Kindness and Humility are Strengths
This is a topic that I have been thinking about for quite a few years now, maybe around seven, and it is something that other kind individuals have discussed as well. You can find such questions on the HubPages forum at www.hubpages.com, so if you are kind and you are also wondering why others are mistreating you, you are not alone.
The question on the HubPages forum, asked 'Why are the most kind human beings mistreated the most?', and those who answered the question offered that others 'take kindness for weakness' or 'they are suspicious of those who are kind because they are not used to being treated so well', which I suppose is a projection of their own problems.
The 'kindness for weakness' debate is not really a new one, but it's one that I don't fully understand. Kindness, especially in the face of adversity, is a strength. Even when life can be tough, if you are kind to others that demonstrates enormous strength. The choice to be kind to strangers rather than to be mean, or critical, or judgemental, again comes from strength. Those with large egos are mean, critical, and judgemental. They offer others emotional weakness and insecurity. Perhaps it is a jealousy thing, and that is why the most kind are mistreated the most. It is very unfair though, because when you are genuinely kind it makes no sense when others mistreat you or take you for granted.
Do others take your kindness for weakness?
Humility is also a strength. Some may believe that just because you are humble you are not confident in your own talents and abilities, but that is simply not the case. Usually the most humble are the ones that are wholly confident, but 'quietly' confident in their own talents and abilities. They do not feel the need to broadcast their abilities and talents in an ostentatious fashion. They exhibit humility and modesty when someone compliments them, perhaps saying 'Thank you' for a compliment but never blowing their own trumpet so-to speak. Those who are big-headed or think so much of themselves even when they don't have any talents, display ego-based conceit that is both tiresome and promotes something about themselves which is untrue. One merely has to watch a few 'reality' television programmes to see 'TV personalities' or 'internet stars' who post pictures of their scantily–clad bodies and boast about how famous and wealthy they are. It's really quite twisted actually.
So, in conclusion, just because kindness and humility are not particularly valued in today's superficial, attention-seeking, materialistic, and largely ego-based society it does not mean that those who have those characteristics should be mistreated. In fact, they should be valued immensely because they will be the ones to make you feel better when life is not so easy, they'll be the ones to pick you up when you feel down, they'll be the ones that you can rely on, even if they cannot rely on you...
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