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Quit Blaming

Updated on July 3, 2013

Since the very first humans were upon the Earth, blaming others has been the norm.

Adam: "It was the woman, she gave it to me."

Eve: "The serpent told me to."

All throughout the Word of God, we can find people putting the blame on others instead of just owning up to the bad decision they made.

I have done it and you have done it.

The Devil Made Me Do It.

Guess what?

Satan hasn't made any of us do anything; we choose to do, or say, or write. When we decide to blame, we need only look in the mirror.

The Way I Was Raised

"It's the way my parents raised me."

This excuse is old and very sickening. If you realize that something your parents taught you is wrong, why not change it?

Just because your Mom or Dad abused you, does that mean you have the right to abuse your children? You know it is wrong, but you keep doing it. That reminds me of a quote that I have heard many times, the definition of insanity:

Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Personally, I have accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I have been adopted by the perfect Father. Yes, I still have my Earthly parents, but no more blaming them. I surely cannot blame God when I do something wrong. The only one I can blame is the face looking back at me in the mirror.

Blaming has got to stop. Even blaming yourself can go overboard. How about just fixing the problem? Change the action and the reaction will change.

Stand Up and Praise God!

Yes, there will be attacks by the enemy. When things are not going right, instead of blaming, how about praying?

Try a new course of action and if the results are not satisfactory, try a different one.

If you feel as if I am preaching at you in this article, please don't. I am preaching to the Frog sitting in this chair typing this. I have had a load of bad things happen in life and I have blamed others. I have also blamed myself almost to the point of becoming suicidal.

Blaming is not the answer and is not of or from God. Changing the attitude and seeking God within is the answer. Jesus Christ is the answer. The Bible has all the answers. Prayer is the answer.

H.O.W. Movement

I am sharing this hub in the H.O.W. movement that my hubber friend billybuc started. It stands for Humanity One World.

Blaming is not the answer within this movement, fixing is the answer.

We can stand and blame and do nothing, or we can stand and look in the mirror and seek the answer to "How Can I Help?"

Blaming is for losers!

© G.L. Boudonck


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      6 years ago

      You're dead right, Froggy

      If a Christian was a stick of rock, break them and it would say "forgiven" inside!!

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      6 years ago

      Good morning Froggy.

      From my experiance most men and women that were abused as children make very good parents because of thier experiance and don't want that for thier children.

      Too many people today live by the "Not my fault" mentality that is too prominate in the liberal society.

      God bless you.

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      6 years ago

      excellent thoughts and tips! We really can change our thinking if we want to.


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      Greg Boudonck 

      6 years ago from Returned to an Isla Del Sol - Puerto Rico Will Rise Strong

      Thank you very much my friend. It is comments like yours that make me feel as if some of the words written are being read for their true meanings. May God give us all wisdom.

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      Gianandrea Maoli 

      6 years ago from South Carolina

      I believe people find it easier to finding the source of blaming outside circumstances to defend their own ego. It takes a lot for any one person to say, "Maybe to some degree, there's something I'm doing wrong." It could also be that maybe you're still a good person at heart, but you need to have a different approach in life. Sure, we do have things happen beyond our control, but we are born with free will and we need to take advantage of that. You mentioned one of the famous excuses used being, "this is how I was raised." I have read and even wrote about several stories of children and adults growing up from a broken family or being forced to survive on their own and how they have turned their lives around. If they can do it, then those of us who come from a steady background with solid families can certainly do the same. This was a good message you shared with us, Froggy! Keep up the good work!

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      Greg Boudonck 

      6 years ago from Returned to an Isla Del Sol - Puerto Rico Will Rise Strong

      Thanks to all of you. If everyone would make an honest attempt to stop the blaming maybe it would "go viral".

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 

      6 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Sad isn't it? What I do know is what it is written in Matthew 24:12 - 13 "Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold, but he who stands firm to the end will be saved."

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      Randi Benlulu 

      6 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Very true and very worthwhile message. I sometimes find myself wanting to slip into the world of excuses but I try very hard not to let that happen! Thank you for sharing! up+

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 

      6 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      This is an inspirational hub. Blaming is only an excuse to avoid responsibility for our actions, assessing ourselves, and ultimately improving ourselves. Only unevolved and immature people play the blame and victimology game instead of being evolved and mature people.

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love it all but especially the last line...blaming is for losers.

      How true those words are. Excellent and I thank you my friend!

      Sharing online, and with each share the H.O.W. movement gains momentum.


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