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Please Don't Drink And Drive

Updated on February 25, 2010

The effects of drinking and driving

Both my neice 19 and my brothers girlfriend 31, lost their lives in this accident. It occured on Monday night at 7 pm.
Both my neice 19 and my brothers girlfriend 31, lost their lives in this accident. It occured on Monday night at 7 pm.

Those lost, those left behind

Six months ago I lost my beloved nephew, Dustin White 18, in an accident. it was and still is devastating. I published a hub on his story and the age when a young person is resposible enough to drive. But now I have a more pressing message to share: PLEASE DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE !!

Monday night I was sitting on my sofa when the phone rung. It was my mother. "Are you sitting down?" she asked. My body started to shake and I felt sick. She had just called me the night before to tell me my 3 grandchildren were involved in a rollover accident and the car was totaled. By the grace of God none of them were seriously hurt. My neice who lost her brother, the one mentioned above, was also in the car. She suffered neck injuries and a dislocated shoulder. Needless to say my sister was frantic. I was still thanking god for this when my mom called monday night. By the hour and her calling repeatedly when I didn't answer I knew it wasn't good news.

"Yes mom, I'm sitting down, whats wrong now?"  She told me that my neice 16, had borrowed the car to take my brothers girlfriend to get cigarrettes. My neice was driving since the other girl had been drinking. Somehow the girlfriend got control of the car from my neice and hit a pickup truck (in picture) head on at 90 miles an hour. As you can see from the picture above the car was totaled, it was under the truck and the emergency units had to use the jaws of life to extricate the girls. They both died on impact. Everyone became worried when they didn't return soon and my brother-in-law went to look for them. He came upon the accident and recogized the car. The trooper asked him who was driving and he replied, my neice. Upon seeing the girls pulled from the wreckage he immediately told the trooper that the driver was not my neice who borrowed the car, but my brothers girlfriend, who had been seriously intoxicated. My brother-in-law told the family you could smell the alcohol across the highway.

The end result was the newspaper printed the article the following morning. There was not much information available to them, and the victims names were not released pending notification of the family ( Us) and the accident was being investigated. Autopsies were ordered and toxicology screens. They are pending at this time. The flurry of comments online at the newspaper varied from "They deserved it" to comfort and peace wishes. I give much credit to the " Hattiesburg American Newspaper for removing the innappropiate comments since the families are suffering tremendously.

This accident happened in Mississippi. The effects are for more extensive. I have not recovered from the death of my nephew, the near loss of my grandchildren and now this. What I fail to comprehend is the reasoning that would make a person get behind the wheel of a vehicle so severely impaired, and take their life and the lives of others in their hands. My neice was a beautiful, vibrant girl, full of life. She was to be married next month. Her fiance can't eat, can't sleep, and is near suicidal. There was a chance she was pregnant. She was going to surprise her husband. She never got the chance. Why didn't she get out of the car and call someone to pick her up?? Why did the other girl drive in that state?? What was the last thing to go through their minds?? All of this haunts me.

As a child I grew up with an alcoholic parent. I remember my father driving with us in the car, and how we screamed everytime he barely missed having an accident. I promised myself that I would never drink and drive. I never have. This accident has left so many unanswered questions. It has caused a rift between the families. it has caused grief and despondency for the ones who loved them. It has given those with a holier than thou attitude to take shots at two young women who lost their lives.

It doesn't matter the results of the tox screens. The end result is the same. Two beautiful, young and loved women lost their lives needlessly, because of the bad choice of one. So I ask with all my heart ....PLEASE DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE.

Remember my family, the other familys, and the gentleman and his son who was in the other truck in your prayers. We are suffering the loss of something that can never be replaced. My thoughts and prayers go out to all.



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    • christalluna1124 profile image

      christalluna1124 7 years ago from Dallas Texas

      Tammy and itakins,

      I am so sorry it has taken me so long to answer your comments. It has been a very long 3 months for me. 8 deaths in my family in 6 months has pretty much devastaed me and left me drained. I appreciate you guys more than you will ever know.

      Warmest regards,


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      Tammy Lochmann 7 years ago

      Chris hope all is getting better for you. You will be alright. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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      christalluna1124 7 years ago from Dallas Texas


      thank you so much. the funerals were today and yesterday. they are sending a mental health team out to see me...another pain in the head. Thanks so much.



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      itakins 7 years ago from Irl


      I'm so sorry-this is a terrible tragedy.God Bless you.

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      christalluna1124 7 years ago from Dallas Texas

      Thanks, Tina,

      The funeral was today, the other one is tommorrow. I hate that the loss of two young lives are gone so senselessly.

      warmest regards,


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      TINA V 7 years ago

      I feel sorry for the loss of your niece at a very young age. I hope many drivers can read this story. I agree with you. People should be more responsible when driving.