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The callousness of “beauty” writers and why they get away with it.

Updated on January 21, 2014

I have never met a Veteran of Foreign wars advocate banning people from free speech.

I have never met a Jewish person that chastised me as over the top for suggesting that censorship was the beginning of Hitler's regime/
I have never met a Jewish person that chastised me as over the top for suggesting that censorship was the beginning of Hitler's regime/ | Source

We are not talking about a health and fitness article.

(because those folks we call health fitness Nazis -- heaven forbid)

We are talking about an article about how women can make themselves more beautiful. Strange how I got there. I have problems with the callouses on my feet splitting during extreme dry weather. And I live in the desert so it is common. So I typed in callouses on my handy dandy search engine. And because I write here usually the first few suggestions were to hubs written here. Which is cool by me. And the one I went to happened to be a horror story for me.

It might sound strange but it is true for me.

In here you will find the words that "freedom is just another word for nothin left to lose"

The women in my life.

I have been married twice and both my wives have had plenty of callouses on their feet. Both are gorgeous and very different, let me explain a bit.

My first wife was a debutante in a major Southwestern City. So she is drop down and catch your breath pretty along with being very sociable and quite smart and accomplished. But she was a Tom Boy. And she tagged along a lot with guys since she was a small fry. And she could walk barefoot in the woods or on pavement in 110 degree heat. And then for 25 years she worked on her feet as a severely emotional disturbed children’s teacher. (I wrote that funny for the double meaning after all she is my ex ;-)

So she had and has callouses on her feet.

My current wife was and is certainly not anything of a Tom Boy. But she was born and bred in a savagely war torn country and it was common for her growing up to not have shoes.

So she had and has callouses on her feet.

I have two older adult children daughters and they a Tom Boys just like their mom. And they are both very pretty women. And you guessed it, they have callouses on their feet.

All three of my big sisters have and had callouses on their feet. One being a floor Registered Nurse in a hospital, one being an avid golfer and kayaker and one being a prodigious hiker/walker.

So I know a bit about women and their feet and callouses.

Yikes I just thought about it and I have rubbed +mom all those ladies feet and poured water into their soaking feet --- Hey men take a hint and do that for your gals 14 to 114

Yes Ma'm (we say that) Those far off rocks are six miles away and at 13 I tracked me a bear that fer, thanks be to God I did not catch. But

If we all grew up the same I reckon we should all talk the same. But I would never hurt a young woman's feelings just to sell my stuff.
If we all grew up the same I reckon we should all talk the same. But I would never hurt a young woman's feelings just to sell my stuff. | Source

But I also know about their sensitivity.

Now I understand that to sell beauty products they use women models so that women can “be like them if they buy the product”. Weird and essentially harmless I suppose. And believe me I know about how women want to be beautiful no matter who or where they are, and why not? And I know that certain insecurities exist and sensitivities exist and that missteps regarding commenting on beauty and “defects” can be very harmful. Especially to young tweens, teens and twenties this is dangerous stuff to egos and healthy self-esteem. I just assume that between women it is actually even a little bit more sensitive – well I do not assume, I know.

So there I was reading the article and getting nothing from it as it was poorly written and added nothing but obvious advice that a 10 year old knows. But I finished it and noted the author is someone I really do not like. She is one of those types that think everyone should write just like her – boring as hell but good for an a grade in Jr. High School – certainly no punctuation errors and no way anything about social ills or quality of meaningful things. This is a straight for profit money making exercise for only the writer's benefit.

Please HP ban this. It likens our fight against slavery as our fight against the Devil. That is just too ugly to suggest.

So here was the horror.

In a mocking manner she began her article suggesting that women with callouses on their feet were Hags from Hell. Of course twitter titter and giggle. But I know how that kind of sarcasm cuts as deep into the psyche of a young woman as anything other women can do. And there were further comments suggesting that to fail to follow these beauty “techniques” would result in an inferior less beautiful woman.

Now if any of my sisters or daughters were to have read that at a time when they were still Tom Boys and beginning to question their value as a woman and starting to feel self-conscious it would have just thrown them for a loop and then some.

Can you imagine the carelessness and just plain spitefulness of telling other women they are not worthy of beauty because their feet have callouses because they work for a living on their feet or a child subjected to this?

Do you care one bit?

Do you really think it is fine to ban "offensive" language and so shut your mouth, or are you just to busy to be bothered with the rights that make you a living?

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Here is the irony and it is almost palpably funny

This woman was in a cadre of writers who got me banned for content of my writing being unreasonable and over the top hurtful. My mistake was using the almost cliché’ comparison of censorship with tyranny. (talk about boring and yes embarrassing because it is so cliché’) And mine was relative to actual social matters of importance. And I write here 'not for profit'.

Another strange coincidence.

Keep in mind that this woman is making money off of seriously socially flawed and institutionally instigated attacks on people who are different than her. (at least we assume she does nothing to cause callouses in the first place) But at this same time as she gets me banned for objecting to censorship – yes that is strange.

This guy is trying to get a whole organization disbanded because they likened his oratory skills to Hitler (strangely that is a compliment although backhanded)

http://theday.com/article/20140120/NWS01/301209946/1018 This guy was so incensed by some silly cartoon type likeness on FB that he damned near called for this lady’s arrest. Just like here on HP.

Now this is exactly how it works in a regime attempting to limit free speech and the common tactic is to get others to block it for you. The book burnings originally in Germany, the cross-burnings in US South and the Flag burnings and Bible and Koran burnings are sympolic and not done by the government. For over one year over 100 Americans were held captive in a land named Iran. It was not done by the government but by those who stood to profit by the act. The people merely stood by in all these instances and or were banned by regimes.

The regime of today is corporate and political gain. Again let me remind you that the lady in this article and myself were not profiting from our remarks. But those who argued for censor were both profiting by their actions and profiting in attacking us.

Sometimes we say “ask not what this country can do for you, but what you can do for this country” Do we really need to place politicians and beauty writers abov

These people are harming our country by using their English education to deny others rights that this country was built upon.


More later

Veteran of two wars for Freedom, and by God I am letting him down.

Our government and corporations are sponsoring and attack on free speech yet sponsoring also free reign commercial speak.
Our government and corporations are sponsoring and attack on free speech yet sponsoring also free reign commercial speak. | Source

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      I'm beside you Eric. Speak up for what you believe is right. There is too much pressure on young women to conform to a flawed view of what is beautiful in our society, and I agree some people on here seem to write purely with $$ signs in their eyes judging by the topics and content of their hubs.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      I'm beside you Eric. Speak up for what you believe is right. There is too much pressure on young women to conform to a flawed view of what is beautiful in our society, and I agree some people on here seem to write purely with $$ signs in their eyes judging by the topics and content of their hubs.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jodah, mine is a lonely road with no cause celebrate'. There is no money in it and I dare say no peace or piece of mind. I just feel strong that verbage and writing should not be an area to be taken lightly andwe have found no machines to monitor it. Corporations have yet to deal with this and HP is behind the mark using amateur censors with agendas that call themselves monitors Ask for a list of these folk and see how far you get. Yet they determine that denegrating young women is fine. But political and religious statements are wrong. (my wife was a monitor in school for communist Vietnam back 30 years ago - my house gets the issue)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I reckon some folk just do not live with ladies that act normal and cry normal. They remind me of those old posters of dead outlaws when they put silver dollars in their eyes for the photographs. Just a bit off real. I swear I got to chew on this some more before swallowing or spittin out.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Eric, you have pointed about a great malady prevalent in our society as a whole that helds a stereotype set of creteria for beauty. I have watched some advertisements that glorify fair color over dark one and I abhor these kinds of advertisements from the bottom of my heart. So, I hold that no trace of such depiction of beauty should be propagated by anyone however mighty and big s/he/it might be. In fact, everyone of us is special and unique irrespective of color,form, stature and so on. If we narrow down our taste and decor to some our own limited beliefs and biased outlooks, we are beyond the grace of mechanism and functioning of our minds. I strongly wish this hub to be read by the whole humanity in order to appreciate the real attributes of beauty and grandeur inherent in our daughters, sisters and mothers. Thankyou for highlighting such an crucial issue.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Harishprasad, Some how it is PC to suggest any deviation from the "ideal" look is bad. I think that is really a bad thing.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      More people are aware of the need to teach our young girls that beauty is from within and that is what is important. We can thank society for anorexia, bulimia, and many other self-imposed ailments.

      Freedom of speech, yes, perfect beauty, no.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      It is interesting that we allow such egregious conduct in one area and are hypersensitive in another. Maybe it is just my priorities but it sure seems a bit upside down these days.

      Thank you for your encouragement.

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      Victoria Van Ness 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

      Eric, you seem very passionate about your topic. I'm actually kind of scared to answer your poll and not really sure how to. It doesn't seem to have a right answer. lol

      I personally do not like how women in advertising are air-brushed perfect. It obviously doesn't affect me being a tom boy myself who doesn't wear makeup, fix her hair or hardly even wear jewelry.

      But for those teenage girls, or those that are more sensitive to what advertising suggests, I think it's horrible. However, if you haven't noticed, they are now including more normal women of all hair types, skin types, and weights in many areas of advertising.

      Some companies are holding strong to the anorexic models for their advertising, but so many more are toning it down for the mental and emotional health of our countries young girls.

      Hopefully this will change even more over the years. We don't have to be perfect to be beautiful, but it would be nice to have realistic fixes for those things we need help with. :)

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you for that wonderful addition to my humble hub. I like all you had to say.

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      Susan 3 years ago from India

      Great hub. Very well written. Voted up.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Susan. Nowadays it seems if you promote a product or buying something any thing you say is OK. Promote a right or human dignity and it is "hate speech". Well let us at least keep pointing it out.

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