- Politics and Social Issues
Scolding strangers in public
We have all seen people misbehaving in public in one way or the other causing a nuisance but have held our tongues and just let it go. I guess this would be around 95% of people depending on the country. Even though you want to say something or scold the offender, people tend to hold back for a various of reasons. I would say that the most common reason would be due to fear, fear of making a scene or fearful of what the reaction would be and would rather let it go if it doesn't directly affect them. It is interesting to know how those 5-10% react to certain situations and why they are not afraid of making a scene in public. Some people don't seem bothered about the consequences of scolding strangers in public.
In Japan on the trains in the mornings there are a large number of sleepers, often snoring with their mouths wide open. Not only that but they will constantly lean over into you with their heads often ending up in your lap. From observation I see many people ignoring it or slightly moving forward to allow the sleep to slump behind them. This will only mean sitting in an uncomfortable position for usually a long journey as many people are commuting around cities outside Tokyo to the main capital. 50% of the time I see people give a gentle shrug on the shoulders which causes the sleeper to straighten up quickly but the same will happen after around 30 secs or so. I have seen this same pattern repeat itself for around an hour. Once I saw an old man shout "Oi" directly into a young man ears. That shocked the young man, they both exchanged stares for around 3-5 seconds but the old man ended up staring him out. In contrast to this, I have seen young office ladies falling asleep into older businessman's laps or chests but there was no complaint then.
In restaurant buffets I have witnessed people taking very large portions of the last amount. Pizza slices for example, I think it is fair for everyone to take one piece of each kind, however some selfish people go and load 5-6 slices on their plate so that everyone else has to wait 10-15 minutes for the next batch to be cooked. I have never seen anyone being scolded for that but I have seen people mumble and curse under their breaths. I really thing the staff should step in there.
There are people are who selfishly park their cars so that they take up more than one space, causing an inconvenience to others. I have seen people try to park alongside and give up due to not wanting to bump or scratch their car.
There is always the train and elevator issue where impatient people are trying to get in before you get a chance to get out, it ends up with a lot of pushing, shoving, grunting and dirty stares but often no verbal conflict. Very rarely I hear somebody shout "Come on, let me out first"? Many people say that verbal conflict of this sort or pointless and non productive, however for many others it helps get things off their chests.
Smoking in non smoking areas is always an issue in any country. People often think that people who ignore no smoking signs are rebellious and will not want to approach them. We all know it's wrong but should we be the ones who scold the offender or is it none of our business? A fire caused by smoking can affect us all by injury or even death.
A stranger scolding somebody in Japan
This is a rare scene in Japan. Not only is the guy making a lot of noise in public but a stranger came over to scold him. What is strange is that although the drunk guy was so aggressive with the station staff, he suddenly apologized to the elderly stranger for some reason.
Reactions to actions
In cases like smoking in non smoking places I have seen people act aggressively and defensive when being scolded by a stranger. This can then either lead to physically confrontation or somebody just walking away.
Talking on mobile phones near the priority seating area on public transport is forbidden in some countries especially in Japan however most people ignore this rule. I have witnessed senior citizens shouting at younger people due to this.
In most cases people think that it's the staff job to scold people inside an establishment however rules can sometimes be reinforced if the general public assist.
The person next to you on the train or bus falls asleep on your shoulder, what would you do?
Somebody is smoking in a train station standing next to you and their smoke is going in your direction.
- How to stop your children lying about everything!
If your child is telling lies and not responding to your scolding or punishment, you seriously need to take a different approach. What you are doing, obviously isn't working. Here's my hints.