- Politics and Social Issues
Tainted Outcast. Why are white women with mulatto children considered damaged goods by white men?
Unfit for a relationship with a white man.
"A little bit of leaven, leaveneth the whole lump." The evil of racism like leaven pollutes many areas of American society in subtle but very caustic ways. Quite often those who are victimized by these evils suffer in silence; day to day bearing an invisible cross if you will and the unseen internal scars of rejection by the men who at one time considered her "one of their own." I am speaking of course of white women who have birthed black children only to find that when their relationship didn't work out with the black father; her own white race and its men would have nothing to do with her and her mulatto children. White men have labeled her an instant pariah and are unrelenting in their snubbing of any white woman who would dare allow a black man to penetrate her much less bear his children. Her would be white sisters whisper behind her back; amongst themselves they ask questions like "what was she thinking, didn't she know that no self respecting white man would ever want her again?" Her would be white sisters pity her the way one pities a mangy dog who has been kicked one too many times and told to "git!" They greet her with a facade of coyness intended to make her feel as though she's accepted by them but not really. They even make civil comments about the beauty of her "mocha babies." Unaware or not caring that their mock comments add more injury to the plight she has found herself in. The white woman with black children is but one of the many collateral damages of the "great white racist elephant" that is often seen but seldom heard.
As a young black man I dated women from other races and I remember clearly a young white woman who I was dating; I remember her relating the story to me of how no white man would give her the time of day because she had birthed black children. She was not a woman who was not attracted to white men. As she told me she just so happened to have fallen in love with a black man and they wanted to have children. When their relationship didn't work out she found that white men were pretty quick to run away from her when they found out she had biracial children from a black man. She would go on to say that she had been really naïve when she considered dating again after her failed relationship; she said she never knew how intensely racist the society she lived in was. She said she had a new found appreciation for blacks who had been suffering from it all along. As I considered what she was telling me a single thought or I should say half thought went through my mind; a cliché..."a mile in another mans shoes..."
I've often wondered to myself why more white women with black children don't voice the prejudice that is leveled against them by white men?