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Updated on January 17, 2012
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Recently, I lost 19 pounds doing the Atkins Diet and working out. In order to maintain my current weight I have to exercise. I like to drink (particularly beer) so I watch what I eat, and drink lots of water, so I won't gain the weight back.

I walk 3 to 5 miles a day, which brings me to what happened today. Today I walked 3.5 miles. When I got home, my kids told me that they needed a few things from the grocery store. So I went and got what they needed. Well, as a black woman, if your hair is straightened, and you walk 3.5 miles on a hot and humid day (like today) your hair will not be straight any more. Anyway, I went to the store after my walk. While in line, another black woman, a beautician, approached me and said "Who does your hair?", I told her that usually I don't get it done, but when I do "such and such" does my hair. She proceeded to tell me that she is a beautician and that she would give me a perm so that when I work out my hair won't "poof out" like that. She gave me her card, and continued... " I work out of my house, and I don't charge much. Give me a call, I've got a lot of time on my hands!".

Any one who knows me knows I no longer do perms!!!! I am proud of looking black, because I AM BLACK!!!! NOT AFRICAN AMERICAN, (I've never been to Africa) but BLACK!!!!! So, very politely, I gave her back her card and said: "Lady, you can kiss my ass!!!! I have a lot of ass for you to kiss!"

My point is, DON'T BUY THE HYPE!!! If you choose to straighten your hair, more power to you; but don't hate on people who are not ashamed of their natural texture!!!

To black people who may not know: Our hair is called "The Proof". The reason for that is; if you have nappy, kinky hair, it is proof that you have some "Motherland" in your mix. That is nothing to be ashamed of, because we are beautiful, smart people. Every time someone tells you you are "nappy headed", "wide nosed", "big lipped" or have a "big butt", they are perpetuating the ideals of slave masters. The only reason that it is not accepted is because it has been allowed to be deemed unacceptable. If someone tells me that my hair is not beautiful because it is kinky, they are also telling me that my mother, my father, and my grandparents are not beautiful; and that would prove to be quite dangerous!!!! It would find me smiling in my jail cell, knowing that I did the right thing.

I have never heard of a white person being put down because their hair is straight, their eyes are bright in color or because they have narrow noses and lips. If they do not have to feel ashamed, then why should we?

Be proud of everything that you are, because people fought hard (even died) for you to have the right to make a choice of what you want to be. And never be ashamed of who you are, because your ancestors were not ashamed of you! They loved you and they went through hell for you to be accepted. They turn over in their graves when we try and sell their efforts out.

As I said earlier, I am not pointing a finger at black women who choose to perm their hair; it doesn't make you "less black" or a "sell out". My problem is with those who do it to fit into a society that won't accept you, even with straight hair!! If you are fixated in "being accepted" do it by graduating college, not having babies you can't care for. Do it by not going to jail, having a normal vocabulary; and most of all, do it by not trying to talk over the heads of your people!!

Anybody who has ever pissed me off has heard me say at least once "Eddie and Angie didn't raise no punk bitches!" Meaning, I will not be disrespected as I was today!!!!

Black people, I love you!!! We cannot get ahead as a People if we only emphasize fitting into "their world". Let's try being comfortable in our own skin. Let's try being the best we can be period.

Our parent's job is to give us what we need to make it, once we our out on our own. After that, it is up to us to use what our parents gave us. In the civil rights movement, our parents were MLK and Malcolm X. They gave us what we needed. Even provided us with a host of aunts, uncles and cousins to carry on teachings after they were gone. It is up to us to use it!!!! It is up to us to pass to the grandchildren, great-grandchildren, nieces and nephews, sons and daughters!! Learn your history and be proud of it!!! No young or old black person should EVER hear from another black person the kind of thing I heard today.


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    • realwoman profile image


      8 years ago

      hiya. luved the hub.

      you can check out my hubs as well.


    • one2recognize2 profile image


      9 years ago from New York

      Very good hub, true honesty and belief couldn't come out any better.

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      James Brown 

      9 years ago from United States of America

      Very well written and honest hub. Thanks for sharing.

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      Veronica Allen 

      9 years ago from Georgia

      I choose not to use chemicals in my hair as well, and sadly, even other woman or men of color tend to look down on keeping your hair in a "natural" state. It bothers me at times, because I don't expect this from those who I feel would appreciate this look or understand it. We were born with "natural" hair, it is the "hype" as you mention that makes it so unexceptable to stay that way. It's truly amazing how something as simple as how you do your hair - can easily trinkle down to how you are viewed and treated. Like you wrote, we need to be comfortable with who we are, (no matter how we look - natural hair or not) and not feel as if we have to fit into someone else's mold.

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      benny Faye Douglass 

      9 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you for a very true and endearing hub. thanks for sharing. thanks for being my fan. creativeone59


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