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Judging Lifestyle Choices and Situations Should Be Unconstitutional

Updated on July 7, 2011

You've all heard stories of the American Dream and the ideal family: the working dad, the working or stay-at-home mom, and two or three kids. That is all we are told to strive for as a part of our personal success, but how many of us can actually achieve it? Do we even want to achieve it, and should we? We certainly shouldn't be criticized and ridiculed for not being able to live this way or choosing not to. There should not be laws enforcing it either. The laws should protect everyone, no matter what their situation in life.

Finding work is about as difficult as finding love nowadays. Even worse are the laws that say you can't marry who you want. This is completely opinion-based; there should not be laws that pander to these opinions often held by traditionalists who seek to impose their ideals on others. Some say gays shouldn't be allowed to adopt because having two parents of the same gender will mess up a kid psychologically, but social science says otherwise. Love does not inhibit raising a child, no matter if the caretakers are a man and a woman or two men or two women. What hurts a child growing up is conflict and divorce, and heteros are great at that. That's not to say that gay people don't get into fights and break up too, but don't point the finger at someone else without taking a good look in the mirror at yourself first.

Plenty of people my age are getting married and having babies already. Some were able to land careers; others, like me, are still searching. Meanwhile, prices are going up and expenses are piling on as well. It's just cheaper and more convenient living at home while riding out this recession and holding on for dear life. Living with one's parents after the age of eighteen, however, seems to be the one thing that is ridiculed here in the west above all else (whereas in the east, generations of family living together is more commonly accepted). Where else are we supposed to go, live on the streets or in shelters? If we live at home, it means that we have someone to care about us and in return care for them. A lot of full-fledged adults who have also been hit by the recession are mad because they don't have the option of living with their parents. While I can respect their position, I cannot think which is worse: those adults who lost their jobs or the graduates who barely have a chance to start.

We're all suffering, and the truth is that no one can tell you how to live because they're not you and you're not them. We have to think about the kind of world we live in and how it is now rather than what we want it to be or what it once was. We can't live in that fantasy world anymore; nobody's perfect, and people should not be at fault because they cannot adhere to the norm for whatever personal reasons that they have. We all want jobs and we all want love, even if they happen to be different things. To make this system of ours work, we're going to recognize these differences and move forward to create a better tomorrow.


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      Healthy Life 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      I've never comprehended how others can judge anyone's situation. Only that person knows what is best for them. Many adult children are now moving back home due to the economy and I think often the situation can be beneficial for all involved. Other cultures have always done it. How others perceive me no longer factors into my decision making process and that is very liberating.