Our Ignorance, Their Misfortune And Innocent Ramblings
Many times throughout my life I've been plagued with comments, opinions and subjects that get my over active mouth in trouble. Having a learning disability, add, being bi polar and high functioning ashberger's my filter doesn't always work. There are as the words are leaving my mouth another part of my conscious realizes that my words either didn't make sense or once again made me sound like an idiot. More times than not, I just sit and listen, it's safer for me that way. I really try hard to think before I speak, to form words in thought before I speak them. That isn't always easy. I'm considered to high functioning Ashberger's where as others who are functioning at a slower rate doesn't have the ability to think of what they are saying, their words just flow and sometimes at very inappropriate times. These are cases where comments are made quite innocently and the person isn't aware of what they've said, they don't understand the impact their words have on others because of their mental health issues.
Then, we come across those who speak without knowledge and understanding of what they are talking about. They are ignorant because they weren't taught how to act, to respond, to talk properly, when to talk, when not to talk and when quiet is all that is needed. I guess you could say they are the less fortunate because they haven't learned the art of proper conversation. I was once heard a very wise women say, know your audience. If you're in a crowded room that has specific minorities and you want to tell a joke, obviously you would refrain from joking about that specific minority. Well, at least some of us would know better. However, some weren't taught how to have conversations in those type of situations. They don't know any better. It's no fault of their own, they never learned. One would hope as they got older they would learn by the examples of those they associate with, their co-workers, their friends and hopefully some of their family members. It is possible because, you're never to old to learn.
There are some people who are just plain ignorant, no explanation, no rhyme nor reason. This isn't something they were taught, this is a choice they've made to be ignorant of what they don't understand. Choosing to be rude to those with mental health issues or those who don't understand a situation is the purest definition of ignorance. They may be faced with a co worker who doesn't understand a particular aspect of their job and instead of offering to help them they chose to tell others about what they perceive of the person stupidity. I've overhead co workers telling our sales representatives when someone makes a mistake, that they hate being that person's janitor. Their are teenagers who comment on other teens behavior, the way they dress, if they are failing class yet they don't know the home life that person has. Commenting on situations that you don't completely understand, basing opinions on what you hear not what you know is a form of ignorance. We all need to remember in each situation, there are always two sides and unless we know them both our opinions and comments to others are borne of ignorance.
Think of things on these terms. The person who cut you off in traffic could have been rushing to the hospital because they received a call that their children were in an accident. The girl in school who only wears tee shirt and jeans may have parents who are out of work. The boy who is quiet may be being abused at home. The lady at work who wears long sleeve shirts may be hiding bruises. The lady wearing a wig may being going through chemo because she's in a fight for her life. Try to think of why or what is happening with someone before passing judgement. Instead of being ignorant, making comments, how about smile and ask them to have lunch with you. If you see someone with a lot of books or struggling to carry something offer to help. If someone at work has a hard time understanding something ask if they need assistance working through the situation. Those who may snap at you may have received bad news about a family member or a friend. Ask if they need to talk.
Just imagine if Jesus had chosen to be ignorant instead of dying on the cross for our sins. Where would we be today?