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The Story I Never Told Anyone

Updated on August 1, 2016

The Story Starts

The story took place about 63 years ago, it is about child sexual abuse and other abuse.Some of the names have been changed to protect those that may still be living. This is a true story as I remember Kathy . This has never been published on any site. Kathy passed away in 2004, from a major heart attack. This is my way of remembering a beautiful person. Kathy was born in 1949, during the worst snow storm in Chicago. The lake effect snow was coming down hard. The temperature was in the 30's. The car was still very cold when Kathy's mom got in the old 1946 black Buick. Her mother had planned her cesarean birth on Dec.1st, but she just could not stand the pain.

Kathy's early recollection was when she was three years old. She was at home with her sister Joe and her father. She was in the bathroom with her father, and he told her he had a secret and it would be just between the two of them. Don't tell anyone, but Kathy remembers trying to tell her 6 year old sister. Her father had sex with her. He hurt her very bad,but she did not tell her mother and never mentioned it again. Her father told her she must never tell anyone. She, went to pee and it burned so bad it felt like a fire.

Three years pass and she is now in the 2nd grade. She went to a Catholic school and was very well disciplined. She is very afraid of the nuns and the adult teachers. She went to school the next morning and got into trouble because she could not concentrate on what the teacher was saying, Kathy became a very introverted child and stayed a loner.

A Child Should Be Happy

Kids enjoy a day at camp.
Kids enjoy a day at camp.
Children having fun at party.
Children having fun at party.
Smiles mean we are happy.
Smiles mean we are happy.

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It Just Continued On

The child molesting continued on year after year. Kathy is 9 years old and will be working on the farm with me. She will work from 6 AM to 8:30 AM, rush in the house and take a shower, eat breakfast, and then the farmer's wife would take take them to school. Usually, the working kids would be asleep by 9:00 AM and the teacher could hear one of them snoring at their desk. Most of the teachers overlooked the working kids. I think those teachers really knew they had to work.


The Mean Teacher

Then there was Mrs. Hardy, who overlooked nothing in her classroom. I swear she looked like an old pig. Now, that I think about it,she probably was between 50 and 59 years old. She would wear a black dress and black stockings. She was not a nun but she never wore any colorful cloths. She would lean over the kid's desk to talk to us individually and we all gagged to ourselves. Her breath smelled like rotten eggs. There was no sleeping in her classroom, and poor Kathy fell asleep at her desk. Mrs Hardy had a 3/4 inch thick wood paddle she kept hung on the wall. We could hear from the hallway the whacks that Kathy got for falling asleep. She put her head on the old wooden desk and just sobbed.

It was now art time and the kids all took out their bar of soap. Mrs. Joyce was teaching us how to make different things out of our bar of soap. Mrs. Joyce walked over to Kathy's desk and asked if there was any way she could help her and please tell her what was wrong. Kathy just cried and never spoke to her. I walked with Kathy to the big old yellow bus and she seemed a little better.

Major Facts

  • Never allow sexual abuse or any abuse, keep your eyes on the child
  • Teach your child when they can understand
  • Love them and build them up
  • Check in with your kids often
  • Know who the people are in their life



The Visit

Kathy lived down the road from me so we played together after school. I knew something was really wrong in that house. When the father ate his supper Kathy had to sit at the table next to her sister Joe. She would tell me she hated her dad. She told me he was a big fat jerk. He was much older than her mother. Kathy would tell me he was a 100 years older than her mom. Truth is her father was born in 1905, and her mother in 1927, That would make him about 22 years older.

Kathy told me about Halloween and how she hated it. It seems in 1959, she came over to my house to eat supper with her family. We were to go trick or treating in town after supper. In the middle of supper her father told her she needed to check the furnace. She finally told me the story how he brutally raped her in the bathroom. They both came back to the house and finished supper. Another time, he had raped her on my plastic swimming pool in our back yard. I confess, being 9 years old I did not really understand what was going on.

Kathy came to visit me in 1989 and believe it or not she wanted to discuss all of our past working on the farm. I wish I would have been smarter and wiser but I was not, and did not know what to do. One thing I did witness and remember was he use to tell us there is no God, as he laughed hysterically. Never really bothered me, I had heard this before at my house. I was 9 years old at the time and did not know what to do or say. I am sorry I did not help her, I did not know how. I did get the chance to tell her when she came to visit,

Famous Quotes About Children

People from ever walk of life have something to say about children. These famous quotes about children are very interesting.

God views children as especially important.

"A person's a person, no matter how small." Dr. Seuss

"Adults are just outdated children." Dr. Seuss

"There can be no keener revelation of a society's soul than the way in which it treats its children." Nelson Mandela, Former President of South Africa

"Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them." Lady bird Johnson, Former First Lady of the United States

The Wounded Heart

The book is about sexual abuse and all the sadness it can cause. Sexual abuse can cause a relationship to break down due to lack of trust. This can cause a lot of grief, guilt, and shame. Sexual abuse can also destroy a persons dreams. Those dreams can never become reality for some abused people.

Hush

The book, Hush is very useful to help people who have suffered from sexual abuse. This book is rated very highly as one of the best.

I Wrote This Story

This is a true story that I wrote about growing up with Kathy. It should not be copied by others. Stella Vadakin. Please do not copy/ August 1, 2016.

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    Shyron E Shenko 3 weeks ago from Texas

    Stella, I read this before and I feel the same hurt in my heart for your, I am glad that Kathy had you as a friend and I am thankful that you shared this with your friends on HP.

    I have escaped many attempts at abuse, one of those times "The Last Hoedown" that was scary for me and my cousin who was a few months older than I.

    I cried both times I read this, no child should have to suffer abuse of any kind, but sexual abuse is the worst and most personal.

    I hope your friend Kathy found peace and happiness in her life.

    Blessings always

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    stella vadakin 8 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Billybuc, Thanks for the comment. I have no use for these kind of people either. Have a great day!

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    Bill Holland 8 months ago from Olympia, WA

    I hate child abuse and there are few things I truly hate in life. I try to be understanding of all, but child abusers do not get that break from me. Thank you for telling this story.

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    stella vadakin 8 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Anita Hasch, Thanks for reading my hub. Will be looking forward to reading more of your hubs.

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    Anita Hasch 8 months ago from Port Elizabeth

    Thank you. It takes courage to speak out.

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    stella vadakin 8 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Nadine May, Thanks for reading. Stella

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    stella vadakin 8 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Nadine May, Thanks for reading. Stella

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    stella vadakin 8 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Kiss and Tales, You are so right we will all be judged by our God. I have no use for people who hurt children and give them a life sentence of pain. I get so very tired of hearing these stories of abuse. This one was so sad because she had such a hard time overcoming this pain. Thanks for reading, Stella

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    Nadine May 8 months ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

    Oh what a sad story. Thanks for sharing. It's often very hard to understand why some children have to suffer so much. Glad she had a friend in you.

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    The Stages Of ME 8 months ago

    This is a very sad truthful story of lost childhoods and abuse. Thankful that this child of God is no longer suffering in this world. Blessing to you as you recollect this pain and share the real pain that many experienced and are continuing to suffer through today. Blessings to you

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    Anita Hasch 8 months ago from Port Elizabeth

    Very sad story. One wonders what goes on in such a fathers head. He obviously has no love for his child.

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    Kiss andTales 8 months ago

    Thank you stella much for sharing this story !

    Its a great deed of courage to address this subject , especially if it was confidential.

    So many children and even now have been sexually abused , not only from relatives , but

    Many so called seem innocent groups, be careful also in religion, be care boy and girl scout clubs, be careful alowing sleep overs of peoples homes you know so little about.

    Innocence is taken from a child so soon that it so wicked and evil behind the act. Watch for internet that a child should be monitored.

    Sex is everywhere and it too is contaminated

    It is abused and people abuse with it.

    So the bottom line is your hub is an informative awarness of this problem .

    Be their to protect your childrens heart mind and body , And for the victims you can heal !

    Its a matter of knowing that no one gets away with nothing , we all will be judge by the supreme court of the universe.

    The Judge is out creator.

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    stella vadakin 8 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Shyron, thanks for reading this hub. The truth is I wish I never had to write such a story, but it was true and I hope this stops others from being abused like Kathy. It is funny when the first sentence is a lie. We are not all created equal, just look at Kathy. Thanks Stella

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    Shyron E Shenko 8 months ago from Texas

    Oh Stella, this hurts my heart, I am so glad Kathy came to visit you and talked with you. No child would have known what to do in such a situation.

    Thank you for helping to bringing awareness to this problem. I hope that children can find and read this and learn that they can go and tell someone what is being done to them.

    Stella this could have been me or my cousin, not from our father, but a stranger who came to the “Last Hoedown” if not for our grandfather.

    That was scary and yet our grandfather did not tell us what to do, if something like this happened again, and he should have, there were other times for me but without success on the predator’s part.

    Once a man chased me home and again I was fortunate I out ran him, and another time when we were on the beach and a couple of older boy tried to get me to come into a hole they dug; and the time when the boy who lived across the street from us tried to get me to go into the corn field, he said to play hide and seek, but he ran home when I told him I needed to ask my mom if it was okay, but I did not tell her, because she would have gone over to their house and confronted his parents, I even remember his name David K.

    Unfortunately this kind of thing happens all the time, and I think “why doesn’t God intervene?” I am not blaming God, but still that is what I think.

    Blessings and hugs my dear friend

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    stella vadakin 10 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Missy Smith, Thank you for reading and your comments about my hub. I hope it helps someone else. It was a very sad story, but I am glad I wrote it. I really am sick of this kind of stuff. I hope now it is not as prevalent as it was back in those days. Thank you , Stella

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    Missy Smith 10 months ago from Florida

    This makes me sad, and it is the type of thing that carries guilt. I believe you needed to tell this story Stella, because you realized years later what you did not understand then, and you wanted to release guilt from that. I hope it worked in setting your mind at ease.

    I'm glad you had the chance to see Kathy again before she passed. One more thing, you really must not blame yourself for not understanding back then; you were also a child. The reason I'm saying this is, because I felt, as I was reading your words, that you had experienced some extreme regret through the years. No child you nor Kathy should feel regret about anything that took place back then.

    Unfortunately, this type of thing still goes on to this day, and so, that makes this story of yours just that much more important for others to read. I hope someone that is experiencing a lifestyle such as Kathy's comes across this article and finds the bravery to seek out someone they can trust for help. It's so important!

    Thanks for being brave, Stella. You wrote a private and personal hub that needed to be shared, and even though this story is deeply sad, it is also very informative and eye-opening. Great Job!

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    Graham Lee 10 months ago from Lancashire. England.

    Hi Stella. A sad story indeed, all to often this situation is brushed under the carpet or simply ignored. It brings to mind the old adage; the world is a wonderful place it's the people in it that spoil it. These criminals should be jailed for life when caught out.

    Graham.

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    Audrey Hunt 10 months ago from Nashville Tn.

    This story just breaks my heart. You've brought child abuse out in the open and Kathy's story will hopefully help others in some way. Children are so innocent. I pray that one day that inocense will be protected.

    Thanks.

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    Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 11 months ago from Philippines

    I am so sorry to hear that this was about you. Thank you for sharing this part of your life. Someone is going to read this, and it will make that person stronger and better because you had the courage to write it.

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    stella vadakin 11 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Fpherj48, Thanks for reading and your comments. I am afraid it was a different time and world. It was a mans world, kids did not really count much. I like today much better. Thanks, Stella

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    Paula 11 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    This is a very sad and horrific story! No child should ever have to deal with abuse of any kind. The sick, demented adults who would cause a child to be harmed in any way should face the toughest of penalties for their egregious acts.

    I could just cry for your little friend. It's good you have brought this story to the public. These crimes have been shrouded in secrecy for far too long.......Paula

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    stella vadakin 11 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Nell, Thanks for reading my story. Thank God those days are over.

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    Nell Rose 11 months ago from England

    Hi, this is terrible isn't it? something children should never have to experience. there should always be someone who listens to them and protects them, thanks for sharing, nell

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    stella vadakin 11 months ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

    Thank you, grand old lady, Suhail and my dog, Larry Rankin,Mel Carriere, Faith Reaper, it means so much to see your comments. I tried to tell the story using those same words. The whole story is true and much was left out. The next generation I hope will be more educated. Thank you so much.

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    Faith Reaper 11 months ago from southern USA

    Stella, this is heartbreaking to know that a child, or any child, experiences such in this life. Children are supposed to be children and be happy and then when their world is turned upside down with no one to turn to, is so wrong. All of us need to keep our eyes open and stand in the gap for all children who are showing signs of possibly abuse, and then step up to help that child if there are signs.

    No child needs to be left alone to suffer in this horrific manner.

    I pray Kathy was able to get the help she needs to heal.

    God bless you for sharing this to bring awareness to the signs of child abuse.

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    Mel Carriere 11 months ago from San Diego California

    Horrible story. It must have been burning in your soul all of these years. The guilt here falls upon the adults, not the children who knew. Children are brought up to trust adults because they are supposed to protect them, not abuse them. Children don't have the knowledge to correctly interpret these actions. Adults do, but apparently in this case the adults surrounding this beast of a man knew, and did nothing.

    It might be years afterward, the horse is already long out of the barn, but stories like these continue to be relevant. We need to know the signs, so we can help protect the kids.

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    Larry Rankin 11 months ago from Oklahoma

    Powerful and sad. An important work.

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    Suhail Zubaid aka Clark Kent 11 months ago from Mississauga, ON

    Stella,

    This is just so saddening! Your excellent share had tears in my eyes. Children, they say, are a reflection of God. They deserve a life of happiness. I think the present times are better than the past for the stories like these were not even shared and no body even knew what child abuse was and that it ever existed back in the past. Future, I believe is going to be even better as our next generation will be much more educated and informed.

    Thank you for sharing such a sensitive hub as this one.

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    Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 11 months ago from Philippines

    This is a very sad story, yet helpful in informing others about what they can do for abused children. My heart goes out for Kathy. May God embrace her and keep her in his powerful and protective arms.

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