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Living in a World of Denial

Updated on January 22, 2016

Deny, Deny, Deny

Denial as a Defense Mechanism

Denial is clearly a pyschological defense mechanism. In terms of right or wrong, it can be either. It can never be both. The knee jerk reaction to accusations of guilt is to immediately deny. However, denial can be an extremely powerful tool to gain control of others. As a defense mechanism, denial allows the guilty to have momentary freedom from unacceptable or criminal behavior. Many prisoners of war struggle to stay the course of truth using denial of false accusations by their enemies. This supports the idea of the power of denial. It can support truth in some situations and just as powerfully support lies.

Neutralized Denials

There are individuals who are quite skilled at denying facts and truth. Their talents often are observed as "neutralized denial." That is to say, denying guilt without actually alluding to one's part in the guilt. For example, those with obsessive/compulsive addictions like drugs, alcohol and gambling live in a world of denial of their problems. Instead, they choose to lay blame for their drunkeness, drug crimes and gambling debts on others. It is true that those in relationships with people with these disorders do become "co-dependents" in denial. Many men and women married to alcoholics compensate for their spouses drinking by covering up the drunkeness. Marriage to a drug addict can result in the co-dependent spouse becoming an addict such as in the case of many celebrities. They deny their their relationship to an addict requires far more professional help than they are capable of providing. These are neutralized denials due to the need to make excuses for unacceptable behavior. It's easier to deny a problem exists than to confront it headlong.

Denial Will Set You Free - NOT

Those who build their lives on the element of denial are comfortable with this mechanism. Many build an entire world around them that is real only to them. They truly believe that denial sets them free of any obligation to be responsible human beings. By denying this obligation, they know someone else will pull up the slack for them. There is always a "helpful" consort ready to "fix" the denier's difficulties for them. What there consorts don't understand is that helping the denier in any way to continue their denials only enables them to continue to move forward in that fantasy world they created. Sadly, they are able to pull others into their fantasy world of denial all too easily. Perhaps, it's because the denier's fantasy world is an escape from the harsh realities of everyday living that they manage to attract others as willing to deny truth and facts. All this shows is weakness of spirit to confront obstacles no matter how difficult they may be. So, yes. Denial is a mechanism based upon neurotic weakness.

How Close is Denial to Outright Lying?

The analogy of repeating over and over that which is borne of denial will eventually become truth is all too prevalent in society today. Denial is the new truth. If you are guilty, deny it. Deny it over and over and over until it appears to be the truth and forces others to believe it is the truth. In many cases, denial can be lying by omitting known evidence and facts of proof of an issue. Twisting and distorting words is the prerequisite for lies by omission. Some are quite practiced in the art of preeminent lies by omission. They set the stage by creating the scene with what they claim is substantiating evidence. They are unwilling to allow any inter-communicative reasoning or disagreement once they set upon the direction of lying by omission. Their predisposal to setting forth communication based on minimal facts that are easily distorted and then couching further statements are denials that precede outright lies.

Proving a Negative

Worse are the highly educated who try to insist it is possible to prove a negative. By simple use of word manipulation, authors and doctors of sociopathy claim you can prove there is a return of a herd of unicorns by simply altering the words used to describe their existence. This is the same issue with Big Foot, ghostly apparitions and the Loch Ness Monster. It is quite humorous to watch grown men in full regalia, including night vision goggles tramping, through the dark forest areas of some remote region looking for Big Foot or ghostly apparitions. What they deny is that evidence exists to the contrary and that science has resoundlingly disproved the existence of Big Foot, Sasquatch or the Yeti. It is as simple as taking DNA from samples these Big Foot searchers "find" and testing the hairs. Still, they would deny that science has proven them wrong.

The Know All, Never Wrong Denial Fest

It is practically an imperative that bloated ego is an ingredient in the denial mechanism. This is true for several reasons:

. The denier believes they have superior knowledge

. The denier believes they can never be wrong

This is the denial fest from which many with bloated senses of self feast all too frequently. The idea in debate is to present both pro and con and allow debaters the opportunity to support both of these elements. Deniers want no such opportunity because that might mean they must provide conclusive evidence or proof. To do that, completely obliterates their denials.

The reality is that while the denial mechanism is the chief operative of those who have created their own fantasy world, they also believe they are infallible. This is the first fault line in their weakness. Rational human beings always acknowledge their human predilection to fail or to err.

Consider the state of mind of many institutionalize mental patients. They create a fantasy world that exists only in their minds. They refuse to allow disagreements with their presupposed beliefs and may be quite fanatical to the point of irrationality and violent behavior. Irrationality, being the operative word here when describing the core of the denial mechanism. When denials are so extreme, they are easily viewed as irrational to reasonable, thinking human beings.

Observe children at play. The observer eventually sees the same behavior in young children who have not reached the age of reason as in those who live in their own world of denial for whatever reason. A child may act out in an irrational way due to lack of understanding of self-control. When an adult does this, it is considered extreme behavior and "out of control." We see this lack of self-control in addicts who seem not to have the vision required to know there are limits. We see this in many of today's most fanatical adults who find it impossible to control their need to dominate the world outside of their fantasy world.

As The Denial World Turns

To many rational human beings, trying to reason with deniers is akin to trying to understand a foreign language without prior training. As the denial world turns, the ability to decipher truth from lies becomes a more laborious task. Proof, facts and concrete evidence matter little to the insistent, constantly contradictory deniers. Sadly, when denial becomes the new truth, it is future generations who are faced with untangling the over-abundance of lies by omission and distortions of truth that exist in denial.


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      Eleanore Ferranti Whitaker 

      2 years ago from Old Bridge, New Jersey

      Your posts prove you are not well adjusted as a mature man. Dr. Ben Carson is a Republican token black in the same way that Herman Cain was. Please spare me. I was a Republican woman for 33 years. There is NOTHING you can tell me about Republican men. As Harry Truman once pointed out, "The Republicans are now and always will be about special interests."

      I am intolerant of men like you who choose to perpetuate your brand of autocratic intolerance.

      If the public statements the men of the GOP are to be believed and since the media is owned by men like Rupert Murdoch and Ted Turner, ultra conservatives both, one must assume that these men are running these candidates through the prism of their male egos.

      When you say none of your ancestors owned a colored slave or killed a savage redskin, you prove you know very little about slavery in the US or how many of our Native Americans were wrongly killed by the U.S. Cavalary.

      Many are NOT blind to fairy tales and are not force fed pablum. We have one of the world's most educated societies. Perhaps in your area of the country that's true...and again it plays right into the topic of denial by politicians in your part of the US who knowingly defund education to keep their Republican voters dumbed down. In MY state, our politicians fight FOR education, not against it. I live in the state that houses Princeton University, Rutgers, Fairleigh Dickinson and is the No. 1 state for technology industries and No. 3 in solar energy. Not exactly fairy tales or pablum. Time to get back to hard, cold reality and stop living in fairyland denial.

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      Gunny Cracker 

      2 years ago from Elkhorn, WI

      I have a grown-child about to marry a Mexican-citizen. Another living with a person-of-color and I am married to a polack. I voted for Alan Keyes & am a contributing supporter of Dr Ben Carson. None of my ancestors ever owned a colored-slave or killed a savage redskin so don't go throwing that b-word around me. You sound very intolerant. At the beginning of the "Outer Limits" program the narrator says "We control everything you will see and hear for the next hour". THAT is exactly what our Illuminati-controlled mainstream media has been doing from the start. That is why so many are blind to the fairy-tales and pablum we are being force-fed.

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      Eleanore Ferranti Whitaker 

      2 years ago from Old Bridge, New Jersey

      Not true...That assumes that every single American, bar none, cannot think for themselves.

      Your hatred for this president is a sad legacy taught to you from birth by bigoted parents. Sorry, but I have relatives who live in TX, FL and VA who have your attitude and I know it all too well. They say the same things about this president that you post...and like you, they can't prove it in a court of law.

      You would know denial mechanisms better as a bigot. All bigots always make excuses and deny their racism and bigotry. You need to get professional help for that hatred.

      I count many highly educated men among those I've worked with and in business. They make their own decisions based on don't. You need to ask yourself why.

      Whatever cloud of guilt is hanging over your head has clouded your ability to live a normal life without hatred. Hatred is the most destructive of human emotions. It literally and figuratively kills.

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      Gunny Cracker 

      2 years ago from Elkhorn, WI

      In 1981 CIA Director William Casey told new President Reagan "The disinformation program will continue until everything the American people believe is a lie". That day is here now.

      "Obama is the greatest hoax ever perpetrated against the American people." Clint Eastwood

      "I was born in Kenya." Barack H. Obama II


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