besides that of a machine program, making it a much more democratic way and approach to monitor human relations online.

Facebook has such tools, Google+, and various other platforms, which are now being designed to reduce the amount of clutter that comes from those low quality individuals who seek to over do things by means of electronic spam, and much worse malicious tactics of trying to force their ways on people.

Thomas Edison was a true leader who lead us all to see the light

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Installing leadership qualities online takes organization

Providing both educative resources such as the Hubpages Staff done with the Hubpages Learning Center here, is one good example of how to help organize a group of professionals online.

By educating your group members you are in return providing them a clear cut pathway to learning, and being enabled to succeed and be more productive. This takes also providing them the tools they'll need to perform.

Why becoming a true leader of the pack today is possible

There is a time in ones life when the call to duty is something that comes to them whether they're ready for it or not. It's also a moment when their professional achievements have somehow placed them in a position of leadership. These folks don't need to force their way up the success ladder to become a true leader, nope that's not such a calling being spoke about here.

What I'm referring to here is when certain moves are made precisely and according to work experience alone, and it somehow propels such a person into a spot at lets say a company seeking such a knowledgeable professional, an expert in ones field. This is also the time when such a person needs to step up to the plate, surely if and when they are to be called upon by maybe a selection board of higher authorities within such a business or company.

Making that statement up above in the first paragraph there about business leaders, holds true for all social issues we tend to go through in life. It's actually comparable to issues that tend to fester onwards due to poor leadership qualities (Poor parental guidance, & poor education), and due to those dropping the ball countless times and not following through in ones life, or personal relationships.

Well the same goes for various social groups, many folks aren't quite cut out to play the role of a leader. Maybe because they haven't truly earned the experience it takes to lead, or maybe they don't have the people skills it requires to properly and assertively guide their group members in the right directions. This job requires organizational skills, and the mindfulness of a scholar who understands the in's and the outs of social issues that may arise on moments notice.

Taking the time out of ones daily schedule does indeed place a huge burden on those whom are effectively trying to manage a large group of people. However if done with true integrity, and with the right mindset focused on each issue as they come up, well anything is possible and its definitely doable with a bit of help. However, no single human on earth can do it all by themselves, and so it takes the help of an entire community to manage everything that will begin to make such a social group of professionals highly productive and beneficial to everyone there.

Note: You can definitely repair or improve your leadership skills today, it takes a total reassessment of your overall mistakes, and learning from them to improve and do better the next time.


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    • CloudExplorer profile imageAUTHOR

      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @MrsBrownsParlour, you are so right. I been through it all here in the big city of New York, and many of the service workers had did their best to be sympathetic towards many of my life situations and that of my family as well. I think we as humans have done well in this world when it comes to establishing healthy communities that thrive from that of caring individuals who truly have a heart and need to help others.

      I myself grew up in a neighborhood where there was loads of violence and crime running rapid everywhere. Despite such a fact. I was still able to sort through such messy life choices of others and to connect with the right like minds there though, and at a community center for youth known as the Boys and Girls club.

      They helped me with my reading during after school programs and all. I had loads of fun there too and the community support from their group leaders was priceless indeed. I owe them my life actually, and some day I shall return there to repay the favor, because they have helped to make me the man I am today, and the person I wish to become tomorrow as well as a community leader myself. So I know very well what you mean for sure MrsBrownsParlour.

      Thanks again for such a awesomely insightful comment, which brought out this most sincere response by me.

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      Lurana Brown 

      5 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      The way we treat others can make any job position into a "ministry" (not just in religious terms)----volunteer/charity efforts are nice, but doing it with true compassion is what matters because people can see through superficiality. On the other hand, a kind person can make ANY job a chance for human connection.

      Customer service is a HUGE opportunity to make a difference just by being kind. You have no idea what people might be going through when you see them. I once cried in my State Farm insurance agent's office because she was genuinely empathetic about my divorce and made me feel encouraged and empowered. There was also a Motor Vehicle/ Secretary of State agent who helped me with my name change car paperwork from the divorce and I don't even remember what he said but he was compassionate and cared and it made such a big difference to me at a hard time in my life.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @MrsBrownsParlour, thank you so much for the support on this particular article.

      Yes indeed working professionally with others in differing industries has helped me to understand much of this true reality that exists, and I hope more folk can seek to learn from these well known facts of most business savvy pro's. Also as for those seeking to do more in their community based efforts and programs lets hope this info gets to them as well.

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      Lurana Brown 

      5 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      This message is full of heart and conscience....nice exploration into workplace connections and leadership too. You make some great points. :-)

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Gypsy Rose Lee, thank you for the awesome comment, yup so much self centeredness going around as if its the plague or something. I just wish I had a massive majic wand and could twinkle it at the worlds issue as a whole, but definitely to change the selfishness factors of folks.

      Instead I will pray though instead for all those who have dark hearts and care not to share with or for others today, and hope for God to bring such change.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @always exploring, Thank so much Ruby. Your right it isn't about being on top at all, its all about playing fair and sharing with members of your communities. Over time all whom seek to benefit shall do so from the fact that everyone is being cared for equally and not due to any sort of favoritism involved or what have you.

      To me this is not a perfect world view, but it is one that is far more balance and will surely help more and more people in the end for sure. I hope the world gets the message, I'll be praying on it, and I know there are 1000's of others who want such a reality to come as well.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @MsDora, thanks you, I'm so glad that you enjoyed my hub article and over joyed for recieving all the support from fellow hubbers.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Borntocare, thanks for the support here on my hub, by you commenting and sharing with me as well as many other its made me so very grateful. This feedback is definitely a way to sense that others truly do care, awesomesauce!

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      Judy Specht 

      5 years ago from California

      The most wonderful thing a good friend ever told me, I don't know how she lovingly said to me,"You are selfish". I knew it, but when I understood selfishness my life literally reversed. When I started using my skills to build others up and encourage them my attitude changed and people like me much better. The video where the guy talked a truly great leader, seeing the corporate culture as important,then making the individual feel like he is making a difference , made me think I really want to be that kind of leader.

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 years ago from Central Florida

      Mike, it all boils down to: do unto others as you would have others do unto you. It should be as simple as that, however some people think they can be critical and judgmental and get away with it simply because they are not standing in front of you.

      We should all mind our manners when online and realize that there are people with hearts and feelings behind every word we read!

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 

      5 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      People in my opinion have become too self centered. I still want to help everyone if I possible can. The strangest things make me teary eyed because I see them differently from everyone else. I will tell you that here on this side of the world people have really become closed off and that's sad. There are too little smiles. Great message it's time to become caring. Passing this on.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @carol7777, Thank you so much for your hub loving support on this hub of mine. I haven't the slightest clue why folks choose to be self consumed, and care not to help others today, but I hope they have a change of heart and mind some time soon. We need everyones help to bring true change for the better of us all today, and in all forms we can deliver it for sure.

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      Excellent hub here! Very profound and thought-provoking.

      Voted up +++ and sharing

      God bless, Faith Reaper

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      People seem to be in such a hurry, never taking time to just enjoy the day. It dosen't matter if you reach the top, what really matters is living life happy and perhaps helping a neighbor along the way. Great hub Mike...

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      Dora Weithers 

      5 years ago from The Caribbean

      I'm with you and all those who wrote comments. Thanks for the message that we should find time to care and to get along with others. Good article!

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      carol stanley 

      5 years ago from Arizona

      I do sometimes find people different today than even ten years ago. Maybe it is the faulty economy, people out of work and more problems. However caring does not always take time. Well written as always..and always sooo thought provoking.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @billybuc, Thanks bro fohe support on this very hub, yes indeed you are one of the most helpful, careing, and supportive fellow hubbers and good friends mine. I do my best as well to try to be supportive and helpful to everyone I come in contact with, and we both are on the right path for sure online.

      I'm going to try to merge my online activities fully with that of my offline activities as well. I know I can do even more to help out in my community and this is why I chose to write such a topic, to even try to inspire myself to do more in due time. I hope it helps inspire other to think wisely and change the tides in their own lives, we shall see Bill.

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      Rev Bruce S Noll HMN 

      5 years ago from Asheville NC

      Hey Cloudexplorer!

      I appreciated the depth, conviction and commitment of this hub, in content and execution. I'm grateful for the use of the H.O.W logo and I felt the passion behind this hub. I enjoyed the video's and their complementary messages and having watched you now on hubpages for the almost 20 months I've been on here, I know your heart is in this piece.

      We can change the collective consciousness, but only as you said, one by one. I have always known I can only change myself. I also know that a good self seen by others can be a great influence! You are doing just that, my friend. Stay on it! I will too!

      Peace be with you!


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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      There is no doubt that you care, buddy, and I think you know that I do. That's a start, right? We'll build from there and see if we can't get a whole bunch of caring Hubbers who will spread the love.

      Love this message. I fluctuate between being pissed at those who don't care and being compassionate towards them because they just don't know any better. I have to be the instrument of change that I want to begins with me.

      Great message, Mike!


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