Know To No Or No To Know
The title of this hub may be a bit confusing to you. I will explain the title after I tell you a short story.
Fast-food Drive Through and Guilt
We pulled through the drive through. The order was a couple cheap sandwiches and a cold drink we could share. When we pulled up to the window, a man that looked possibly in his 40's came between the window of the car and the window of the fast food restaurant we were at. He spoke words in Spanish and held out a cup. When I asked Maggie, she explained how he was begging for change. I shook my head no and when the person waited on us at the window, I asked why they allowed beggars to frequent a place such as this. We were told that they run them off, but they come back.
I was somewhat frustrated. I give sometimes to beggars along the roadway, but this is over the line. Playing on the guilt of people buying food just doesn't seem right. Puerto Rico has an abnormal share of beggars, and this bothers me. Many of these people look quite capable of working.
Let me tell you a little more about the man that was at that drive through window. My wife had dealt with him before. I saw him on his bicycle about two miles from that fast food place just the other day.
That fast food drive through is his business location. Begging is his daily job. He rides his bike back and forth day by day doing this. he plays on the conscious of people and makes a living doing it.
I do not feel one inkling of guilt in saying no to him.
The picture above is a different story. An older woman in a wheelchair outside the front door of the establishment pictured. She also had a cup asking. Where do we say yes? When do we say no?
Hence, the title of this hub.
Do You Give To Beggars?
Know To No stands for having the knowledge and discernment when to say no. I am not just talking about beggars. There are many individuals in this world that will use you however they can.
It is ok to say no. I have run into many people that just cannot say no. These people are these beggars dream people. Those same people get overloaded with extras at their work, at their church, and even family members take advantage of them. These are the good people that will give you the shirt off their back.
May God Bless Them!
People may say to me, "Isn't that what Jesus taught us?" I will have to say a resounding no to that. John the Baptist said if we had two cloaks or shirts, to give one, not if we had one to give it away.
Luke 3:11: He answereth and saith unto them, He that hath two coats, let him impart to him that hath none; and he that hath meat, let him do likewise.
No To Know means to say no to knowledge and wisdom.
Giving your money or goods to any and all can, in itself, be very unwise. In some ways we are helping people to stay in sin and misery by just giving to them all the time.
A perfect case would be: you have an alcoholic with a sign begging for money. You give him money and he goes and buys more alcohol. If you give him a hamburger, he can eat. If you give him a Bible--well, you see my point. Wisdom!!!
It is difficult at times to say no. We need to know when to say when. I have learned over the years that if someone cannot accept a no from you every once in awhile, they may be needing more than just your help.
It can be difficult to discern who to give to and who to say no to. I find that prayer is the number 1 approach. I also listen to that still, small voice deep inside of me. It is ok to test reactions. Someone asking for money outside a restaurant and you offer a little food and they balk at it, tells me that they plan on using that money for no good.
God doesn't want us here getting used and abused. We cannot allow people to walk on us while they use our help to continue in a life of sin.
It is a difficult situation that many Christians struggle with. My best advice is prayer.
The world is full of users; don't allow them to use you. If possible offer that beggar some work. the Bible clearly says that if a person doesn't work, they don't eat.
Many of us have had difficult times, and if the Holy Spirit is pushing you to give--DO IT--but just try to be wise, as God gives you wisdom.
The following video will show you what you just may be helping if you give money to beggars here on the streets of Puerto Rico. May God intervene and save these people.
As a Christian, we need to use wisdom. We need to discern. If we are giving to help others sin, we are just as bad.
© G.L. Boudonck