Importance of Making an Effort! No Such Thing as Something for Nothing; Don't sit around, make a name for yourself!
Get it Free!
No Such Thing as a Free Meal
Who was it who said that? They were right.
There’s always a catch. Heaven forbid, you might have to do something to earn it, you might have an unexpected forfeit or the ‘free meal’ might be rubbish or possibly not even exist. You’ll feel cheated, badly treated, upset.
Well, I’m sorry, but it’s your own fault. More fool you! Why should you have anything for free without expecting to do something in return (family and friends excepted of course)?
You think it’ll be easy. You won’t have to work for it, you’ll just sit back and let it happen, let the others make the effort and clear up after; all you’ll have to do is smile and say thank you. Think again!
Are You Special?
Why should you expect that? Are you special? Are you better than the next man or woman? Are you above having to pay or work for something? Are you feeling lucky? ‘Well, are you, punk?’!
‘Oh, but I don’t have any money!’ Well, go and find a job then!
‘But I deserve a treat because I haven’t had one for ages.’ Treats are a given are they? Have you earned one? When was the last time you gave someone else a treat?
Did you see that ad on tv today? You can play bingo, they'll give you a £10 start; you'll have a free game. Do you really think you'll win? Do you expect to come away even with that £10? Don't kid yourself! They're reeling you in, setting you up to lose, playing with your emotions.
What Do You Want from Life?
What do you get out of sitting back and letting everyone else do the work? What do you gain by not making an effort, by not working, by lazing about all day? There’s no satisfaction, no feeling of achievement, no personal pride.
What’s that? You’re shy? You’re scared of trying to find a job? You’re bothered people won’t like you?
Well join the club! If that sounds a bit harsh, maybe it is. Yes we can all have misgivings about having to go out into the big, bad world, find a job, make an effort, interact with others and make a success of our lives; but think about this - you have a choice. To do or not to do. To risk or not to risk. You have free will.
Will you sit in front of that tv and gamble your life away or will you get out there to earn an honest living? Will you give yourself some self-esteem? What will you do today to make you feel proud?
You have a whole world around you made up of inspiring people, disabled people, disadvantaged people, many of whom make the most of their lives, indeed surpass the achievements of many others. They have determination, they have courage, they want to succeed and they want to overcome any kind of obstacle thrown at them.
What About the Natural World?
Think, too, about nature. Think about all those animals, birds, fish who survive inhospitable environments, with predators ready to kill them at any second, who live in extreme temperatures, hot or cold. It’s the survival of the fittest. We used to be like that but now, mostly, we have places to shelter us, people to help us, easy lives.
That doesn’t mean we should slip into complacency. We should keep striving for what we aspire to, be determined to better ourselves, push ourselves to our limits.
Working & Surviving
Consider the Blackbird
Let’s take an example. Look at the blackbird who has no idea where his next meal is coming from, who has to watch out for the cat over each wall or hedge, who freezes in the winter and has no water to drink, who suffers in a hot summer when the waters dry up.
The blackbird sings his little heart out in the morning and in the evening. He chatters at us when we get too near, scolding our impropriety. He fluffs up his feathers against the cold and hopes that he survives another day.
All the time, his eyes shine bright, he makes our spirits soar when we hear him, he brightens our gardens and he fights his corner. Each day he keeps trying, he finds his food and drink and he flies high and courageously. He builds a home, looks after his young and keeps going as long as he can.
Have a go at being the blackbird! Go out, fend for yourself, be courageous and make other people’s hearts sing.
If you don't Try, you won't Fly
(or - Get off your Backside!)
You stay at home, not venturing forth,
you sit and think, feeling no worth.
You see the jobs all advertised,
you think the rest more qualified.
You stare at the phone, it doesn’t ring,
you can’t pick it up, you fear the sting.
You see your peers achieving much,
you feel your best isn’t good enough.
Your see them all spending their money,
you don’t have any, that’s not so funny.
What can you do? There’s nothing for it,
you stay at home with empty pockets.
One day you look out from your room,
the snow lies deep, a grey-white gloom.
All creatures have a hard time there,
they cannot live without good fare.
You see a blackbird, fluffed up, bright-eyed;
he isn’t moaning, he has his pride.
He sings aloud with all his might,
e’en though this might be his last night.
His eyes so clear are full of hope,
one last place he can feed - he’ll cope.
He’s found there, sheltered by the wall,
your water, bread in softened balls.
Saved one more day to meet the sun
the blackbird sings till day is done.
His voice so joyful, shrill and loud
gives thanks to you, to make you proud.
Tomorrow you’ll no longer cry
because you’ll try and then you’ll fly.
Be Brave, Sing Out
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© 2014 Ann Carr