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Domestic Violence and the Lasting Effect

Updated on October 29, 2013

There are so many victims of domestic violence. However, the victims seem to try to keep the happenings to themselves due to their embarrassment. I never really understood that at all. I always had the mentality that if it is done by someone else, then why in the world would you feel embarrassed about it?

Well, unfortunately, I have learned the reasoning behind all this. When you get brow beat, talked down to, and physically hurt, you start to feel that it is all your fault, that you are the one with the problem, not them. Logic mind disappears and a scared little victim appears in it's place.

The lasting effects will hurt you, your job, your children, family, and any relationships (friend or other) if you do not cope with this tragedy in the correct manner. There are many places that offer counseling and if you think that it will not help, think again. You will NOT be the only person there.

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    • graveyard-rose profile imageAUTHOR

      Heather Marie 

      5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Yes, I can see how it would be hard for a male. I agree either gender would be difficult, but being a male would probably prove to be worse on having mental scarring. Men are taught to be "strong" and not to hit girls, so it is a "rock and a hard place" situation. I am glad that he has friends that were there for him. Often times, men are over looked due to gender rolls.

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      5 years ago from Australia

      I can definitely understand the embarrassing bit. I had a friend who was abused by his girlfriend (She used to strike him with a cricket bat). He was too embarrassed to tell us what was going on and did not want to fight back because she was a girl. We did eventually find out and a restraining order was issued. I don't think it is easy to talk about for either gender. However if you are male, you are particularly vulnerable because you are less likely to be taken seriously.

    • graveyard-rose profile imageAUTHOR

      Heather Marie 

      5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Very true... But the victim has to be strong enough to stand up and say something.. sometimes those victim gets their self worth strips away or are to scared of the repercussions.

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      Sinclair Miller III 

      5 years ago from Florida

      When you don't say or do anything about it, it will continue to happen.


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