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The Loss of Virginity In America: A Moment With Bill Reflection

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THE END OF INNOCENCE

All things truly wicked start from innocence.

Ernest Hemingway

For many, it was the end of innocence. It was a time remembered by sensations rather than by any historical events. Top-down T-birds rumbling down the main drag. The mouth-watering taste of cheeseburgers at the A&W. The smell of leaves burning on a fall morning and the sounds of Roy Orbison singing about the lonely.

Ike and Mamie held court in our nation’s capitol, seemingly good but terribly bland people who mirrored perfectly the average neighbor on the average street, from Savannah to San Diego, Baltimore to Sioux Falls to Ashford. Television slowly wrestled control of the nation’s psyche from radio, and sports heroes were larger than life and as sacred as the pope.

The nation’s press protected our leaders in those days, from politics to entertainment. Nary a word was printed about personal scandals, as though one truly could separate the public persona from the private.

Starry-eyed girls left for California to be discovered on the corner of Hollywood and Vine, and soldiers came home to resume the lives they had left behind for foreign lands.

A barbecue on every patio, a new Maytag in every kitchen and the arrival of the Sears catalog more important than the latest national legislation….that was America as the 1950’s came to a close. What threats there were could only be described as nebulous at best. Yes, school children practiced duck and cover in the event of a nuclear attack, but it was never really expected and was generally treated as just so much annoyance. The economy was reasonably sound, families were living the dream and life was all it was supposed to be.

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The End of Innocence

OR WAS IT?

One of the more disturbing aspects of termite infestation is that often times the home owner has no idea there is a problem until the entire structure of the home is compromised and major reconstruction is needed.

America, the turn of a new decade, and those damn termites had been busy.

I was twelve years old in 1960 and I had no clue about abuse. It simply was not a subject that was discussed in “proper” homes.

I was twelve years old in 1960 and I know for a fact that PTSD was never heard of then. Returning soldiers were sometimes shell-shocked, as my uncle was, but there was no real remedy for it other than to hike up your pants and “be a man.”

I was twelve years old in 1960 and vaguely aware that somewhere in the United States blacks were treated as less than white, but I had no personal experience with prejudice….simply because I had no personal experience with people of other cultures.

I was twelve years old in 1960 and yes, I knew of prostitution and pornography, but the closest I came to a bare breast was National Geographic.

I was twelve years old in 1960 and I was clueless, not because I did not care, but because the termites were oh so sneaky as they ate away the foundation of the United States. If left unnoticed all hell will break loose eventually, and so it was in the United States in 1960.

LOOKING BACK WITH ROSE-COLORED GLASSES

I have written often about the idyllic childhood I had, and the wonders I encountered as a child of the 60’s, and all that I wrote is true by my recollections…..but…..there was another side of that childhood that would surface with the peacefulness of a 2x4 to the side of the head. It was a side of life that was hidden from view until it grew to such proportions that it could no longer be confined to the closet.

Of course I speak about the societal ills of this country, ills that had been suppressed and swept under the rug while Ike and Mamie roamed the Rose Garden and Madison Avenue filled our heads with an “attainable” dream life.

Sex trafficking was alive and well in 1960. Drugs were alive and well in 1960. Men abused their wives and children in 1960, and women did the same. The income and opportunity gap between white and “coloreds” was reaching terminal mass, and our determination to keep an eye on those pesky Communists had us advising in a country few had heard of, namely Vietnam.

Soldiers, ten to fifteen years removed from Omaha Beach, Manilla and Seoul, were finding it increasingly difficult to forget the severed limbs, and night sweats kept their eyes peeled open in the middle of the wide-awake nightmares.

Words like nigger, chink and spic were common vernacular from sea to shining sea, and Pleasant Valley Sundays were not being lived in Detroit, Birmingham or Watts.

To put it another way….Billy Crystal was twelve in 1960 and so was Ted Bundy.

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AND THEN ALL HELL BROKE LOOSE

At the end of the last ice age, approximately 12,000 to 17,000 years ago, the Great Missoula Floods occurred. There were periodic and sudden ruptures in the ice dam on the Clark Fork River in what is now Montana, and Glacier Lake Missoula broke through and rushed down the Clark Fork River and the Columbia River, devastating everything in its path.

Metaphorically speaking, that is what happened to the United States, and to a lesser degree the other industrialized nations, as the 1960’s unfolded.

Pressure had been building for far too long, and eventually the dam broke and what were once hidden problems were in our faces and shoved down our throats in a jarring and seemingly never-ending dose of reality.

Suddenly we realized that people of “color” had valid complaints and by God we were going to pay attention and do something about it or we would all fall.

Suddenly the wisdom of our political leaders was called into question, and for possibly the first time since 1787, a majority of Americans talked about revolution.

Suddenly we had to admit that the elders and power figures we respected so greatly were, after all was said and done, only human, with defects just like those that we carried with us to bed each night.

Suddenly we were forced to face the terrifying truth that we were not, as a nation, perfect, and perhaps the crown we wore as leaders of the free world might be a bit tarnished.

The termites could no longer be ignored.

Every act of rebellion expresses a nostalgia for innocence and an appeal to the essence of being.
Albert Camus

The end of innocence for the author....1960
The end of innocence for the author....1960 | Source

A NOSTALGIA FOR INNOCENCE

I suspect, and that’s all the following is, that part of the reason why the 60’s were so tumultuous was because so many people felt cheated. They had been handed an illusionary bill of goods only to find out it was all smoke and mirrors.

It would have been one thing to just find out our political leaders had deceived us, for truthfully I believe most citizens expect a certain amount of deceit from Washington D.C. It was quite another thing to find out that our own families had been deceiving from birth. The hypocrisy that could be found on the streets of Charles City, Iowa and Idaho Falls, Idaho, was every bit as great as that found on Pennsylvania Avenue, and that hurt Americans to the very core of their being.

In 1960, little boys and little girls went to church on Sundays and heard of the brotherhood of man, and learned to love thy neighbor in Sunday schools, only to find out that their parents, grandparents and other extended family members did not live by those same rules. It…was…all…a…farce!

So tear it down, baby. The foundation is rotted and we need better construction techniques if it is to survive another 184 years. We need to get rid of the termites no matter the cost, and if that means burning the house to burn the termites then so be it.

And so it was, and so it is today.

Not so wide-eyed innocent today, are we? We have seen the enemy and the enemy was us. We have seen the dark side and it was in our own homes, and slowly….ever so slowly…we are chasing away those nightmares and building a better nation.

The waters eventually receded from the Great Missoula Flood, leaving a landscape that today is battle-scarred and yet lovely in its bleak nature. As one travels through eastern Washington you can see the undulating ground where huge waves once flowed at over sixty miles per hour, and you can see the huge gorge carved out by an unstoppable force.

We are still dealing today with a similar unstoppable force….that of change….and it will continue unabated wherever innocence is shattered and reality proves to be too ugly to bear.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, in truth I would be terrified to have a young child today....the word is scarier today than it once was.....best wishes my friend. Hug that daughter and enjoy every single moment with her.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      I think everyone looks back at the past with rose-colored glasses. I do too. Yes I think many things have changed and I am much more vigilant with my daughter about things than my parents were when I was growing up. Truth is bad things have always happened, and sadly always will. It's easier to hear about them now with social media etc.....

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jeannie, you are right on my friend. There are so few people that I know who are honest and open...it's like an entire nation has constipation. :) Ewwww...sorry! LOL

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      Jeannie InABottle 4 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      This is an excellent hub! As much as people complain about current issues, it is true there was always a problem, but we just did not talk about it. I personally would much rather have this issues out in the open, discuss them, and then try to find solutions. Without admitting society has these problems, we can't fix them.

      Voted up and shared!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Gypsy! As long as there is hope and people who care then there is hope. :)

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      Thought provoking and inspirational as always Bill. Somethings gotta change and give 'cause I too have nostalgia for the America that was and that I do believe can be again. Passing this on.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I have learned to listen closely to drbj.....wise lady.

      Have a wonderful Sunday my friend.

      bill

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I ' gotta say that drbj said it all. God bless america..

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, I love your spirit my friend, and I agree with you. Writers entertain...writers inform....and as long as we don't stay quiet and speak out, the government will not live in total secrecy. Thank you, Deb.

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Reality can be and was pretty darn ugly. I believe that in our own wisdom, we recover from he untruths that we were told. We will rise above it all, and not let the government tell us anything that we will not question. Fracking is and was the last straw, for we have learned that money talks while the government allow us to be poisoned. We will unite for the greater good of mankind, and people like us are what it takes.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      if you name is Angela you already found us and I approved you....if not, here is the Facebook link.....https://www.facebook.com/groups/294777667307474/

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Walter, there is method to my madness always.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shinkicker, thank you for the compliment. I'll try to keep you entertained. :)

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      AngPow 4 years ago from North Cali

      I am looking for Humanity One World on Facebook now, and I see more than one. I'd love to join though. Perhaps you can find me incase I do not find the correct page. Am I allowed to put my FB link in the comment box? I don't want to get in any HubPage T.R.O.U.B.L.E :)

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      Poon Poi Ming 4 years ago from Malaysia

      Shinkicker, Billybuc is so sly, slippery, and deceptive. I won't have read this hub, had the title not been "The Loss of Virginity In America". He made me read the whole hub because I couldn't find anything remotely close to the loss of virginity and I still haven't. Wikipedia defines "virginity" as "the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse".

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      Shinkicker 4 years ago from Scotland

      I love your style of writing. Fascinating Hub and relevant to today as well as the 1960's.

      Many thanks

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Walter, such wisdom my friend....I don't know how you do it. LOL

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      Poon Poi Ming 4 years ago from Malaysia

      MrsBrownsParlour, if we don't use all the buttons, then we are doomed. Buttons are there for only one purpose, and that is for us to hit. Thanks for hitting and have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lurana, if we don't learn from our mistakes then we are doomed, and I refuse to believe that we are as a society. Thank you for hitting all those buttons and have a great weekend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aplethora, I call myself a cynical optimist. I do believe there is hope, but it's getting harder each day to figure out why I believe that. :) Still, where there is hope there is always....hope. :) Come join us on Humanity One World on Facebook.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kas, I consider that a huge compliment....thank you! Reflection is good for the soul my friend. As long as we are questioning then we are alive and well. It is the one who never questions and in fact goes through life not caring that I worry about. Thank you my friend.

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      Lurana Brown 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      This might be the only time I used all the buttons...up, useful, funny, awesome, beautiful, and interesting. :-) Very powerful writing and such an important message! Nostalgia has its value but let's only carry the truly good things forward and learn from our mistakes.

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      AngPow 4 years ago from North Cali

      Wow. Informative and impressive. And yes the termite infested foundation was an awesome visual. This was a fantastic read and I enjoy your personal writing style. Someone who I follow shared this hub and I do my best to pay it forward and take some time out for the next person. I used to have little to no hope that people would open their eyes to the truth and shut their negative mouths up, and take more action in being the change they wish to see in the world, until I realized I was one of those people who needed to take my own advice. Call me Crazy but for some odd reason I seem to have quite a bit more hope in humanity and change for the better. (Still wish I could have hung out with my gramma back in the 1950's though.) Voted up.

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      Kas 4 years ago from Bartlett, Tennessee

      I think it's absolutely a great hub.....especially for these times brother.

      I also think it's kind of crazy that christians, or people that claim they are, actually believe hypocrisy works. I also didn't care to know jack spit about Jesus because of the hypocrisy I witnessed and still witness at times in the church today. It's very hard to call myself a christian because to many, that name has been tarnished and redefined to mean "loose morals" and that I can do what I want completely against God's word and God will be alright with it, because after all.....he knows my heart. What a crock.

      If I remember correctly, God has some pretty harsh words throughout the Bible for those who know the truth and turn from it. Or even for those churches that are playing games in Revelation. I am not a cynical man anymore these days......I used to be. But I came to Christ, so I really do try to look for the good in all things. But we are also called to be smart and wise enough to recognize the bad and to keep from letting it control our lives. We are to love others, to cherish our spouses, to raise our kids to know right from wrong.....but most of all I'm to love God with all I am.

      You've got me so very reflective in this, I could keep going on and on. Good job on the hub Bill. If it makes me talk this much, then you're doing something right bud!

      Voting up and sharing.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, I think the government could learn a lesson from that business you ran. :) just sayin'

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      As humans, Bill, we are not comfortable with change. We get used to the status quo and fear change. In business, I learned that if you want folks to buy into necessary change, make sure that they are an integral part of the process. Just sayin'.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, I'm like a fine wine that I cannot drink....hopefully I get better with age....:) and hopefully I don't turn to vinegar. LOL

      Thank you my friend.....we all need to tear down bits and pieces of our assumptions based on the past....they were faulty at best and at worst....debilitating. :)

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      We have see the enemy and the enemy is us!

      Bill, your writing just gets better and better - and better!

      It HAS rotted from the inside out, but - i'm not sure i agree that people SEE it - or want to see it..

      ignorance is still plenty bliss, but it's folks like you who will open eyes - two by two (excuse pun) - unless we're already past the tipping point..

      which..i sometimes believe we are..

      keep up the great work my friend - "TEAR IT DOWN!"

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, good analogy about your dog....or was that a metaphor...or a simile??? LOL...I can't be that good because I can never tell those three apart. :) Thank you my friend. I have my good moments and this was one of them.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Damn you're good! You started this hub with what appeared to be good memories of the fifties, but you didn't leave it there. You brought us up to date with how things really are.

      The way you describe America reminds me of my dog. He thinks if he turns his head you can't see him! That was the America you and I grew up in. Now we see things without turning our heads. It is time to look at the problems head on.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, there are days I wonder if the necessary changes will ever happen, and then I look back to how it once was and I realize that change happens daily, in such small increments as to seem invisible...but it does happen.

      Thank you for sharing your own experiences. Have a great day my friend.

      hugs and blessings are on the way

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, you will never be left behind. We are survivors and we are learners....and I, too, walked away from the hypocrisy never to return.

      Thank you for a very insightful comment and have a wonderful day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, I have spent some time shuddering as well. :) Thank you!

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      Patricia Scott 4 years ago from sunny Florida

      Billy

      I was 12 in 1960 too and my life was sheltered from so much that as an adult it boggles my mind. I only saw one Black family when until I was 18. The year I turned 18 we actually had a Black boy attend our high school as part of desegregation..change was acomin'.

      My Momma raised me to believe that 'all God's children' are equal in His sight and that no one, not the poor, not the aged and infirm, not those of different ethnic groups, not those whose skin was a different color than mine, should be treated any different than my family and friends. And if nigger was ever used in our house, I never heard it.

      So when I did hear it from my friends and family and heard the anger and disdain it was confusing and opened many discussions between me and my Momma.

      Change has happened over the years as you have said. And our innocence was shattered as our rose colored glasses had to come off.

      Change stillneeds to occur as we know and we, all races and cultures, must consider and perhaps walk a mile in the shoes of others in search of understanding.

      Voted up ...thank you for sharing this with us.

      Angels are on the way to you today and each day ps

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I think I was nine years old when I realised the world was not as orderly as I was led to believe. That paragraph about children going to church to learn about a golden rule that was not observed by the adults really hit home.

      I used to get dropped off at church every Sunday to attend Mass and picked up afterwards. (Neither of my parents attended with me.) This went on for three years till I began questioning the hypocrisy of it. I went to a Catholic school where nuns and priests would talk about 'love they neighbour' one minute and then be physically and verbally abusive towards the students the next. I couldn't understand how these agents of God could betray his word so blithely. I thought that was a terrible sin. Eventually I walked away from it all never to return. I settled for just trying to be the best person I could be.

      Yes, the world is changing as is our perception of it and nothing will ever be the same. But that's just the way of things. We can either adapt to it and move forward or we can rail against it and be left behind.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      I remember how things use to be and I feel sad. Then I think of the changes that I made and I shudder.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, the personal essay is where I made my bones here at HP.....and it is where my first love is. I need to get back to my roots more after straying a bit. Thank you for the kind words and the encouragement....and of course, the friendship.

      Aloha

      bill

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Bill, you're a master of the personal essay. I loved how your thoughts flowed with a rhythmic cadence. You also took risks here and there and pulled off each attempt as adeptly as Heath Ledger's Joker masterminded the bank heist. I was at once starving for one more look at Donna Reed's sweet face while alarmed at the newsreels of napalm-induced fire devouring the brush of a Vietnamese pasture. You triggered both nostalgia and revulsion with this one, Bill, and that's the mark of an effective and powerful writer. Thank you, my friend! Aloha!

      Joe

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alex, you said it perfectly. Much of this mess begins at home...teach your children well indeed. :) Thank you my friend.

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      SilverGenes 4 years ago

      Bill, you certainly nailed it in this article. Excellent! One thing we have going for us are the young people who are not under the same old illusions and who do have the resolve to build a better world. "Teach your children well..." They have a hard job ahead of them.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzie, that was a very sweet thing to say. Thank you! I think the vision comes with old age. LOL

      Bev and I are fine; the family is healthy, and I hope the same is true for you and the Mickster.

      hugs from Olympia

      bill

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Bill,

      Great read with just the right mix of nostalgia and life's lessons the next generation have to look forward to. You have incredible vision, understanding and ability to show us what is in front of our faces but often we cannot see or are viewing with blinkers on. Another Bill classic, great job my friend, hope all is good your end :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ana, great line...same things in a different haircut. I love that. :) Thank you for the visit and comment. You can always count on me being as honest as I know how to be. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bobbi, it was a very valid view and I'm glad you spoke up. I have often said that the increase in divorce and many other social ills are due to the 60's. There was a great deal of bad mixed in with the good, just as there is today.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...Nell, the same could be said for my parents....WWII, the Great Depression, and on and on, and where the heck was the good old days in all of that? Oh well, we move forward and do the best we can.

      Thank you for stopping by; you are appreciated my friend.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      This is the most honest article I have read in awhile. I never thought that anyone would admit that. Like many things in life, exposure to reality is key to assess the whole picture. I am an 80's kid, in 1988 I was 12, and had no idea how the world worked. But now looking back, is wasn't that much different than now. Changes, cycles, or the same thing in a different haircut...

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      PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida

      Bill.

      You are the best---I just wanted to give my view because I have young nephews and nieces coming up and older ones also.

      So I am aware of how the young people are taught everything in school and home to be given the correct choice in life about how one conducts one's self.

      Bobbi

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      So true billy, and the same goes for over here too. I remember all the happy days of the 60s when I was a tiny kid, it seems so lovely, sweet and innocent, but of course it wasn't. I actually did think about this a while ago, when my mum used to say, 'oh for the old days' I thought to myself, which ones? if you think about it, from the first world war onwards, known history in our family, there was war, rationing, outside toilets, no washing machines, no money, my mum was always hard up for cash, even though they both worked, and of course there were still thugs out there causing fights and murder, the kray brothers for one, so yes I think a lot of the old days stuff was actually all in 'their heads'. great hub billy, and much to think about, nell

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bobbi, I have no answer for you. Moral decay begins in the home where it always has begun. Without it, children will learn from their peers, television and the internet, and that is a road to disaster.

      Thank you for a different perspective, one I didn't think of when writing this metaphor on virginity. :)

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nor do I, Abby! :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael, I'm laughing...inspiring comments save one. LOL

      You are very welcome my friend. Thank you for being so loyal. I appreciate you.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aleshia, we are indeed, and the fight will continue until we learn to work for the common good. Thank you for your insightful comment.

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      PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida

      Bill,

      I am talking about the sex part you inferred—so here is my view on sex in America.

      Most of the women thought in 1800’s it was their duty (not enjoyment) to comply with their husband’s desires.

      And in the early 1900 sex was not taught in schools and talked about in homes. And when it was taught it was mainly in news reels in a dark classroom---most still did not understand it.

      So the 1960’s bounced into the world with the Hippie Movement---free spirits---free sex and anything goes. Remember Woodstock? Greenwich Village was a popular place.

      So from the Flower Children until now---I ask you? Where were the good role models for all the decades of children to follow?

      Information has to be given by the parents to the children. The parents set the rules for their children. I know my mother was so strict with me---my classmates would salute her and call her Colonel and my Daddy was right behind her.

      So I feel the young people of America are doing a much better job at acting correctly and not participating in Free Sex.

      Look at how the adults of America act---where are their role models.

      Bobbi Purvis

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      Abby Campbell 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Yes, we have to continue with hope! I sure don't want my future grandchildren being born in this world without innocence.

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      Michael-Milec 4 years ago

      Good evening , William D. Holland.

      Perspicacious ! Thank you so very much for" helping writers to spread their wings and fly." ( Personaly grateful ).

      All ' unacknowledged ' facts of " colapsing " America you have revealed in a nutshell .

      [ Inspiring comments , (save one ) - informative responses ].

      (( Changes ?! Without feasibility of change we all would end up in hell...)).

      Voted up, awesome and useful .

      You're in my prayers. Shalom .

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      Aleshia Clarke 4 years ago from Port Orange, Florida

      Very insightful. This is a message that people need to hear today when they wonder what happened to our country. We are divided once again, fighting with each other instead of looking within.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Abby, I am beginning to think that kids are born today without innocence, and that is as sad a statement as I can make.

      I think we all believed, no matter which decade, that were alright and they would continue to be so....and then reality hits and we find ourselves lost, and wondering if it is all a lie.

      I hope we find a way to reverse this trend in society my friend. I still have hope. :)

      Thank you for stopping by and leaving such a reflective comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Faith! Sounds like you had a very protective and wise father. :)

      Blessings to you my friend.

      bill

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      Abby Campbell 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Bill, I know I grew up a little later in life than you. I graduated high school in the 1980s, and I thought that was the time of great change (not the 60s). LOL. We had Ronald Reagan in office, and I lived in the Washington, DC, area at the time. Business was booming, and you didn't even need a college degree to make $80-100K per year with a legitimate job. We drove our fast cars and lived in big houses. Friendships and happy hours were good. So I thought! Being the naive young woman I was at the time had blinded me to the real nitty-gritty of life. Like you though, I realized as time went by that people are not what they seem. The sins of close family members, co-workers, and even pastors had let me down. Why can't I see things through rose-colored glasses now? I'm sure things in the 80s weren't all rosy as I had seen back then, but the innocence of youth had captured me as I'm sure it did with most young people until about a decade ago. It's not that way for the young any longer as they see the disasters of family, church, and politics so clearly. The loss of virginity in America runs rampant. :(

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      I am glad I had a mean ole' dad who ran off any would-be suitors who may have stolen my "innocence"!!!

      I am glad I stayed pure until marriage, but again, I was 19 when I married, and now so many are waiting much later to marry, so it would be a hard thing to stay pure; however, I can only imagine :)

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruchira, it is fascinating to see the changes, and to look back and realize how much has altered in our time...not always for the good, but still fascinating. :) Thank you as always.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      dahoglund, there is no doubt about what you say, and I even agree that all changes have not been for the good....and so it is throughout history, yes?

      Thank you for the visit and thoughtful comment.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      vkwok, it will always be so....and it is our job to bring them to the light of day.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lilly, that is food for a writer's soul...thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Paul....I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mark, thanks for the shot of encouragement and the kind words of praise. I'll try to do more of these as time allows.

      blessings buddy

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Audrey! I just don't have the time to devote to this type of writing daily...wish I did, and maybe that will change, but it is gratifying to know people have missed this style of writing. Thank you kind lady. Sending you hugs, blessings and love from Olympia.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hey Sue! Thanks for stopping by. I never saw a Playboy until college...I know they were around, and I'm sure my dad had a few, but I never saw them.

      As for burning it down, I'm pretty sure everyone will hear the fire alarms. :)

      Thank you my friend.

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      Don A. Hoglund 4 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      Change is part of nature. I am not sure that the change of the 1960's was totally for the good. I am a bit older than you and we did think Ike was bland but it was he that sent the troops to assist in opening a school to black kids. There was much more to Ike than like ability. We could use some like him today. There is a saying about throwing out the baby with the bath and I think that has happened quite a bit since my time.

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      There were many serious issues left in the dark in the past that have only recently got attention. Thumbs up to this hub.

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      Lori J Latimer 4 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

      This was an enjoyable reflection, and your topic is filled with thoughts that I cannot help contemplate. Thank you!

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      Paul Goodman 4 years ago from Florida USA

      Love your lively and informative style, Billy, and it's difficult not to agree with you!

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      Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

      Bill, I agree that change is essential and is beautiful in all aspects.

      How our country and the other nations have progressed over time is amazing..what we were and we are now...cannot disagree on any of this cause the times we are living in is marvelous but, minus the values. They are all going down the drain and honestly, unless we stand up and revolt...no more! it ain't gonna stop!

      Some very essential pointers and loved your take on it.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Stated clearly and with bold truth. This is the writing that makes you who you have become Bill. These messages are the core of why people like you and I and many others write, and I believe the basis for HOW.

      Never stop saying.....

      Mark

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      Audrey Hunt 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      I, for one, am thankful for your return to the 'old Bill.' As you know, I love all your work, about anything you write - partially because I love you and partially because I learn so much with every hub you write.

      With this hub you 'wrapped me around your little finger' as I was 100% engaged in every word. Brilliant, Bill. Voted up, UABI and sharing. Love and hugs to you and Bev!

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      Sueswan 4 years ago

      Hi Bill,

      I was a year old in 1960.

      "I was twelve years old in 1960 and yes, I knew of prostitution and pornography, but the closest I came to a bare breast was National Geographic." As a young girl is the 60s my dad would send my sister or I to the convenient store to pick up his monthly playboy magazine and large export "A."

      "We need to get rid of the termites no matter the cost, and if that means burning the house to burn the termites then so be it." Let's make sure that there are no innocent people inside that burning house.

      Voted up awesome and sharing

      Have a good day :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Walter, your commission check is in the mail. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, I don't even know where to find an old Sears catalog....LOL....and yes, we are that far removed from the ways of our forefathers. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Cat....where it all went? The way of the Do-Do Bird my friend, never to be seen again...unless...we make it happen. :)

      Thank you my friend...we'll just keep hoping.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Dahlia and I hope you are having a wonderful day as well.

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      Poon Poi Ming 4 years ago from Malaysia

      Cat, did you remember to vote up this hub with UABI? I always tend to forget and would return, just to click, LOL.

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      Lunch was de-lish. Mmmm, Mmmmmm!

      Sure you don't want something to eat?

      Are we That Far removed from the ways of our forefathers?

      A few leafs, an old Sears-Roebuck catalog...I hear they work quite well. Just one tinsy-wincy problem.....they won't flush.

      Looks like you are on your own, on this one.

      Good luck, my friend.

      DJ.

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Billy,

      This is why I 'scream'! Every bit of every word you spoke struck a chord with me. You may have been making your childhood memories before me, but I grew up in a time of innocence too! I run around all the time, asking where this all went... it was not that long ago those days were here, but I fear they'll be gone forever. My children will never grasp the concept of what my childhood was like, no matter how many times I make them sit through the stories ;-)

      I like the touch with the video and perfect choice!

      Awesome job, inspiring as always!

      Cat

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      An interesting read as always from you Bill. Thank you for this. Have a good day :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Walter, that may be your best comment ever. I cringed and laughed at the same time.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, go take care of business. I just realized that Bev left for work and we have no toilet paper in the house. LOL I think I'll hold off on eating until she gets home with the car. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, I wonder that often. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sally, thank you. I love it when I receive compliments like that...it means I am improving in my craft, so thank you for validating my efforts.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, it is not easy and indeed, God help us. We better figure it out as a nation soon.

      Thank you my loyal friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, that brought a smile to my face. Thank you my friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Wayne, thanks for the eloquent comment, one I agree with and am concerned about as well. This country is in trouble. Millions don't realize it because they have their piece of the pie, and everything is comfy in their world right now....but the termites are eating and the foundation is cracking....and it seems, at times, as if nobody is paying attention.

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      Poon Poi Ming 4 years ago from Malaysia

      Janine Huldie, America had reached its zenith when it out beat the Soviet Union which, fortunately or unfortunately, is now no longer with us. It was a nice boxing match but it would have been even much nicer if the match had been prolonged, with the opponent barely able to stand. No, no, no... I'm not a sadist. I only like to watch.

      But just like the sun that will never set on the British Empire, America will likewise set like the tides that must ebb and flow. That's the nature of all things and phenomena in this world. Yet, if there's any consolation, do rejoice over the fact that you won't see it with your own eyes because it won't be anytime soon. Let the future generations worry about that. You already have your fair share of worries, so don't be too greedy, trying to grab theirs as well, LOL.

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      I must go digging into your older hubs and your sorted past.

      But, right now, my stomach tells me it is lunch time, and nothing

      stands between me and food!

      Thanks,

      DJ.

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well done. Cycles or a one time thing, I wonder.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 4 years ago from Norfolk

      One of your best Billybuc, I really connect with this one, having grown up through the apartheid years in South Africa - life sure is never going to be the same again but for oh so many reasons and I say that goodness we can now get on with the business of putting to right which should have happened so long ago. Great Hub, voted this one up!

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Bilybuc, I agree. The enemy is us and change must begin with us. I think that we have to revisit and re-establish the principles that have been trampled in every aspect of our lives. It's not easy. God help us!

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Yeah, that virginity thing scared me too. I thought, oh Lord, I hope I am not in this one! lol

      Beautiful read, touched my heart.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, ....before you knew me, I wrote a lot of hubs like this one. This is really a return to the old Bill, before I undertook a bit of change myself. :) I will try to return to this style more often because quite frankly I miss it.

      Thank you my friend. You are greatly appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lady, thank you! I am always gratified when someone tells me that this is their favorite of my works....it means, to me, that I am improving as a writer and that is very gratifying.

      The truth....it is hard to ignore it for very long. :)

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      Bill, we have come to expect the truth from you. You have not let us down. This hub encompasses the time of innocence to a time of

      maturity.....a time of nostalgia to a time of reality.

      Change is inevitable and crucial for our survival.

      This hub is an introduction of something greater to come from you.

      I think we are ready. Bring it on, Bill.

      DJ.