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I am Childfree, and that shouldn't be a big deal.

Updated on December 23, 2015

Here are some quick facts about me:

  • I am female.
  • I do not have children
  • I do not want children

That first statement probably didn't get any reaction. The second might get me some weird looks, but usually nothing more. However, something about that last statement makes me a freak of nature to many people.

What is it about being Childfree that makes people recoil in horror? I don't hate kids. I don't go out of my way to hurt or insult a child. And yet, people make myself and other Childfree people out to be baby-murdering monsters.

Why don't you want any children?

If you were to ask this question to 100 Childfree people, you would get at least 120 answers. There are many reasons people choose to be Childfree, from not wanting to pass on faulty genes to finding kids revolting to knowing they would be a lousy parent and anything and everything in between and all around.

Or they can be like me, and simply not have any interest in the tykes. Sure, being Asexual means that I don't even want to do the thing that makes babies in the first place, but even the thought of adoption doesn't appeal to me.

Everyone wants children! Surely, you have some deep-rooted problem, and that is the reason you don't want children!

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Why don't I want a dog? Why don't I want to live in Arkansas? Why don't I want to be a mechanic? I simply don't want to. All of these are valid choices if you want them, and it's just as valid if you don't want them. Why should being Childfree be any different than my choice in pets, home, or career?

We make decisions for our lives that make us happy. The only person that knows what decisions will make them happy is the person making that decision. Nobody will be mad at somebody for not wanting to adopt a dog, and they won't be seen as dog killers. Choosing not to have children should be seen the same way. It is a choice, and it bears no meaning to a Childfree person's personality or humanity as what they had for dinner last night.

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      HyperLynx 2 years ago

      "Why don't I want a dog? Why don't I want to live in Arkansas? Why don't I want to be a mechanic? I simply don't want to. All of these are valid choices if you want them, and it's just as valid if you don't want them."

      I wish more people understood this. There's so many life choices people make that nobody ever questions, but the moment someone finds out that you chose to be childfree, they feel like they have the greenlight to judge you and dictate what you can and can't do with your own life.

      In short: You're absolutely correct. Being childfree should'nt be a big deal. It should be exactly the same thing as wanting cats over dogs orwanting to be nan artist as a career. It's your life, and it's your choice what you want to do with it.

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      big E 2 years ago

      I would be scared to raise children in this world. It is hard to make a living and the world can be a cold place.

      If I ever had a son I would actually feel a more secure if he was black. I think black people are more protected in our society.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 2 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Excellent hub. You have gone against the pronatalist societal grain. Even though childfree women are becoming increasingly accepted, there is still residual prejudice against childfree women and also women who elect to have only one child. In our society, women are considered women if they have children. It is thought that having children make women more feminine.

      Women are still viewed as the founts of fertility. Why do you think that show 19 Kids and Counting and other shows featuring megafamilies are so popular? There is an underlying consensus that a woman isn't legitimate nor authentic unless she has children. It takes great courage to be childfree. One constantly have to fight against the pronatalists who see being childfree as aberrant in a woman. Not all women want to be mothers. There is life besides and aside from motherhood. Motherhood is fine for some but not for all. Excellent hub!