The Painful Price for Being Molested
Why victims don't come forward.
In recent weeks we have seen an increase in the number of victims of sexual assault and misconduct come forward to face their perpetrators. Most of these people are celebrities in the sports and entertainment field, as well as those who have experienced misconduct from politicians. This is a disturbing trend, but it is nothing new, as it has been going on for decades. It also happens to people working your everyday jobs in all industries. It doesn't have to be work related, as it has happened to people who were molested by family members. But why is there such a sudden rise in victims speaking out?
Maybe it's because of the most publicized celebrity cases involving Bill O'Reilly, Roy Moore and Harvey Weinstein. These cases have distinctly different reactions to the people who have accused them of misconduct. O'Reilly was the first to fall from grace when he was removed from Fox News due to the allegations of his behavior that led sponsors to pull out from supporting his show.
In the case of Weinstein, his accusers have come out in droves and the accusations have led to him losing his job, while police are building a criminal case against him. This was the single most influential case leading to many other similar claims of sexual misconduct against celebrities. We have seen the likes of Louis CK, Al Franken, Charlie Rose, and John Conyers just to name a few, accused of acts that have been deemed inappropriate. These men have all admitted that they may have committed wrong deeds and have apologized to their victims. Although they may not agree with all if their accusers, they do feel that they did something that was inappropriate and have accepted whatever consequences that come with their actions.
The one thing that we are seeing with all of these accusations though is the length of time it has taken the victims to speak out. Gabby Douglas was bashed on social media for criticizing a former gymnastics teammate about the way she dressed, only to later admit she too had been a victim of sexual assault. It has even happened to men, as Terry Crews, someone you would never expect to have been a victim, admitted he was assaulted at a party a year ago, but was too ashamed to say anything about it because he didn't react with violence against the violator. Kevin Spacey has lost his job and been removed from shows in production for his assault on young boys. Why do these victims keep this in for so long, enduring the pain and humiliation they felt from the attacks?
Let's look at two major reasons this happens. The first is the case of Judge Roy Moore, who is running for a Senate seat with the U.S. Congress. Here is a man who has been elected by the state of Alabama to enforce laws, and is now being accused of being a child predator because his victims have come forward after many years of silence. As I stated earlier, victims were starting to come forward because of the response and support for the victims of Harvey Weinstein. But in the case of Moore, he denies this has ever happened, even though the number of victims, the support of some politicians in Congress, and even the president's daughter Ivanka, have spoken out condemning his actions.
The problem these victims are now facing is the fact that some Republican senators have openly stated that they would rather have Moore elected to congress just to maintain control of that seat rather than have him step out of the election and risk having it go to a democrat. This should tell you what kind of people are already in congress if that is their line of thinking. The sad part about this is that a lot of people who are voting in Alabama feel the same way and he may still get elected. So how does this make the victims who have held this in for so long and finally have come forward feel?
First of all, he is a judge, so that means these people held this in because they knew there was probably no recourse for them through the court system in Alabama. It has been pointed out that Moore has a known history of preying on young girls, even to the point that he was allegedly banned from some shopping malls. That report has not been confirmed as the malls in question say they did not keep records from that far back. While the public believes the victims of the other celebrity assaults, the people of Alabama are not willing to believe these women.
But there is one thing that stands out in these accusations against Moore, and that is how he met his wife. He admits that he first noticed his wife when he was 30 and she was a 16 year old performing at a dance recital. He says she stood out to him and he never forgot her name. This account closely relates to the stories that his accusers recount of their encounters with Moore. The main difference is his accusers say that he approached them or had some sort of physical contact with them, while he claims he never approached his future wife and formerly introduced himself to her 8 years later.
Then came the endorsement from another self proclaimed molester who himself is facing accusations of sexual misconduct. That would be Donald Trump. He had 16 women accuse him of sexual misconduct before being elected as president a year ago. Donald has said that since Moore has denied these allegations, and they cannot be brought to any kind of legal action, they basically didn't happen. That is pretty much what happened with his accusers. The statue of limitations has run out so he considers that it never happened, even though he admitted it in an interview that played out before America during the election.
The one thing that Donald is proud to point out as his major accomplishment as president is the number of judges he is appointing. Every week it seems like we learn of something that he does that violates the laws of the Constitution, but yet their is nothing done to this man. He has pardoned a sheriff who was about to be sentenced for violation of human rights. He has now endorsed a judge who is accused of being a pedophile because he needs that senate seat to pass more laws that will benefit criminals and the rich. Is he appointing judges that he knows will support his illegal activity?
This is a perfect example of why so many victims remain silent. Not only are they embarrassed, but the courts nor the voters are supporting them. According to most news reports, these are not new allegations against Moore. Even his supporters will tell you he has been accused most of his career of approaching young girls while in his 30's. It's just that recently these accusers have felt that the climate was finally right to get justice for their years of pain. It has to be even more painful when the Attorney General Jeff Sessions, who is from Alabama and the one whose seat Moore is trying to fill in the senate believes the women as well. So you have the Attorney General and the president's daughter condemning this man, and you have the president supporting him. With this endorsement from Trump, I'm sure more victims will start refusing to report being abused. What a country.