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Spreading hate is not the loving thing to do.

Updated on November 7, 2012
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It's not Christians who hate gays, it's narrow minded ignorant people who are trying to deflect the judgment from themselves, trying to keep the skeletons in their closet hidden. I myself am a straight Christian man and do my best to love as God would want me to. We are not here to judge and condemn, we are here to live our lives as an example of what it means to have God in our hearts and hopefully when all is said and done, make the world a better place.

I know fear keeps people from feeling comfortable and uneasy, but don't let fear become hate, talk to people who are gay and find out why they feel the way they do. How can someone who is not gay themselves, tell you if people are born that way or not, that would be like me trying to tell you how it feels to be a woman, it's just not possible and doesn't make any sense. Don't be ignorant, be educated and make an informed opinion, and if you still don't agree with it that's fine, from that point forward just live and let live. You don't have to agree with it, just don't try to destroy it, because I'm sure there are many things people could find about your life they don't agree with too.

If you ask me, the whole "sanctity of marriage" argument is a bunch of nonsense too. If you haven't realized it yet, straight couples aren't really keeping marriage all that sanctified. We need to focus on ourselves first, work to make us the best we can possibly be, before we go trying to tell others how to live their lives. If you're room is a mess it would be hypocritical to try to tell others to clean up theirs without cleaning up yours first.

As far as Chick-fil-a is concerned, I'm not against Dan Cathy speaking his mind, he's entitled to believe as he feels fit. I just think if he really wanted to preach about family values and love he would have come forward to tell his supporters not to hold a Chick-fil-a appreciation day to further fan the flames of hate? If you're going to speak on love, go all out, if you're only going to do the job halfway, then just keep your mouth closed.

I don't believe God makes mistakes, I believe in the beginning he did want marriage to be one man and one woman to ultimately populate the Earth, but now seeing the end result and how corrupt people have become, he decided to send in the gays. No more unwanted children born into this world and to make things even better, they are willing to take care of the children that are in need of love and companionship from others. Ask a child who is hurting for a hug if he/she cares what sex the people are who give it to them. Teach your kids love and tolerance and hopefully one day in the future, this world would be a better place for all of us.

This message isn't about being pro-gay, that's your business, it's about being anti-hate. It's not what God you follow (or don't), it's not your sexual preference and it's not how you look that makes you evil, it's what's in you heart.

Michael

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Lizam1 you are so right...people fear what they don't know and/or understand...and as you said, the government and religious groups know this. and that is whay they exploit this.

      Thanks for reading and for your commenting...by the way, I love your atittude.

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      Lizam1 4 years ago from Victoria BC

      In my opinion hate is usually fuelled by fear - some churches, mosques, temples et al, and governments play on this. Leaders try to make us fearful of what we don't understand. Judgement, hate and conflict is the result. I like your title. I don't always succeed but I do try to start each day being the best I can be in the world. My favourite quote on this is Ghandi - Be the change you want to see in the world. If we all stopped hating, where would hate be!

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Miller2232 so true...and very unfortunate my friend.

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      Sinclair Miller III 4 years ago from Florida

      People just hate on others for no reason and they really don't know why they are this way.

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Pamela99 thank you so much for the feedback...I really appreciate it. You are so right, we all do fall short, we try to do the best we can and be the kind of person God wants us to be....but it's not easy.

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      This hub really spells out your feelings very clearly and mine are the same. We all fall short and do the best we can. I'm glad you wrote about this particular topic as I think it reflects the views of many people.

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @midget38 very well said...I couldn't have said it any better myself. We all need to remember that we are not without sin, and should not be casting stones, and of course leave the judgement to God himself.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      With you all the way on this, Michael. If we don't concur with someone's morals, we have every right not to. But what we don't have the right to do is to judge, as that is up to the One up there. It's something we all sadly have to learn. Thanks for sharing, and I'll pass this important write on.

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @craiglyn I love the attitude...keep up the great work and continue to make this world a better place to live...I'm proud to know there I'm in such good company my friend.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Right on - good for you - I love this hub. I had a conversation with a cousin of mine a few weeks ago about this very subject - gays adopting children; she couldn't see that what was important was that the children are "loved". She said what about all the bullying they can get at school etc. etc. I said kids bully anyway - "what about educating them on the right and wrong way to do things". Finally I suggested we better stop talking about this because we just were not going to agree. I believe in the end - it is not a choice -and God loves us all. And I believe in our final days, we will "judge ourselves" and some of us might not like what we see when we look at our life rolling past us. Now, I'll get off my soapbox. Voted up for sure!

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Cuttler you are so right my friend...there is way too much hate going on for no good reason...not that there is ever really a good reason to hate, but you get my point.

      As far as the "gay issue" is concerned...I say live and let live. You (of course not you personally, I'm speaking more in general terms) may not agree with it, but it's not your life, so just don't worry about it and move on.

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      Cuttler 4 years ago from HubPages

      Strong message. Too much hate for no reason...Reminds me about the parable of the adulterous woman and the question that Jesus posed..."Let those that have no sin cast the first stone" and everyone dropped their stones. I don't like thinking much about the gay issue...in my country it is really catching on and I admit, guys don't know how to deal with it. Most ignore it, others criticize, others segregate, others accept...I on the other hand keep my opinion to myself. Great hub, strong message.

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @jonnycomelately...you do ask a lot of good questions...much food for thought. I would say that most people who get married do it just because it's what you're suppoed to do, by societys standards anyway...no real thought has been put into it for the long term. It's sad to see that so many people take it so lightly and treat it as a joke and fight so hard to keep two people (regardless of sex) from becoming one.

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      Alan 4 years ago from Tasmania

      Ok, thanks for checking me on that Michael. Yes, I would agree.

      There are a couple of further questions I would ask in that case. Taking our "western" culture in particular, where is our society going wrong in our attitude to contracts, per see?

      I mean, a contract involves at least 2 parties. Each has rights and responsibilities under the terms of the contract. If it's in terms of a marriage, how much does each commit to meeting his/her responsibilities? What are the expectations? What dreams are in mind? Are they realistic? Is there an open and clear intention to keep promises and work towards those dreams? Does each party share the same dreams?

      Probably most important, are there aspects of the marriage which are stronger and considered more valuable than any of those dreams or expectations? Is there full intention to share good and bad times?

      If these questions are not answered clearly I would suggest they might form a big part of marriage breakup.

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @jonnycomelately I could be wrong here, but I think what Paula was trying to say is that marriage in the so-called traditional sense isn't all that sacred in its present state with all the nonsense that is happening...so why do heterosexual couples try to use that in their arguments for being against same sex marriage.

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      Alan 4 years ago from Tasmania

      Paula, sorry, but I don't see any connection between those deviations you mention and two individuals of the same gender having a loving, caring, responsible relationship.

      There is no logical connection.

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      Michael John Mele 4 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @fpherj48 so true and very well said...my thoughts exactly.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Dinginaround....I understand your curious concern. I would simply like to say that polygamy, "Open Marriage," Marriage between a Master and severely oppressed woman? Self-proclaimed Prophets forcing children into marriage.?......these are hardly "Traditional."........No need to respond. I'm just sayin.............UP++

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Dinginaround I am so sorry for that...please except my apology. Thank you very much for your kind words ma'am!

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      Dinginaround 5 years ago

      Momma of 5 kids, but thanks!

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Dinginaround thank you sir.

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      Dinginaround 5 years ago

      Well said.

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @Dinginaround sometimes traditions have to be broken for the sake of equality, we may not always agree with the changes, but they are necessary to keep this world running smoothly. It's not necessarily that they want to destroy marriage in the so-called "traditional" sense, they just want to be treated fairly and have the same rights as a married couple would....what's wrong with that. Are they undeserving of these rights because it's not a man and woman, but two people of the same sex? Marriage is about the love two "people" share for each other and the fact they want to become one, so who are we to deny them that blessing.

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      Dinginaround 5 years ago

      Even as messed up as people behave while married, that does not mean the tradition is not honored among the majority of people.

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      Alan 5 years ago from Tasmania

      Dinginaround, I am inclined to agree with you but for probably a different reason.

      I don't see the traditional institution of marriage as a good model for family life right now. It is so abused, treated so lightly and as such a temporary affair my many heterosexual people, that it's not worth much respect. Domestic violence, child molestation, adultery, divorce, are all so common that they make a mockery of the Marriage Vows anyway (in some cultures and communities).

      Maybe the concept of partnership needs to be looked at afresh.

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      Dinginaround 5 years ago

      As someone who also is in the non-hate category, please don't judge me, I am looking for some clear, un-emotional education on the subject.

      I don't see why the LGBT community is pushing so hard for marriage. The people who believe in traditional marriage can believe in the tradition. The people who want the exact same rights can fight for those rights, but why push to call it marriage in a traditional sense when it clearly isn't? Any lawyer can draw up a contract to make the partnership as equal as a marriage. Why does it have to be a traditional label when clearly that is not what it is all about?. . . .

      Please be kind--I am trying to understand.

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @jonnycomelately unfortunately my friend, no matter what word you use to try to describe it, hate is still hate. By no means is it the fault of the person being hated on, it's the fault on the ignorant narrow-minded hate-filled people spewing that garbage.

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      Alan 5 years ago from Tasmania

      The ignorance would be the driver of the hate, I suggest.

      Dislike is simply a reaction to what one sees, hears, feels, etc. The reaction, i.e., the emotion which causes the dislike, is purely belonging to the person disliking.

      Once again, (although I am not confirmed in this opinion, still open to debate), hate seems to pile blame on the hated. It "passes the buck" so to speak.

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @jonnycomelately how about ignorant?

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      Alan 5 years ago from Tasmania

      Do you really mean "hate?" It's a very strong word. Compared with "dislike," or "to be avoided," hate sort of piles all the blame on the hated.

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @JohnGreasyGamer unfortunately not, there is no humor in hate. It's a real shame that in today's day and age we still have so many hateful and norrow minded people...you would think with time and knowledge we would see a massive decrease. I'm a realist, I know we will never be completely without hate in some fashion or another, but it seems that there is just as much, or even more so then every before.

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      John Roberts 5 years ago from South Yorkshire, England

      I thought video games woul be tied into this like "Chuckles with MichaelJohnMele's Pubic Toilet Escapades", but still a great read. I think we need to bring back Inquisition, so we can burn all the haters. That way I'd have something to "reflect on" at bedtime and we'd all be nice and warm. All in the name of God, you understand. ^^

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      Michael John Mele 5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @jonnycomelately thank you so much for the comment and positive feedback...I really appreciate it.

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      Alan 5 years ago from Tasmania

      Michael, you have written so clearly and with such great passion. Thank you. How could anyone disagree?