Love is Blind.
This... is a touchy issue, but one where I feel like I had something to say, and it was worth hearing.
People can not tell you who to love.
You will love whoever you want, you can love whoever you want, and it is nobodys concern but your own.
(Now really quickly, I'd like to post a disclaimer of sorts, and say that a relationship between an adult and a child, or something wildly inappropriate like that is obviously not what I mean, so please, stop being a smart ass and keep reading)
It is 2012. I can fly from Philly to Seattle between lunch and dinner without losing a spot at the table. I can speak face to face with my mother, with the use of a phone, even though we are 3,000 miles apart. I can make a living, explore the world, and make new friends, all without turning off my computer. My phone is a more powerful computer than the first spaceship to land on the moon. And yet...
People still think they can tell you who to love.
Well guess what.
They are wrong.
Before I get into detail, let me tell you a story.
Lets say that Taylor loves Max.
And just for giggles, lets say that Max loves Taylor back.
If Taylor and Max get together, stay together, and want to spend forever, you guessed it, together, shouldn't they be?
I mean isn't that what all romances are about? One person loving another person and making each other happy (and miserable) for the rest of their lives?
If Taylor is a girl of a certain race and religion and Max is a guy of the same race and religion, do you approve?
Then what difference does it make if they are the same sex? What difference does it make if Max is black? What difference does it make if Taylor believes in a different god than Max?
They are still two people, two human beings, who are in love with each other.
Love is so rare, so unique and beautiful, why should we let prejudice, or any variation of fear keep them apart?
"Oh, but Ryan. How would you feel if YOUR son was gay? How would you feel if YOUR daughter brought home a black boy"
I'll tell you. I would be proud of that boy. I would support that boy as he bravely faced the harsh narrow mindedness of the outside world, and I would cry at his wedding the same as I would if it were a woman. And my daughter? Her boyfriend would get the same tough guy Daddy act that a white boy would get. The same empty threats, the same stink eye, the exact same act.
Because we are all born the same. We are all born with wants, and needs, and dreams, and I don't believe that we should be able to decide what those are for anyone other than ourselves.
Now I know this is touchy for many of you because it interferes with some things that have been established as negative by your religion. And as I am entitled to believe that people of all sexual preferences should be allowed to marry, you are entitled to protect your beliefs, and for me to in any way disrespect your religion would be contradicting everything that I have written here tonight.
Having said that, I do want to quote the rapper, Macklemore by saying this.
"Whatever god we believe in, we come from the same one, strip away the fear, underneath it’s all the same love, about time that we raised up"
That is from his song, "Same Love" which you may have guessed, I got the name and inspiration from this Hub. Youtube it, it's a great song.
But it's true, whatever God you believe in, he/she/it created everything and everyone, including our feelings. And of those feelings, the strongest created was love, and who are we to deny the feelings that we were born with, who is anybody to deny the feelings of others? And find me a place in any religious book where it says skin color is sinful or unholy. Find me a preacher who looks down on another human being because of the pigment of their skin.
Bottom Line. It is none of your business who somebody else loves. If that is what/who makes them happy, then that is who/what makes them happy. They don't need your approval, and you don't have to like it, but its only human to get out of their way. To let them love freely.
One more quote, and this... from a musician you are probably more familiar with.
"Imagine all the people living life in peace,
You may say,
I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one,
I hope some day you'll join us,
And the world will be as one"
John Lennon. Imagine. 1971.
But I swear, if my daughter brings home a Bronco's fan, she's out of the house.
© 2012 Ryan Smith