The Story I Never Told Anyone
The Story Starts
The story took place about 63 years ago, it is about child sexual abuse and other abuse.Some of the names have been changed to protect those that may still be living. This is a true story as I remember Kathy . This has never been published on any site. Kathy passed away in 2004, from a major heart attack. This is my way of remembering a beautiful person. Kathy was born in 1949, during the worst snow storm in Chicago. The lake effect snow was coming down hard. The temperature was in the 30's. The car was still very cold when Kathy's mom got in the old 1946 black Buick. Her mother had planned her cesarean birth on Dec.1st, but she just could not stand the pain.
Kathy's early recollection was when she was three years old. She was at home with her sister Joe and her father. She was in the bathroom with her father, and he told her he had a secret and it would be just between the two of them. Don't tell anyone, but Kathy remembers trying to tell her 6 year old sister. Her father had sex with her. He hurt her very bad,but she did not tell her mother and never mentioned it again. Her father told her she must never tell anyone. She, went to pee and it burned so bad it felt like a fire.
Three years pass and she is now in the 2nd grade. She went to a Catholic school and was very well disciplined. She is very afraid of the nuns and the adult teachers. She went to school the next morning and got into trouble because she could not concentrate on what the teacher was saying, Kathy became a very introverted child and stayed a loner.
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It Just Continued On
The child molesting continued on year after year. Kathy is 9 years old and will be working on the farm with me. She will work from 6 AM to 8:30 AM, rush in the house and take a shower, eat breakfast, and then the farmer's wife would take take them to school. Usually, the working kids would be asleep by 9:00 AM and the teacher could hear one of them snoring at their desk. Most of the teachers overlooked the working kids. I think those teachers really knew they had to work.
The Mean Teacher
Then there was Mrs. Hardy, who overlooked nothing in her classroom. I swear she looked like an old pig. Now, that I think about it,she probably was between 50 and 59 years old. She would wear a black dress and black stockings. She was not a nun but she never wore any colorful cloths. She would lean over the kid's desk to talk to us individually and we all gagged to ourselves. Her breath smelled like rotten eggs. There was no sleeping in her classroom, and poor Kathy fell asleep at her desk. Mrs Hardy had a 3/4 inch thick wood paddle she kept hung on the wall. We could hear from the hallway the whacks that Kathy got for falling asleep. She put her head on the old wooden desk and just sobbed.
It was now art time and the kids all took out their bar of soap. Mrs. Joyce was teaching us how to make different things out of our bar of soap. Mrs. Joyce walked over to Kathy's desk and asked if there was any way she could help her and please tell her what was wrong. Kathy just cried and never spoke to her. I walked with Kathy to the big old yellow bus and she seemed a little better.
- Never allow sexual abuse or any abuse, keep your eyes on the child
- Teach your child when they can understand
- Love them and build them up
- Check in with your kids often
- Know who the people are in their life
Kathy lived down the road from me so we played together after school. I knew something was really wrong in that house. When the father ate his supper Kathy had to sit at the table next to her sister Joe. She would tell me she hated her dad. She told me he was a big fat jerk. He was much older than her mother. Kathy would tell me he was a 100 years older than her mom. Truth is her father was born in 1905, and her mother in 1927, That would make him about 22 years older.
Kathy told me about Halloween and how she hated it. It seems in 1959, she came over to my house to eat supper with her family. We were to go trick or treating in town after supper. In the middle of supper her father told her she needed to check the furnace. She finally told me the story how he brutally raped her in the bathroom. They both came back to the house and finished supper. Another time, he had raped her on my plastic swimming pool in our back yard. I confess, being 9 years old I did not really understand what was going on.
Kathy came to visit me in 1989 and believe it or not she wanted to discuss all of our past working on the farm. I wish I would have been smarter and wiser but I was not, and did not know what to do. One thing I did witness and remember was he use to tell us there is no God, as he laughed hysterically. Never really bothered me, I had heard this before at my house. I was 9 years old at the time and did not know what to do or say. I am sorry I did not help her, I did not know how. I did get the chance to tell her when she came to visit,
Famous Quotes About Children
People from ever walk of life have something to say about children. These famous quotes about children are very interesting.
God views children as especially important.
"A person's a person, no matter how small." Dr. Seuss
"Adults are just outdated children." Dr. Seuss
"There can be no keener revelation of a society's soul than the way in which it treats its children." Nelson Mandela, Former President of South Africa
"Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them." Lady bird Johnson, Former First Lady of the United States
- 10 Signs of Child Abuse -Joyful Heart Foundation
The mission of the Joyful Heart Foundation is to heal, educate and empower survivors of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse, and to shed light into the darkness that surrounds these issues.
The Wounded Heart
The book is about sexual abuse and all the sadness it can cause. Sexual abuse can cause a relationship to break down due to lack of trust. This can cause a lot of grief, guilt, and shame. Sexual abuse can also destroy a persons dreams. Those dreams can never become reality for some abused people.
The book, Hush is very useful to help people who have suffered from sexual abuse. This book is rated very highly as one of the best.
I Wrote This Story
This is a true story that I wrote about growing up with Kathy. It should not be copied by others. Stella Vadakin. Please do not copy/ August 1, 2016.