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Objectism , Women and more - (Part 2)
Till now we have had the courage to bring up our daughters like the sons but to understand all this, what we need is the courage to bring up our sons like our daughters.
Women may wear trousers, smoke-up joint , fly an aircraft, study mechanical engineering , or even initiate sex ,but despite any feminist advances over the last few decades the vast majority of women still feel dreadfully incomplete without a man. And speaking out in spades ,It is not unusual for women to drop their girlfriends as soon as there is a man at the scene. Not just because it is sexual: but because male friends are often valued more than female friends. A girl for instance is far more likely to trust the opinion of her gay friend in matter of selection of her future husband than the opinion of her girl friends. A probable reason may be that they seem to drive power in company of men, and the feeling of being powerless subsides even though only for a while.
Put a man in a group of women and he somehow takes all the attention. Either they fuss and cluck over him - if he's welcome- or they hiss and spit, if he's not. Either way the focus of the attention will be on him. Put a woman in a group of men and, unless she's attractive, she's hardly noticed, or except perhaps when one of the men happens to swear. Take it or leave it, but there's something about the approval or disapproval of a man -colleague, lover , friend, brother-that matters more. If they were to buy a new dress, they would rather put their stakes on the approval of their male friend than any of their female friends. Why do women do this?
Their unease of Powerlessness is often put in a better situation when they search a group lower on the ladder of social hierarchy. Fair women would find the dark and the colored lower on the pecking order , the slim ones would find the ones with cellulite deposition, the tall ones would find the short and If motherhood is designated as the most desired status, nothing else a woman achieves will come near to it in the cultural importance(I get reminded of plethora of B-wood movies of mid 80s). Just listen to any woman making comments on the dressing sense of some other lady, and you would know what I mean. Mistrust of other women is endemic and for good reason. This is not to say women are untrustworthy, far from it, but that as part of the lower group, they are long-term competitors for the same prizes of male approval, acceptance and a suitable(or even unsuitable) boyfriend or husband.
So, more often than not, women too copy the practice of objectism and join in deriding weakness ,failure ,emotionality to get rid of their alleged powerlessness . Aggression appears in their behavior on the roads, in pubs & bars , in workplace and in bedroom(Gorgeous bum , huge biceps, great pecs). They seduce, they tease, they reject. They can play the game very well, especially when they get angry. They target other women with snide comments, gossip and envy. They matronise men and treat them like little boys. Women are wary of each other .Men are more straightforward and direct on the surface. Men can be more brutal because they are physically stronger but women can be deadly , covertly dangerous. They always keep an eye on the competition, never missing a little weight put on, a wrinkle on the face or a dark circle spotted beneath the eyes.
But that was just half of the picture. Or not even half of it. The larger picture emphatically questions the dogma of who really is powerless and who drives power from whom and here it is in this paragraph. I would urge you , to try and recall the instances of your personal life and feel for the moment everything that I am going to say...And I can bet that you will agree with each and every word. On the ideological surface a husband and wife may both have paid jobs and share the housework but the reality is that women usually do more. In an equal relationship, women find themselves doing the lion's share of domestic chores, the lion's share of bringing up children but all in a very mouse like manner.
If someone is unhappy, they try to cheer. If someone is shy, they become ebullient. They tailor their own feelings, needs, desires, wishes and thoughts to those of others, depending on them to go first and speak, so that they can react accordingly. They are excellent at carrying things: shopping bags, pushchairs, pram and not to mention a long string of invisible responsibilities . Emotionally they carry adults, mothering grown men as well as their children ,they are even better at managing things and keeping them in order whether it is our persistent trail of dirty socks or underwear that never seems to make it to the laundry basket or the hanky and neck tie which somehow disappear right at the moment when we need them. They may grumble occasionally but they do it all the time ,more than their fair share and sometimes with a hidden smile on their face, silently and smoothly in a way that is surely larger than Life.
To read part 1 , go to the following link